So my fiance and I are paying for ou own wedding we are going to have a Stag and Shower to help raise money STRICTLY to pay for the wedding and nothing else.. My question to everyone is.. Does this mean no Bridal Shower?? some people say its to bold have both..I honestly do not know what to think.. I have not been involved in alot of these things.. I dont want to sound like im asking for too much but from what I understand you invite any and every body to the Stag and just close family/friends to the bridal shower..