To have or not to have...

Re: To have or not to have...

• TheFutureMrsB81 member

  

  January 2012

  No. I don't think so. I don't really want a bridal shower or even wanted to register. But, my mom made me. I think you should do what's right for you. Good luck!

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• kimberlykh member

  

  January 2012

  I think it is okay not to have one.  When/if someone offers, just let them know you'd rather not have one. 

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• AurorasEnvy

  

  January 2012

  You don't have to have one.  Or if you don't, it doesn't have to be a huge/fancy/catered event.  I am having 2 showers (different locales for each family) and my one shower is just going to be at FI's grandma's house with snacks.  Nothing extravagant.

  
  

  An hour isn't that long to travel - why don't you just travel to where all your girlfriends/family members are?

  
  

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• draggiefire member

  

  January 2012

  I'm not having a bridal shower. My family lives in TX while I'm here in VA. The only people that I could think of inviting to it would be my two closest friends (MOHs) that live up here with me. It's just not something I'm interested in having. My MOHs are insistant that I have a bachelorette type of thing though. Whether it be wild and crazy or something simple like a girls' day out type of thing. Honestly, I'm not really interested in that. I have a hard time as it is just getting everything planned for the ceremony and reception, that I have no idea what I'd want to do. Even though, they ask me about it. 

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• levanlaere

  

  January 2012

  I DO NOT want a shower. I keep telling my MOH that for one, I was previously married and I would feel akward inviting people again to a second shower. In addition, my family and my FI family are out of town and would not travel across the country to go to a shower.
  
  It was a sweet offer but it just makes me uncomfortable. She even told me not to worry because she will invite her friends to the shower...uh, I don't know them and they are not invited to the wedding....even more akward.
  

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• draggiefire member

  

  January 2012

  Those are my other reasons too, levanlaere. Previous marriage and feeling akward for people I don't know being invited along. We're entitled to our right to have one or not. We shouldn't have one just because it's tradition. So, Soon2beStaff, do whatever makes you feel comfortable.

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• gsg717

  

  January 2012

  I'm not having a shower. My mom offered to throw one, and it'd just be a dinner party at her house, but I declined and told her I'd rather her put her efforts into help with the wedding. She agreed with the idea. I think she was only offering to throw me the shower cuz she felt bad that I hadn't had one yet (FMIL had been talking about throwing one, but had not delivered) and one of my gf's was having hers that night.
  
  Truthfully, I'm happier without the shower b/c that's less to think about for me: guest list, thank you cards, $$ that could be put towards the wedding (my mom's heavily contributing to our wedding, I don't want her to put in more on something else), what to wear. If you'd rather go without, gracefully decline when someone offers to throw it. Or simply let them handle all the details and just tell you where to show up. There's no reason why you should be stressing over shower details like location and catering, leave that to the host.

  

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