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WWYD - RE: Choosing Bridesmaids
My FI and I are inviting a little over 100 people to our wedding, so we will probably have around 80 or so that come.
Originally, I planned on having my sister as my MOH and 2 close friends as BMs. After talking to my mom and FI, we decided to add his sisters and my brother to the wedding party - bring it up for 4 BM + 1 Junior BM and 4 GM.
I have another friend that I am close with and am debating adding to the wedding party. I didnt want to add her originally because I thought we should keep the WP small, because our guest list is fairly small. But, I really am close with her and would like to add her, I just dont know what to do.
FI isnt sure if he wants to add another person, and I certainly dont think he should add someone just to make it more even.
Would it be ok to have 5 BM + Junior BM with only 4 GM?
Originally, I planned on having my sister as my MOH and 2 close friends as BMs. After talking to my mom and FI, we decided to add his sisters and my brother to the wedding party - bring it up for 4 BM + 1 Junior BM and 4 GM.
I have another friend that I am close with and am debating adding to the wedding party. I didnt want to add her originally because I thought we should keep the WP small, because our guest list is fairly small. But, I really am close with her and would like to add her, I just dont know what to do.
FI isnt sure if he wants to add another person, and I certainly dont think he should add someone just to make it more even.
Would it be ok to have 5 BM + Junior BM with only 4 GM?
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Re: WWYD - RE: Choosing Bridesmaids
[QUOTE]Uneven sides are perfectly fine. <strong> That is kind of a big wedding party though for a small-ish wedding, IMO.
</strong>Posted by andyandhillary[/QUOTE]
80-100 people isn't really that smallish.
And 4-5 attendants is just fine. Just because you don't want to invite the world to your wedding doesn't mean you can't still have more than 1 or 2 friends stand up with you.
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[QUOTE]Uneven sides are perfectly fine. That is kind of a big wedding party though for a small-ish wedding, IMO.
Posted by andyandhillary[/QUOTE]
I agree with this.
Do you have readers for your ceremony? If you don't want to add her, you can always ask her to read something.
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I agree that 80 - 100 people is not that small, but according to a lot of catering halls I have been to, it is. 100 person minimum has been pretty standard...
I think I will ask her, and be ok with an uneven WP. And if FI decides to ask another person, thats ok too. I know he has been debating a few people, but isn't entirely sure.
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[QUOTE]My fiance and I are having a small wedding too. People have commented that I am going to have more people in my wedding than as guests! I don't care though. We are inviting 130 people, probably 90 will show. I have 7 bridesmaids, 7 groomsmen, 4 junior, 3 flower girls:), 1 ring b, and a junior groomsmen. However, i come from a large family, and my bridesmaids are mostly my sisters (except one). It will be fine if you have 5 and he has 4, even with a small wedding party.
Posted by playazsweetness[/QUOTE]
Yikes. And Yowza. Almost 1/3 of your guests, approx. are in the wedding party? That does seems excessive.
ETA: okay, my math was off. Still, out of 90 guests, 23 people in the wp.
Idk...there are just so many decisions to be made when planning a wedding. It's like having another full time job!
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however, remember that the more people in your party = more expense. think flowers, RD meals, hair, gifts, etc. that is purposely why we kept ours to one attendant on each side, we simply couldnt afford a huge WP.
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Uneven bridal parties are perfectly fine. We had one, and to be honest, I think our pics looked better: me in the center, 3 guys in black suits on one side, 3 girls in purple on the other. It's a really egocentric reason to like uneven BPs, but I'm actually glad it worked out that way.
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