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PrincessKt33
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Stressing
So my boyfriend is wanting to propse and he talks about it all the time, but he is wanting to be finacially ready when he does. He wants to have money saved up for the wedding(Knowing everyone in our families is going to help us) and then money saved up for after we get married. He is stressing stressing stressing and I am trying to stay positive and tell him if we need to wait we can. But its starting to get to me an dhe has me streesing over making sure its all gonna be planned by the few dates he has thrown out there... Ughh he is stressing me out more than planning anything is lol But I still love him more than anything in the world
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Re: Stressing
Also, paragraphs are your friend.
I haz a planning bio
And one other thing in your post you mentioned that everyone in your families will help pay for the wedding. I cannot stress enough how important it is that you do NOT rely on that money. No matter what anyone has said do not rely on any money you do not have. More than one girl on here will be able to tell you a horror story about that situation.
He's probably stressing because he feels pressured by you. Relax and take it easy. Let it happen when it happens, otherwise you are going to ruin your relationship along the way. Guess what? Then you won't have to worry about dates.
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[QUOTE]The lead up to your engagement shouldn't be stressful. It's a wonderful time filled with excitement and anticipation. You're obviously doing this wrong =P
Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]
<div>Obviously this makes her relationship invalid.</div>
[QUOTE]Punctuation: not just for the ends of sentences.
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Both of you should stop focusing on the wedding for a while. He can save up as long as he needs to, but until then, just stop talking about it since it's causing so much stress. Like Beth said, don't discuss tentative dates- and this is exactly why. It puts wayyyy more pressure on your relationship than you need. Just enjoying being together (especially since you get to see him soon!) and stop focusing on the engagement and wedding that isn't here yet.
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[QUOTE]Mrs Williford, I really dont care what puncuation is for. Let people write however they want to write, its there writing not yours so why be so worried about it?
Posted by PrincessKt33[/QUOTE]
When you use proper grammar and spelling it makes your posts easier to read. Also there is a spell check button, don't be afraid to use it.
And just because it drives me nuts its time for a lesson on the proper use of their, there, and they're. They are not interchangeable. Their is a possessive pronoun (That is their ball). There is an adverb meaning that location (I found the ball over there). They're is a contraction for they are (They're going to play with the ball).
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Stressing : When you use proper grammar and spelling it makes your posts easier to read. Also there is a spell check button, don't be afraid to use it. And just because it drives me nuts its time for a lesson on the proper use of their, there, and they're. They are not interchangeable. Their is a possessive pronoun (That is their ball). There is an adverb meaning that location (I found the ball over there). They're is a contraction for they are (They're going to play with the ball). We learn something new every day!
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[QUOTE]Mrs Williford, I really don<strong>'</strong>t care what puncuation is for. Let people write however they want to write<strong>. </strong> <strong>I</strong>t<strong>'</strong>s th<strong>eir</strong> writing not yours so why be so worried about it?
Posted by PrincessKt33[/QUOTE]
<div>I worry because the very fabic of our language rests on speech and writing. If you can't create a coherant sentence then that just shows me the youth of today are jeopardizing our language.</div><div>
</div><div>Not only that but I hate reading posts riddled with spelling errors. You want good advice? Give me some proper spelling and grammar to go by.</div>
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Honestly, when you write without proper punctuation and spelling (or at least a good effort at it), you seem like a little kid trying to get attention... and no one can really, fully understand what you're trying to say.
Language is incredibly important- it's how we communicate with people outside our own heads. That is why your writing matters to other people. If you were writing for your own pleasure in a journal or something, then write however you like and it's no one's business. But when you're asking a question and expecting responses, I think you owe it to yourself to be clear and to present yourself (through your writing) in a way that will encourage others to respect you, not brush you off as an incompetent kid.
Well, he is the one talking about it all. I do tell him it will hapopen when the time is right, and he just keeps saying "well, I know I want it to be soon!". I just tell him I am ready for him to come home so we can spend some time together during the week he is home!
Mrs. Williford,
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OP, if you are adult enough to get engaged, you are adult enough to sit down and have an adult conversation with your BF and explain your feelings, anxieties, worries, etc. Tell him that his constant discussion of an engagement/proposal is stressing you out. He should be adult enough to respect that and quit bringing it up.
You do not need to worry about planning UNTIL YOU ARE ENGAGED. Period.
You do need to worry about taking a remedial English class, however. How you present yourself in your writing and speech reflects how people percieve you. Based on your spelling/grammatical skills, my assessment of you was that it reads like you're in middle school study hall. I imagine that's not the case, but that's the impression that a reader is left with.
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[QUOTE]Ok well he is the one talking about it all. I do tell him it will hapopen when the time is right and he just keeps saying well I know I want it to be soon! Ohh well I just tell him I am ready for him to come home so we can spend some time together during the week he has home!
Posted by PrincessKt33[/QUOTE]
Besides the grammar and spelling which has already been covered thankfully...
Just tell him to stop. Because it sounds like you're both encouraging each other in small ways and that's stressing you both out. If he brings it up, say you don't want to talk about it until you're engaged and then just tell him how glad you are to be able to spend time with him. And change the subject.
[QUOTE]Mrs Williford, I really dont care what puncuation is for. Let people write however they want to write, its there writing not yours so why be so worried about it?
Posted by PrincessKt33[/QUOTE]
I'm assuming this is directed at me, since I made the comment about punctuation, but I don't understand the salutation. Mrs Williford (and of course, the period after Mrs is missing)?
Did TK display my name wrong, or is there a joke I'm not getting?