Hi all! I am not exactly sure where I need to put this. Or even if I need it at all. Maybe I am just looking for a place to vent some frusterations....and I figured maybe some strangers will understand.
First: My MOM...whom I love but want to beat up so very much!
My mom's advice when we got engaged. Do whatever it is that you want to do. It's YOUR wedding. Now---it's very much a "do whatever you want, but don't do that" scenario. She expects us to have this huge 45,000 wedding...(she's not paying for it of course). And for whatever reason she doesn't understand that we are two working (more on this later) class people who get by, but really don't have a lot of extra money to throw at this event. She also keeps telling me that I have "plenty of time!"
For whatever reason that phrase gets on my last nerve!! I know. I have 9 months. You have a baby in that same amount of time. This is totally doable. But it's also VERY DIY and I need LOTS of time to make payments on things, so the day before we are not surprised with a 20,000 bill for our wedding. So really I dont! But that's just this petty thing.
SECOND: My wedding----
I want to go to Vegas. I want to run away just me and him and come back and let the pieces fall where they may. Those we love wont be mad at us forever, and if they are, they are not the people we thought they were.
But once again MOM's have coem in a veto'd that. And now my easy, quick run away wedding has turned into a spectical of a epic proportions that has spiraled completely out of control, with almost every person we have ever met wanting to come. But I know they aren't coming for us, they are coming for Vegas. And the last thing I really want to do is vacation will all of these people. But honestly, now this may not be an issue at all.
Third- My fiance lost his job
Out of blue, laid off. And his income SUBSTANTIALLY out earns mine. (by 3). I havent exactlty figured out to bring him out of his funk,(because He's the "man" and provider, and now says hes a deadbeat etc). let alone how I am going to pay our monthly bills, in addition to make payments on our wedding and keep us fed. I have ways of shrinking the wedding. Vegas, as lovely as it would be, is not neccessary. So many people say figure out what's important and focus on that...what's important is that me and this man who I love with my whole heart get married with our son. So we can do that anywhere, with a VERY little about of money. But I was told that to cancel the trip to Vegas would only make him feel worse, and do I really want to do that? I am really just venting, but I would LOVE some advice on how to deal with my mom, the people coming to vegas who I really dont like at all, and my better half's lack of employment. Thanks for putting up with my venting!!!