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Thank You Question- How long to wait for people that didn't give a gift?

jchristeljchristel member
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We have a friend who lives at home with his parents and all of them attended the wedding.  I just finished our thank you cards and we realized the parents did not give us a gift. I have the thank you for the friend's gift all ready to go, but don't want to send his thank you and not send his parents thank you (for coming) since they are at the same address. I don't know what to do.  How long do/did you wait to send "thank you for coming" (no gift) thank yous?  I have a handful that didn't give us a gift and I don't know when its safe to assume they are not giving us anything.  It's only been 6 weeks since the wedding, so I think it might be too soon and don't want to insult anyone who was planning on sending us something but hasn't yet.  But at the same time I don't want to insult guests who gave us gifts by delaying their thank you notes.  Not to mention I want to put them away never to look at them again :)
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  • Laurms15Laurms15 member
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    edited December 2011
    I would just send the thank you for coming notes now. You can also check your registry to make sure that there is nothing that was taken off the list that you still haven't recieved. In the event that they send a gift you can always send another note.
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    I just sent them all at once.

    Out of the people who didn't give us a gift (maybe 5-7?), only one sent it after the wedding. But she sent it during the time where I was writing out the thank you cards, so it was a non-issue. Otherwise I would've sent a "Thanks for coming!" card, and followed it with a "Thanks for the gift" card when we received her gift.
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  • jchristeljchristel member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks!  Problem solved.  DH saw the friend last night and the first thing he said was, "%$#%$  I forgot to bring my parents' gift!  They left it out for me to give you tonight and I left it on the counter"

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  • stapletondstapletond
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    edited December 2011
    I'm not sending "thank you for coming" notes.  I'm only writing a thank you for those that gave a gift.  That is the purpose for the thank you note anyway.
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  • Nicole7477Nicole7477 member
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    edited December 2011
    I can NOT imagine people attending your wedding and not giving a gift!!  That's just ridiculous.
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  • jchristeljchristel member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_thank-question-long-wait-people-didnt-give-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:9419c419-3231-4033-b7df-ce7bfb73d7ebPost:f2ab4509-f1bf-44ee-a1ab-10552e565762">Re: Thank You Question- How long to wait for people that didn't give a gift?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I can NOT imagine people attending your wedding and not giving a gift!!  That's just ridiculous.
    Posted by Nicole7477[/QUOTE]

    <div>It happens!</div>
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