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Vent: My mother

Let me preface this by saying that I don't live at home & unless I call her, she doesn't pick up the phone to call me. Our relationship has definitely suffered since I moved out (she's a bit of a control freak so it def. bothers her that I'm independent) but just because I don't live at home doesn't mean I don't make the effort to stop by, call, etc.

Last week she went for a mammogram so I asked how it went & she said everything was fine. Tonight on FB, I see a status from her asking people to say a prayer for her. So I call her immediately and ask what's going on. She proceeds to tell me that they found calcium deposits in her test results (which could be a sign of breast cancer). I ask her when she was going to tell me & her response is "well maybe if you worried about other things (besides the wedding) you would know." How am I supposed to know her test results came back irregular since when I asked a few days ago how everything went & she said fine and hasn't mentioned a thing since?

Ugh this woman. 
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Re: Vent: My mother

  • It's what mothers do.  I know someone (not my mom) who is exactly this way.  And you're not going to change them.  All you can do is not let it bother you.  A real shame, though.
  • Wow, I'm so sorry you rmother is acting that way. It almost sounds like she is jealous of your wedding or something. I could kind of understand her not saying anything to you about it, if she didn't want to ruin your wedding day or something like that, but seeing as you are so far off, there is no reason she couldn't have told you, and you had to find out on Facebook!
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_vent-mother?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:f8da4c75-a8fc-4a44-9070-26de7ad8c908Post:e55f15a6-5b5d-41de-b116-8b3229f82a11">Re: Vent: My mother</a>:
    [QUOTE]Wow, I'm so sorry you rmother is acting that way. It almost sounds like she is jealous of your wedding or something. I could kind of understand her not saying anything to you about it, if she didn't want to ruin your wedding day or something like that, but seeing as you are so far off, there is no reason she couldn't have told you, and you had to find out on Facebook!
    Posted by cindyn9178[/QUOTE]

    She's practically reliving her wedding day through me but that's a completely different issue lol.

    Ever since I've moved out, it's like she became offended that I now run my own life and "don't need her anymore." Can't wait to see how she acts once I'm actually married with a family of my own.
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  • I hope it turns out to be nothing. Best wishes.
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