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irons633
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Concerned/vent
hey ladies!!! Have a lot going on with the wedding planning and all that jazz. Now the fiancé states he possibly wants to do the government contracting overseas. He currently is in the Air Force and we live down in Newport News, Va. With that he would be leaving for about 4 months or so then gets to come home for a month and keep going back. However, with doing this I will be stuck planning all by myself due to me not being from this area do not have really close friends here and my mother lives 4 hours away. I am all for new things because with this job he said that I can pick where we move too after we get married and I am excited about moving somewhere else. This job would give me the chance to go back to nursing school full time and also allow me to take care of our future first child and be financially stable. I have top choices of where I would like us to move, Maryland, Florida , Texas (Dallas area) and California. It's just after planning a wedding then will have to deal with my new husband deployed for a few months at a time! 
I am strong and ready for a challenge but it's just like wow??!!!!
I am strong and ready for a challenge but it's just like wow??!!!!
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Re: Concerned/vent
Not sure how far you are from the Urban League but here is their link... also I have a friend that is from Dallas originally, lived here in L.A. for a few years and was relocated to Virginia. Not really sure how far she is from Newport News but I don't mind connecting you with her.
http://www.nvul.org/
about the planning, this is a GREAT board and we can all help you every step of the way!!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_concernedvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:c4616b25-a625-493a-85be-4bae2762c725Post:c5fb8d94-0a4a-43d8-b824-8306a10462d8">Re: Concerned/vent</a>:
[QUOTE]I definitely understand your concern because my FI is in the army and we just found yesterday out he will be leaving soon as well. You got this though, like you said be strong and hold it down until he returns. BTW, can you go with him? We kinda decided a little while ago that<strong> we wouldn't accept any assignments if I couldn't go as well (I know this is not always an option).</strong> Just an FYI, although this is the best board on the knot, the women on the military board are pretty cool as well.
Posted by alpresberry[/QUOTE] @alpresberry - please keep an open mind about this. There are definitely some solo assignments in the military and I would hate for that to hinder your FI's career in the military if he only decides to take assignments where there is a follow on for the spouse. I'm just saying..
[QUOTE]Thank you ladies for the words of encouragement. @simbidi when he first signed up did he have to go away for training? Me and him have talked about the long term goals of him going. The ability to pay off bills, student loans and make a nice nest egg for ourselves. Just not looking forward to being in that situation where he isn't there. Wow!!!! 9 days? I know that has to be hard but does he get the time off to come home?
Posted by irons633[/QUOTE]<div>
He had been a firefighter )Airforce trained) for almost 20 years before he became a contractor, so no sadditional training was necessary. The income potential overseas is crazy, so we are taking advantage of that and paying off bills, saving, etc. He was in Iraq when we first met (online), so our relationship has been long distance for a good bit of the time. He gets and R&R every 3-4 months for 10 days or so. He has to be out of the country at least 330 days out of the year for tax purposes (tax free income!). Next year, we will plan a revdezvous somewhere!</div><div>
</div><div>Think it out and talk it over. You can do it.</div>