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Sticking their fingers in our wedding plans!

VanessaB24VanessaB24 member
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in New Jersey
hello all,

Well I told my girls that we might not have a limo because their prices are ridiculous, its like you say WEDDING and they raise the prices for everything mean while you want a ride to the airport its like 60 bucks. Well i just wanted us to get dropped off since the ceremony and reception will be at the same place so i don't need to have the driver wait for us or anything also my FI and the guys will be driving there with their cars and we're not staying at the hotel since we live 20 mins away. So lime is pointless unless like i said its dropping the girls and i off. Well my cousin (who is one of my bms) tells my Aunt (god mother) that i said we're not having one and my aunt offers to  pay for it, so i think ok thats great. I'm trying to find out from my dad who works for a limo place how much it would be to get dropped off and he said its 183. which considering isn't bad but they only had grey and blk limos. I said i didn't care what color it was but my mom calls me yesterday saying that her and my aunt were talking and my "aunt" wants  me to have a white one and there is one place down in north Jersey for $270. Umm... The way she said "they were talking" and then "my aunt" wants me to have a white one means my mom some how convinced my aunt to get me a white one. And I HATE that my mom does that to people. She makes ppl think that its their idea but its what she wants. I didn't want to spend or have anyone spend that amount of money on a limo that i DOn't need for 3 hours. I need to be dropped off with my girls & fg. The truth is my mom offered to pay for the limo a couple of months ago and now that she doesn't have to then she wants to get her 2 cents in things. I haven't included her in anything because its OUR wedding not ours and her wedding. I love my mom but sometimes GRRRR!! I know i shouldn't let this bother me and i should be thankful which I am but i feel like people shouldn't spend that amt of money on unnecessary things

vent over...
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Re: Sticking their fingers in our wedding plans!

  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    I can understand that it's frustrating. I got into a screaming match with my folks last night over someone they want to invite that I've already said 10 times that I would rather not. I don't understand why they just can't let us get what we want sometimes.

    I would call your aunt directly and thank her for her generous offer to pay, but remind her that it'll only be used for a short time and you'd rather her get the less expensive option. Maybe say something like, "I really dislike white limos anyway, so black/grey would be wonderful." I would try and bypass your mother all together.
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  • LolyalyssaLolyalyssa member
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    edited December 2011

    I find it very strange that parents care so much about limos.  I'm with you on the whole limo thing.  I think they are crazy expensive and not worth it.  Renting a limo for one night is like a years worth of car insurance payments on our car.  I keep telling my in-laws I want to drive myself and it makes them nuts.  (I'll probably cave to them in the end but we'll see Smile).

    I would talk directly to your aunt and make it clear that you don't care about the color and let her decide what she wants to do.  If she decides white because that is what your mom wants, that's your Aunt's business.  Your Aunt may doing this in her mind for you and for your mother.

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  • akmackayakmackay
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    edited December 2011
    Would your dad be able to get a discount- or is that with the discount? IMO parents are there no matter what, and they want to help and make the wedding something you will love. She is just trying to help- and by you saying that you have tried to keep her out of the plans that's probably hurtful to her. I know she may want to give her 2 cents, but that doesn't mean you need to take them. And, if your aunt is paying than let her choose. You can tell her you would prefer to go with the cheaper limo, but in the end she is the one paying and if she wants white (or your mom) and she is willing to pay extra for that, I don't think it's your place to tell her otherwise. Be happy and try not to let these little things get you too stressed out 
    *~allie~*

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  • VanessaB24VanessaB24 member
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    edited December 2011
    my dad called me and is "working" with my aunt to get a limo but i told him its not a big deal and blah blah so he agreed and understands that theres no reason to get a 3 hr white limo to drive us there its a waste. So i'm hoping they'll go with the black one for the cheaper price. Laughing
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  • caketimecaketime
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    edited December 2011
    While it is frustrating and annoying I think this is one of the battles you should let go and not fight.  There will be lots of other battles coming so you need to pick and choose which one is worth fighting about.  If this will make your mom & aunt happy I say let them figure out.
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  • VanessaB24VanessaB24 member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    i'm not fighting, it just annoyed me but i'm over it now.... i just think its a waste of money... they can get the white one if they want but i just don't think its necessary that's all.

    My dad thought i was going to use the 3 hr driver to drive to a place to take pics but thats not what we're going to do. So that is that... the limo is not my issue anymore.
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