First off to all the October Brides - Yah we're only a few months away!!!
Now I need some advice, and I need to vent.
I have a girl that I have been friends with since 6th grade. When I first got engaged, I asked her to be one of my bridesmaids. She said yes and we started talking dresses. Well then she backed out of it. I asked her why and she said she just wasn't comfortable in dresses and make-up. Mind you I'm letting my girls pick their own dresses (as long as it's clover green) and shoes (must be silver) and have their make-up done however they want. So I went on the hunt for another bridesmaid. After a few months, my original girl said she wanted to be in my wedding and that she was just having body issues. Yah!!!
Well here we are now 3 months away. My MOH (my sister) has her dress ordered, in and fits perfectly. I contacted my other two bridesmaids. My friend from college won't be able to get her dress until Aug so I'm a little frazzeled there.
Then my friend since 6th grade out of the blue says she feels stupid for going dress shopping because we're "not even friends".
This is where I'm like "What?" I thought she was one of my best friends. Her reasoning is that we don't ever talk anymore (granted we haven't had coffee and conversation but we've talked/texted/facebook like everyday) and that she feels like I'm only being a friend to her so she'll be a bridesmaid. She then sends me a book long text message saying that I never hang out with here (we were just hanging out at my graduation party) and that I bail on her for any plans we make. We haven't made any plans for June because I had to take my baby sister up and drop her off at college, I graduated from College and then my FI and I had planned a weekend get away to Kings Island. Her and I work opposite schedules during the week, I'm 9AM to 5PM and she's 4PM to 1AM. The weekends were all we had. I'm hurt and frustrated because the bridesmaids gifts have already been ordered, the programs made and the invites sent. I think if I give her some time she'll come around but part of me is worried she won't. Also should I start looking for another bridesmaid? All my close friends know that she was supposed to be in the wedding. An what if I find another bridesmaid and then she changes her mind again? Should I just say forget it and have my MOH and 1 Bridesmaid (FI has his BM and 2 GM). I just really don't know what to say or do here. An at this point in time I ready to say "forget it" But I know someone from FI's side will complain.
And now you're here, and everythings changing. Suddenly life means so much. I can't wait to wake up tomorrow and find out this promise is true. I will never have to go back to, the day before you." -Mathew West
