Sending invitations to college friends who won't come anyway?

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• em01092 member

  

  February 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_sending-invitations-to-college-friends-who-wont-come-anyway?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1c2e7b12-8482-489d-b255-5648258f119aPost:6f11d49f-ec81-45bd-ba44-c73df578e1d7">Sending invitations to college friends who won't come anyway?</a>:
  [QUOTE]My wedding is in MA, but I went to college in OH. Most of my friends from college I never really talked to outside of work because I wasn't a big partier. Plus, I don't really want the crazy partiers at my wedding because the majority of the guest list is family. So do I invite a select few work friends, knowing that they'll tell the others they were invited and the ones I didn't invite will be upset? Or do I not bother inviting any of them because, let's be honest, they're all broke college kids and won't go anyway?  I'm inviting my close college friends, but I'm not sure what to do about the work friends...<strong> I thought etiquette dictated if you invite one, you should invite all</strong>, and I don't want to upset anyone. Advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!
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  <div>Not true. Invite those you actually want to invite and those you are close to. If you never really hung out with them outside of work, you don't need to invite them.</div><div>
  </div><div>Should you in fact invite anyone whom you fear may talk to others about your wedding, you could tell them (those you are inviting) that the wedding is close friends and family only, and ask them not to talk about it with some of the others you used to work with as to avoid hurt feelings or weirdness. </div><div>
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• likeadeadstar

  

  February 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_sending-invitations-to-college-friends-who-wont-come-anyway?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1c2e7b12-8482-489d-b255-5648258f119aPost:e5d78742-88d5-4eb3-a71a-d8bad05cd8bc">Re: Sending invitations to college friends who won't come anyway?</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Sending invitations to college friends who won't come anyway? : Not true. Invite those you actually want to invite and those you are close to. If you never really hung out with them outside of work, you don't need to invite them. Should you in fact invite anyone whom you fear may talk to others about your wedding, you could tell them (those you are inviting) that the wedding is close friends and family only, and ask them not to talk about it with some of the others you used to work with as to avoid hurt feelings or weirdness. 
  Posted by em01092[/QUOTE]
  
  This.  Also, the "broke ones won't come anyway" is really untrue; I've gone to weddings while broke!  If people are determined, they find ways.  I flew to a wedding in another country while a student.  I budgeted.

  
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• sonya+adam member

  

  February 2012

  Invite those you were close with and want at your wedding. If you don't want them at your wedding, why send them an invite in the first place? They may end up coming, even though you think they won't.

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• rebarobert2012

  

  February 2012

  You only need to invite those you are close to.  If you don't hang out with your co-workers outside of work, there is no need to invite them.
  
  As for your college friends, if you want them there, go ahead and invite them.  Let it be their choice whether or not they come.  Sometimes people will surprise you.

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