Ok to invite to bachlorette party but not wedding?

NaziaHayat · December 2009

So there are some people who I am not inviting to my wedding because I'm not so close to them or used to be and am not anymore that I want them there. But they've obviously found out about it. I wouldn't mind having them at my bachlorette party... but is this wrong? Do you think it's ok to invite them to your bachlorette party but not your wedding?

Night_Sprite · December 2009

No people at wedding events not invited to the wedding.

anna.oskar · December 2009

Nope. Only people invited to the wedding should take part in pre-wedding festivities.

JessAndTrav · December 2009

I didn't even read your post.

The answer is no.

kkchisholm · December 2009

haha. very funny.

ring_pop · December 2009

No. If you're not close enough to invite them to the wedding, don't invite them to the bachelorette just because you "wouldn't mind". They're not expecting an invitation.

smokeybailey · December 2009

I have been to B-parties for weddings I wasn't invited to and we had girls that came along to a friend's B-party because they were down for a weekend in Vegas.

Don't invite them but if they ask, I (personally) would have no problem saying that they can totally come along if they want to.

However, just because they have found out about your wedding does not mean that they are at all interested in coming to your b-party.

salt78 · December 2009

Nope. Don't do it.

eastunder1 · December 2009

I totally sympathize girl, for realz. I mean, there's people I can't stand at all and don't want at my wedding for anything, but that don't mean I don't want them to share in the joy of watching me wear a penis hat around in public, you know?

sarabellam · December 2009

Like everyone else will have undoubtedly said by the time I post this, no, you can't invite them to the bachelorette party if you don't invite them to the wedding. If they aren't close enough to invite to the wedding (unless your guest list is less than 10), how is it that you are close enough to want to party with them?

SnShne322 · December 2009

Don't do it.

One of my BM's invited someone to my Bachelorette Party that wasn't invited to my wedding without my knowledge. It made me feel super awkward and probably her as well.

Save everyone the awkwardness!

georgia_bride09 · December 2009

Since you're not close to them, why do you care if they find out that they're not invited to your wedding? You can't invite them to pre-wedding events, and honestly, I don't know why you'd want to.

eastunder1 · December 2009

Its also pretty presumptuous to assume that they would even WANT to come. You're not close anymore. Why would they?

lullabymommy · December 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ok-invite-bachlorette-party-but-not-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bbd0dfdc-ced5-4cd1-a557-73e250f29907Post:d0b7e568-5ffd-4bb1-be5a-0ba782b89b4c">Re: Ok to invite to bachlorette party but not wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE] Don't invite them but if they ask, I (personally) would have no problem saying that they can totally come along if they want to.
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

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megk8oz · December 2009

No.

Just no.

megk8oz · December 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ok-invite-bachlorette-party-but-not-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:bbd0dfdc-ced5-4cd1-a557-73e250f29907Post:395f71e1-77ff-4743-b362-81ffdf3ba51b">Ok to invite to bachlorette party but not wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]So there are some people who I am not inviting to my wedding because I'm not so close to them or used to be and am not anymore that I want them there. But they've obviously found out about it. I wouldn't mind having them at my bachlorette party... but is this wrong? Do you think it's ok to invite them to your bachlorette party but not your wedding?
Posted by NaziaHayat[/QUOTE]

Never can be too careful

NaziaHayat · December 2009

Ok, point taken. Thanks.

JessAndTrav · December 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ok-invite-bachlorette-party-but-not-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bbd0dfdc-ced5-4cd1-a557-73e250f29907Post:b2723ecb-a3fe-46ca-85e0-984dbf870533">Re: Ok to invite to bachlorette party but not wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]I totally sympathize girl, for realz. I mean, there's people I can't stand at all and don't want at my wedding for anything, but that don't mean I don't want them to share in the joy of watching me wear a penis hat around in public, you know?
Posted by eastunder1[/QUOTE]

That definitely made me giggle.

CaptiolBride · December 2009

I mean this in the nicest way possible... but how would you feel if you were invited to a B party and not to the wedding? Consider that. They have feelings too.

TheSaltyPeanut · December 2009

nonononononononono

lyndausvi · December 2009

I was invited to join some girls to a b-party for a wedding I was not invited to. I went had fun and didn't really think much about it. I was new to the group and did not except to be invited to the wedding, but I admit it was fun to hang out with the girls and get to met new people

That all said it really depends on your b-party. The one above was just a bunch of girls bar hopping on St John and St Thomas. It was not a private party. More than likely I would have seen them anyway at the bar. Through out the night we picked up people and lost people in the group.

Now if I was invited to a spa day, Vegas weekend, pay for hotels rooms,limos etc.. I would have thought that was odd and I would not have attended.

Meeting up with a bunch of girls who are going bar hopping lat a place I might have gone to on my own anyway.... I really do not have much of an issue with.

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