Are you worried about 'No Shows'

Elizabeth80 · May 2012

Not to add to our worries since some of us are a week away but...are you concerned about no shows? I was lurking on the May 2012 board and it had me thinking about this especially since our final count is due to our reception hall this Saturday.

This is the thread that started the inqury:

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_anyone-have-a-lot-of-no-shows

kelsey+brandon · May 2012

For the people that had responded yes so far, I'm not!

ETA: After reading that post, now I'm nervous!! I would be so angry!!

lindseyann410 · May 2012

My sister had a large wedding (about 200), and about 30 people didn't show up. While it was frustrating, at least she wasn't paying per person.

I, however, will be paying per person, and I am terrified that people won't show up and we'll be out hundreds of dollars. I'd rather have people RSVP no than just not show up. So far, I have over half of my guests RSVP (about 125 people), and so far only 2 regrets (4 people). So, hopefully they all come like they say they will!

rasp.berry · May 2012

It's funny you bring this up, because I was lurking there this weekend and almost posted about the same topic here.

That would suck. Period. Money wasted down the drain.

I think this would be more of an issue with a larger wedding than we're having. With our guest list, we kept it to close friends and family and I honestly believe that none of them would just simply not show up. Plans may change last minute (boo!), but they would at least call to let us know instead of just not showing up the day of. At least, I hope so!

Elizabeth80 · May 2012

I don't think I've ever RSVP'd yes to a wedding and not come at all. I would feel terrible!!

daria24 · May 2012

I'm worried about a few guests, mostly because they are older and not in the best of health. But I would be more worried that something had happened, then mad that they wasted my money.

However if there are no shows without a good reason...I will be mega pissed. Not only the money, but the time I spent making our seating chart work!

brittneyh4 · May 2012

We're not paying per person, and we're also not having assigned seating, so I'm not as overly worried about it.. but I still kind of wonder who won't show.. I know a lot of people who can't RSVP no because they "feel bad".. umm, what?! I'd rather you send your regret then saying "oh, we jsut couldn't make it" last minute.

littleluckypenny · May 2012

I wouldn't be surprised if my cousin, her mom, and their friend not show. I'm surprised they said "yes" in the first place. They would be driving 12 hours to get here, and my aunt and cousin have health issues, including not being able to sit in a car for long periods of time. Would I be a little ticked about 3 plates? Sure, but I'll live. I will however get pissed if it was more no-shows than the 3.

SheilaDancer43 · May 2012

I honestly hadn't thought about this, but after reading the thread I'm kind of worried...We are paying per person, and one of the May 2012 girls made a good point about having to pay extra for linens too. I'll be really upset if we have a bunch of noshows because we are already over budget.

k3MySailor · May 2012

I went to a friends wedding in October and there were a ton of no-shows. Our table was half empty! I am sure I am bound to get a few no shows but I guess there is no way to control that.

ryaneann · May 2012

Yes, I'm worried about no shows, but as of right now I dont think we will have too too many.

melntaitt · May 2012

For the record, the girl I felt worse for was the one who had 80-90 no-shows. That's absolutely terrifying.

rachellola77 · May 2012

I can't get over how rude this is and I tend to fall in some of the grey areas with etiquette. I'm am going to do my damdest to not look at my escort card table at the end of the night or it will drive me nuts & I may need to hold some grudges. My numbers are pretty tight and I will be ticked to see if I could have left out another table. I was surprised to see all the ladies who posted that their no shows where more than 10! Come on.... here's my pack never to rsvp to a wedding and not just show up.

HarperBargo · May 2012

I have thought about it. My friend had a few and warned me about it. But what can you do?

diamondx423 · May 2012

Yeah, we're spending over $100 a person. I'll be PISSED as hell if people don't show without good reason.

KrisKenny · May 2012

I was worried, until I got my cousin's response that said 0 persons to attend. Now I'm not worried as much. Although, there may be one of FI's cousin's that may do that - he did it to FBIL and it was a stupid reason.

sunnylilme · May 2012

In theory, the polite thing to do when you have to pull out of a wedding last minute is to offer to cover your meal costs. I'm not sure how to politely ask, but my friend's mom (who often just says whatever she feels needs to be said) came right out and asked for it. However, everybody who didn't come let them know ahead of time. If somebody just doesn't show, I'm not sure how I would approach calling them later and asking for money... sounds rude.

BluIvory82 · May 2012

I would be pissed too. We are paying by plate as well. Friends off for real if someone did that without justifiable reason.

MiksChick23 · May 2012

I am, just b/c the number of hotel rooms does not jive with the number of responses and they have until Monday to get the block rate at the hotels.

Danidawn20 · May 2012

I am, just because we pay per head.

Pepsilady · May 2012

I'm not worried. If there are any no shows, that just means left-overs..

With my family and his family, the food will not go to waste..

Shelly527IN · May 2012

My RSVP deadline is tomorrow and I still have several out. I'd be ticked if I had 80-90 like that one bride! I had wondered if someone who said no ended up coming. I hadn't thought about having a bunch of no-shows!

kiki1978 · May 2012

I have RSVP'd yes to a wedding and didn't go because I had strep throat. I think that sometimes things happen and people can't make it. I'll be okay if some people can't show up. Now, if half the guests didn't come that would be different.

futuremrsbecerra · May 2012

I'm not worried about no- shows bc my fiance's family is known to just come bc it is free food and alcohol. but i'm worried about telling my dad the final count of guests bc more are coming then expected and we still have about 15 people who haven't rsvp'd and we can't get ahold of them. I told my fiance last night that he is telling my dad the final numbers bc i'm scared my dad might have a heart attack. FI said no though to being the one to tell my dad. UGH!! I'm hoping some don't come but either way we are paying per person so it is not like they won't be paid for.

Elizabeth80 · May 2012

Ooo this!

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_are-you-worried-about-no-shows?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:25809a83-62b7-4928-aba5-a36a9df050b9Post:21c695b5-2bf8-42f3-8399-81a70838e027">Re: Are you worried about 'No Shows'</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm worried about a few guests, mostly because they are older and not in the best of health. But I would be more worried that something had happened, then mad that they wasted my money. However if there are no shows without a good reason...I will be mega pissed. <strong>Not only the money, but <u>the time I spent making our seating chart work</u></strong>!
Posted by daria24[/QUOTE]

tgerl · May 2012

We have a few friends that are flakey and that does worry me. We have one friend juggling two weddings that day and she said she will make it in time for dinner, but it does make me nervous. We are paying about $50 per person just for food, so I will be pissed if people don't show up!

mschoenf · May 2012

I went to a wedding in November and the DAY of the wedding, a good friend/co-worker of the bride passed away. No one wanted to tell her because they didn't want to upset her but there were a lot of empty seats at the reception. I think she was finally told by then so that she wouldn't freak out about the lack of people. It was a horrible circumstance that is really rare but it is a fear of mine.

kdevin27 · May 2012

I'm paying $130 per plate so I am def. worried. wasn't too worried until we starting calling the ppl who didn't rsvp and then my future MILcalled knocking 4 people off saying the RSVP'ed but now are unable to attend. But on the other hand- is anyone worred about having uninvited/additional guests show up? We're paying all vendors in full prior ot the day of for convenience and now I'm worried! congrats to all getting married, esp this month!

[Deleted User] · May 2012

I'm a little worried but not overly worried. There may also be people that show up that didn't RSVP. Our venue will be able to handle both cases.

drlangone · May 2012

Well, so far, my GRANDMOTHER backed out at the last minute. Which brings my total amount of family at the wedding down to one person, ugh. But, yes, I am worried about this as well. I'd be hurt more than anything if someone doesn't show up without a good reason. But, it's something I can't control, so I've decided not to stress about it.

Cassandra999 · May 2012

Yes I'm worried about it but there's not much we can do. I will be mad if we have a lot. Right now I'm assuming the price I'm paying total is the price no matter how many people show up. There's nothing I can do if people decide at the last minute not to come.

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