So after reading the post below about bridesmaid /groomsman and unasking someone I need advice ...
I know its bad etiqutte to unask someone but I'm just curious how I am supposed to handle this type of situation.
I asked my ladies early on most of them and I love them and want them there however, one girl has family medical problems and told me she may need to go back to her home country for several months and isn't even sure if she can make it to the wedding. I understand completely and if the situation were me would be the same way. However, when we went bridesmaid dress shopping she couldn't make it ok no biggie back in Nov. We talked and she had mentioned not being sure she could do it because of the issues. I told her wait on making any concrete decisions until we know more. Well its Dec dresses need to be ordered no later than Jan for allow time make, ship etc. I was talking to her normally about random stuff on fb and she was responding. As soon as I brought up the dress ordeal she signed off completely. She is a sweetheart and I know she has a lot going on so I'm really tempted to just talk with her and see what she wants to do. She doesn't want to hurt my feelings, so I've prepared a little speech please tell me what you think:
Given the situation with your family I think it might be best if you came to the wedding as a guest. I love you and your amazing friend but I don't want to burden you with additional stress during a time when your focus should be on family.
I feel horrible doing this but at the same time her family needs to be her focus and I don't want to bother her about the dress. Is this a bad idea? Any others?