Monday Wedding / Very Not Punctual MIL

libby2483 · March 2013

1) I would not attend a Monday wedding unless it was for my sister or my best friend. I wouldn't even attend a local one if I had to take any time off of work. If the wedding was local, and started after I was done with work (and had time to go home and get ready and then drive there), I would still not stay past 8:30 pm. I only have two personal/vacation days for the entire year, so I wouldn't use one to attend a wedding of someone unless it was my sister or best friend.

You can have a Monday wedding if you want, but realize that it will be inconvenient for many of your guests, and you will likely have a very high decline rate.

2) If your FMIL is late, she is late, and she misses the wedding. I would hope that she has enough motivation to be on time for her own child's wedding. If that's not the case, it is very rude to keep everyone else waiting. I would just be clear with her ahead of time that the wedding will start promptly at X time, and it will not be delayed.

lyndausvi · March 2013

I don't thing Monday is terrible idea. but don't make these silly excuses that people can just take off of work or it's better for OOT guests. It's not that simple.

FWIW - DH and I are NOT M-F workers. There are a ton of other professions that are not M-F 9-5 either. We all have to deal with the inconvenience of having to attend a Saturday wedding. It sucks to have to take time off and possibly lose pay. Even so I think it's little ridiculous to say if you received a Monday invite you would think they did not care about you. They picked a date that worked for the. You can either attend or not. Do not take the date so personal.

On that same note the OP has to realize it's not convenient for some of her guests and they might decline. She can't take it personal when people decline. And yes people will decline.

MsYeck · March 2013

I saw your marriage date is march 2014. I would move it to jaAnuary or February of 2014 for off season rates and do a Sunday ceremony. If you did a Sunday at 10 or 11 am wedding with a lunch/brunch the receptions facility and alcohol bill will likely be lower (or dry), lunch/bunch is usually lower in price and reception could be done by 4pm allowing people to fly out that evening. That way someone could fly in friday night or saturday morning, go to the rehearsal and wedding, get one late Sunday and not miss ANY work. I would not go to any wedding on a Monday unless it was a sibling or parent.

Knottie_22382102 · March 2013

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PhoneCardLady · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_monday-wedding-very-not-punctual-mil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:df81010e-d8e3-4a7e-a6eb-1bbef4cf528ePost:c1587887-d098-4bb8-8998-c8905a5f0391">Monday Wedding / Very Not Punctual MIL</a>:
[QUOTE]Second issue, my future MIL is almost incapable of being on time to anything. We arent talking 10 minutes late. She is almost an hour late for anything and what is a delicate way of handling this? My family is already annoyed with this and I will be so so mad if she is late and holds up the wedding.
Posted by viva465[/QUOTE]

My mom is the same way. When I was younger I said that I would tell her that the wedding is an hour earlier than what it actually was just so she could be on time. With her health the way it is now, it's more like 3 hours, if I don'telope first!

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