How do I say no babies/small children?

Meg1036 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How do I say no babies? : Thanks. I was worried by allowing the small baby that others with toddlers would be offended.
Posted by jordanb5[/QUOTE]

FWIW, I said this on page 1 of the thread. So did at least a few others. There was good advice in there, actually.

hlq2011 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How do I say no babies? : Thanks. I was worried by allowing the small baby that others with toddlers would be offended.
Posted by jordanb5[/QUOTE]

I said that back on page two, and again above

Next time, phrase your question more along the lines of "How can I let my bridesmaid bring her newborn without letting everyone else bring their kids" instead of "I don't want the baby there!"

ogrady88 · May 2011

At FIs grandfather's funeral, future nephew proclaimed, rather loudly right in the middle of the service, "that this is boring". We all thought it was hilarious. It's why I'll never understand the whole "kids will ruin my day" mentality. That said, OP you're totally ok not inviting children, but newborns are usually the exception.

Melanie2012 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]For the record, I would never flat out say to my cousin/bridesmaid, "do not bring your baby" if she told me that there was no way she could leave him with her husband. I'm not going to flat out say that anyway. I'm not an idiot as some of you may think. <strong>But, people do go out on dates or whatever and get babysitters all the time. Sooooo, I was just saying that if she could get someone to watch the baby it would just make the whole situation a lot better.</strong> And ok, I get that some women cannot pump out enough milk at one time, when I said that it was simply just a suggestion to the situation at hand. and ANYWAY, i'm not only talking about that particular baby, my family has about 8 total and several of them are not well behaved babies at all. There are about 3 that I have never seen them when they weren't crying or throwing a tantrum. <strong>One of the children yelled out during my great grandmothers funeral and was doing cartwheels during the receiving friends time </strong>and no one told her stop. So, obviously, i'm going to worry that they will do that during the ceremony. I do not know of ANY bride on earth who would be ok with a screaming baby or wild child during their wedding.
Posted by jordanb5[/QUOTE]

Man I'd pay some good money to see a newborn who could do cartwheels.

I'm being facetious because it's clear the child you're talking about in this scenario is an older kid, NOT a newborn. There's a difference. I don't think anyone here will tell you it's a problem to extend an invitation only to adult guests and not their children. That's your prerogative, though you'll probably get some guests asking you if they can bring 5 year-old Johnny after they've noticed his name wasn't on the invite, and then you need to deal with that as best you can. But a newborn is different, which is what everyone here has been telling you.

Also, someone having a newborn is not a "situation." And for whom would it make things "better"? I'm guessing for you, because it sure as hell wouldn't make "the situation" "better" for your cousin and her infant. You have a serious lack of perspective about this.

Melanie2012 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]well you're one in a million then! ha more power to you but i'm sorry that i want it to be peaceful. just shoot me i guess!!
Posted by jordanb5[/QUOTE]

Is having a "peaceful" wedding really worth alienating a good friend (or family member in this case)? I guess you're one in a million, too.

Edit - typo

The Mel and Todd Show · May 2011

Hello Melanie2012. You are reasonable and you present your thoughts well. I like you.

Melanie2012 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]Hello Melanie2012. You are reasonable and you present your thoughts well. I like you.
Posted by The Mel and Todd Show[/QUOTE]

Hello from one Mel to another. :)

Jlk527 · May 2011

The cattyness here is out of control.

It's your wedding, do what you want.

It is YOUR day. You have to choose if you want your cousin + baby there, or neither one.

The Mel and Todd Show · May 2011

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[QUOTE]The cattyness here is out of control. It's your wedding, do what you want. It is YOUR day. You have to choose if you want your cousin + baby there, or neither one.
Posted by Jlk527[/QUOTE]

Oh FFS.

Ciaram22 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]The cattyness here is out of control. It's your wedding, do what you want. It is YOUR day. You have to choose if you want your cousin + baby there, or neither one.
Posted by Jlk527[/QUOTE]
Nice first post.

LDYGTR13 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]The cattyness here is out of control. It's your wedding, do what you want. It is YOUR day. You have to choose if you want your cousin + baby there, or neither one.
Posted by Jlk527[/QUOTE]

Screw your guests, make 'em miserable. No one cares about them anyway.

OBX2011 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]The cattyness here is out of control. It's your wedding, do what you want. It is YOUR day. You have to choose if you want your cousin + baby there, or neither one.
Posted by Jlk527[/QUOTE]

:::head desk:::

pantherRN · May 2011

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[QUOTE]The cattyness here is out of control. It's your wedding, do what you want. It is YOUR day. You have to choose if you want your cousin + baby there, or neither one.
Posted by Jlk527[/QUOTE]

This response took longer than I thought it would!

Mrs.B6302007 · May 2011

Altering the OP was pointless as it was quoted.

Jlk527 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How do I say no babies? : Nice first post.
Posted by Ciaram22[/QUOTE]

Yes! Now gang up on me! it will make you all feel so much better about yourselves :)

Ghoti · May 2011

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[QUOTE]Here's what you do. You tell her no kid. And when she shows up with baby in tow, you drop kick it and you drop kick it good. That'll teach her to have a baby. How rude of her.
Posted by professorscience[/QUOTE]
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jrkjpf · May 2011

I have candy, we'll just lure the screaming, cart wheel, jumping jack newborns out of the ceremony.

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