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PMeg819
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Here's a Confession Post
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Re: Here's a Confession Post
I have mentioned the "Big D" word to DH once or twice (or 12) in the last year or so. BUT, since one of our couple friends has officially filed for divorce (a few weeks ago), DH has shown more effort in our relationship then I've ever seen. Methinks it was a little wakeup call for him.
I really just want to get pregnant and be done with it so I can get an IUD and shut the shop down.
And if one more person asks me, "If you have another boy, are you going to try for a girl?", I may punch them.
Side note - I wasn't fired from my last job. I quit due to the daily verbal abuse and extreme stress my boss inflicted on me (and my co-workers - half a dozen people quit at the same time). I was constantly told that I was only hired because my disability made the department look good and that I was constantely in danger of losing my job. He would tell me things like that my coworkers were uncomfortable working with me because I'm Epileptic (which I found out was total BS) He had a lot of fun abusing his power. After about 100 complaints to HR he was...GIVEN MORE POWER and responsibility and his boss was forced to work in another department because she ignored so many complaints that were considered human rights violations.
I also really want to get an embroidery attachment for the one machine, but it alone costs almost a thousand dollars, and I can't really justify spending more for an accessory than I spent on the machine.
Crap...I Mean Crafts
i never want another kid, ever. i do not miss infanthood. whenever i start to feel like i miss a stage where he was small, he has a tantrum of epic proportions, which makes me look forward to kinderyears.
also, we may be moving again soon, for permanence. it kind of sprung up as a surprise. i'll tell you how it went AFTER the move.
[QUOTE]I was thinking about Carann today and wondering if her kid was here and hoping the best for them. I don't know why I feel that needed a "confession," but I did.
Posted by 6fsn[/QUOTE]
Carrann's KU again?
Posted by Wzz[/QUOTE]
play on, playette. considering how his infancy nearly ended our marriage, neither dh nor i want to go through that again.
btw, i don't understand how all y'all afford more than one child. dh and i both make a pretty good living, but two kids would be a strain. maybe i need to hear more about your financial planning before i hear about y'alls "we're trying to have another kid" all casual-like. make it up if you have to.
kid is crazy, b.
[QUOTE]play on, playette. considering how his infancy nearly ended our marriage, neither dh nor i want to go through that again. <strong>btw, i don't understand how all y'all afford more than one child. dh and i both make a pretty good living, but two kids would be a strain</strong>. maybe i need to hear more about your financial planning before i hear about y'alls "we're trying to have another kid" all casual-like. make it up if you have to.
Posted by hmonkey[/QUOTE]
Word to that!
3 is over the top as far as expenses, as well as the fact I feel if the kids outnumber us they could stage a mutiny.
DH and I make decent money. We put a lot away in savings. For us, the second child is going to be diapers and childcare. We can afford the extra money each month as both of our cars are going to be paid off next year which frees up money for those expenses. We already have a carseat and all that jazz. There are a handful of things we'd buy but nothing terribly expensive. Sorry I didn't break the numbers down.
[QUOTE] i don't understand how all y'all afford more than one child. dh and i both make a pretty good living, but two kids would be a strain. Posted by hmonkey[/QUOTE]
we could manage financially with 2, but we'd have to cut back on all of the fun extras (vacations, shopping and the like)
I'm a big supporter of "one and done" - I know DK wants more. I forsee this causing some problems int he future. I don't want to go through pregnancy, risk preeclamsia again, or deal with a newborn. I really don;t understand what's so bad about being an only child. We'll be able to do so much more for her - more one-on-one attention, travel more, help more with educational costs, etc. if she's an only child than if we have 2.