TMI Tuesday

musicalsunlight · March 2011

Sorry to hi-jack your daily post, Steph

Any topics, ladies?

I've been thinking about bra sizes because mine never seems to be right. Stupid bras.

PoliceWife104 · March 2011

Neither does mine! I've got the problem with one boob being bigger then the other. It's not super noticeable, to everyone else, but it is to me! I hate that I get a bit of a buldge of fabric on the one side in the middle, because there isn't enough there to fill it! = )

And I HATE bra shopping!! It's always such a pain, & I always have a hard time finding anything that works! When I do come across something, I try to stock up!!

musicalsunlight · March 2011

I know what you mean, I have the same probem with the different sizes thing. My main annoyance is that I like to wear a tank/camisole under almost everything. But I hate that the strap in the back always rides up above the tank ... if that makes sense. So annoying, and I don't know how to prevent it.

I've gotten sized multiple times but I think my main problem is that my bra size is bigger than my shirt size usually accomodates.

shan87 · March 2011

My problem is with all this diet and exercise my boobs are shrinking! haha I'm a full C so I guess I can handle going down to a normal C.

kaylas16 · March 2011

Here's my problem. I have no boobs haha. And like Shannan when I started losing weight and dieting after I finished college they shrunk more...didn't even realize it was possible for them to get smaller but apparently it was!

musicalsunlight · March 2011

I wish mine would shrink a little. I used to exercise/dance daily and still exercise a decent amount, and nothing makes them shrink. Depending on the brand, I can be a 34D or DD. But usually shirts that fit my waist are too small for my chest. Very frustrating, especially for button up dress shirts. They NEVER button nicely.

tpender13 · March 2011

Yeah, I'm smaller like kaylas, so I have a hard time listening to people complain about their large chests.

I've definitely gained wait since college, but I actually kind of like that my boobs got a little bigger. And sizing is different for me too -- I've always been measured as a 34B, but they don't always work. Usually a 36A is better. I don't know. When I find a good bra that I like, I usually just buy 2 or 3, and since my bras don't have to work too hard, they last a long time.

Sarahsue1684 · March 2011

I HATE bra shopping. The only bras I ever find that are comfy for me are from VS. The sucky part they dont even carry my size (32DD) so I have to settle for something that cuts into my armpits and hope that it wears down quickly in that area. Stupid bras! Thats funny this post came up because my bras are breaking and Im in need of new ones and keep pushing it off. Boo! I work out and like Musicalsunlight said I wish they would shrink!

musicalsunlight · March 2011

Well I'd gladly give up some of mine to people who want a little more,

I don't dislike my chest as whole, because I like the way my figure looks (for the most part), I just dislike the fact that it makes shopping so difficult.

I know that my profession as a lawyer will require shirts that are dressy, and those are the hardest to fit for me. The buttons never button comfortably over my chest, they always end up pulling. If I try a size up, the sides are waaaay too big around my waist.

PoliceWife104 · March 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_minnesota-minneapolis-st-paul_tmi-tuesday-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:81Discussion:2a629126-465c-4b0a-b700-af535d5c234aPost:37bef0ad-0c39-41b0-9757-911c5789ea48">Re: TMI Tuesday</a>:
[QUOTE]Well I'd gladly give up some of mine to people who want a little more, ;) I don't dislike my chest as whole, because I like the way my figure looks (for the most part), I just dislike the fact that it makes shopping so difficult. :( I know that my profession as a lawyer will require shirts that are dressy, and those are the hardest to fit for me. The buttons never button comfortably over my chest, they always end up pulling. If I try a size up, the sides are waaaay too big around my waist.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

That's what I hate with button up shirts! If you go up a size to accommodate the chest/button issue, then it's like you're swimming in it everywhere else! So annoying!

musicalsunlight · March 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_minnesota-minneapolis-st-paul_tmi-tuesday-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:81Discussion:2a629126-465c-4b0a-b700-af535d5c234aPost:a6209b5f-4428-4370-8526-780fa99db7b8">Re: TMI Tuesday</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: TMI Tuesday : That's what I hate with button up shirts! If you go up a size to accommodate the chest/button issue, then it's like you're swimming in it everywhere else! So annoying!
Posted by MikeNAndi[/QUOTE]

Yes, it is completely annoying. I suppose I could go to a tailor or something but come on, that is way too much work. :P

PoliceWife104 · March 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_minnesota-minneapolis-st-paul_tmi-tuesday-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:81Discussion:2a629126-465c-4b0a-b700-af535d5c234aPost:29d45576-9ec4-4d7f-963f-a39fcc4337bb">Re: TMI Tuesday</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: TMI Tuesday : Yes, it is completely annoying. I suppose I could go to a tailor or something but come on, that is way too much work. :P
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

Agreed, to much work! It is much easier to complain about! = )

musicalsunlight · March 2011

Haha yeah, that and cheaper to just complain.

If I knew how to make clothes or market fashin in any way, I'd make a store that has clothes for people with issues like that. Big chests & small waists, etc.

maybe984 · March 2011

Oh my, I can relate to so many of these comments.

When I was a stick-figure at about 15-16, I had a 32C. After gaining a tiny bit of weight my junior year of HS, I was up to a 34D. 10 years and quite a few pounds later, I'm at a 36DD. So, regardless of my size, I have always had a bit of an unruly chest... but I love it. It's the one part of my body that I can always count on ;-)

My two main complaints?

1. It's gotten a little more even now, but traditionally my right boob is about 1/2 size bigger than the other.

2. VS has the only bras that ever fit me right, but their sales girls can be hella nasty. I'm kind of top heavy, and even when I was thin, had a bit of a belly... so EVERY time they would ask me what size I "thought" I wore, they'd look shocked when I answered... only to see concrete proof once they measured me.

Oh, and for years, they were pushing this "oh... a 34D is really the same thing as a 36C" concept which was completely untrue. Once, a few years ago, I flung my dressing room door wide open, wearing nothing but jeans and one of their bras, to show a sales girl that indeed I DID NOT fit correctly into a 38C. I was spilling out on top, yet if I raised my hands over my head, the bra came with them (no, I didn't demonstrate that in front of the whole store.

franticbride2 · March 2011

I hate it when women complain about their big chest. I have always been a 32aa-34a, depending on the brand. Everyone always says to be thankful to have a small chest and blah blah blah. In actuality, I have always struggled with body image because of it. I don't feel like a true woman. FI has only seen my chest a couple of times, accidentally. He tells me every day how much he loves them, yet I can't see how. So seriously, don't take your chest for granted--at least you look like a real woman.

tpender13 · March 2011

FYI, for people who have a hard time finding bras that fit, I've heard that Allure is a really great shop. They carry a huge range of sizes, and while I'm not all that strange a size, I've really been wanting to check them out.

http://www.allurefits.com/

I Want Cake · March 2011

For anyone with small boobs who wants the constant back pain of big boobs, you're welcome to try mine out for a day. The thing that gets me about bra shopping, is that since my bra size is large (I'm not posting it here, but rest assured it's much bigger than anyone else's so far) and I'm short-waisted, it's nearly impossible for me to find anything that works and doesn't cut into me because the underwire is shaped wrong for my body. Every time I find a good bra, it goes out of circulation after a couple years. I wear a very specific Wacoal model, and the only place I can find it now is some store in Michigan I have to order it from. I buy in multiples, because I don't know what I'd do if one of them broke and I didn't have a backup. I'd be houseridden for weeks.

maybe984 · March 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_minnesota-minneapolis-st-paul_tmi-tuesday-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:81Discussion:2a629126-465c-4b0a-b700-af535d5c234aPost:7a3a6da3-0a6a-4d6d-913c-95cab71256b8">Re: TMI Tuesday</a>:
[QUOTE]I hate it when women complain about their big chest. I have always been a 32aa-34a, depending on the brand. Everyone always says to be thankful to have a small chest and blah blah blah. In actuality, I have always struggled with body image because of it. I don't feel like a true woman. FI has only seen my chest a couple of times, accidentally. He tells me every day how much he loves them, yet I can't see how. So seriously, don't take your chest for granted--at least you look like a real woman.
Posted by franticbride2[/QUOTE]

franticbride, I TOTALLY understand what you're trying to say here... but you have to realize that often, when large-chested women complain about their chest... it's not simply because of how they look. As I Want Cake said, a big chest also often comes with constant back pain and other issues. I have always tried to look on the bright side, so I focus on the concept of my chest as an asset. However, my chest size has more than a little to do with the fact that I, at the age of 26, have the bad neck and a bad back of someone twice my age. I've been in and out of chiropractors and on and off of muscle relaxers and other treatments since I was 18.

Fact of the matter is, everybody wants what somebody else has. I'd give anything for bigger hips and a perkier butt, but I just wasn't built that way. However, I wouldn't get angry at someone who bemoaned the fact that they were built like JLo ;-) Everyone has their own cross to bear, and you can't take it personally because someone with a bigger chest isn't exactly crazy about it.

lboerner88 · March 2011

I 100% agree with I Want Cake. I am a 34D and my back hurts pretty regularly. Also my straps dig into my shoulders all the time! They are much more of a hassle than many people think. However FI does love them so I guess that's a perk lol

It took me a long time to find a comfortable bra (the Dream Angels Demi Bra) and now that is all I wear!

kaylas16 · March 2011

To be honest, most of the time I am greatful for my small boobs Doesn't mean I don't seriously wish I could afford a boob job to get something there, because I too feel self concience even letting FI see them sometimes. I just wish I looked a bit better in certain tops or swimsuits, but for the most part I think I'd take my itty bitties and avoid the back pain and other issues that can come with larger ones.

I think most women will never be completely happy with what they have on their chests

musicalsunlight · March 2011

I agree that I don't complain because I don't LIKE my chest size, more just the pain that comes with accomodating them. I can see a person with a very small or even larger chest complain about the same thing. My mom has a pretty large chest, and though I'm not built the same as her, I hope I don't have the same back problems someday. I know how smaller-chested women feel when they say things about their body image related to the small chest thing. I didn't get these 'girls' until right at the end of high school, and I was very self conscious prior to that.

SuperRNluvsChef · March 2011

Oh I can completly comiserate with some of the more chesty women here! I'm a 36DD and have (IMO) very board man-shoulders and have a love/hate relationship with it. Most of the time I try to tell myself that it's how I was made and I just need to accept it but seriously I feel like everyone at the gym is looking at me while I run on the treadmill. I can be pretty self concious too. I probably stared slack jawed at the lady at the WS that told me to go without a bra in my dress. Seriously the only person that sees me without one is FI.

wittyschaffy · March 2011

franticbride - I absolutely do not mean to disregard your feelings or thoughts on this but people with small breasts are not at all the only ones who suffer from self esteem issues over the size of their boobs. I have ALWAYS been busty. Even when I was swimming in high school and was in the best shape of my life with practically no body fat, I wore a C and they stuck out like a sore thumb in comparison. Now, I wear considerably more than that. I have always been self conscious about the fact that I can't hide the fact that I was unfortunately blessed with large breasts and I feel like they announced themselves to a room before I did. I was ALWAYS getting oggled, even by my guy friends who I've known for forever. I was always frustrated knowing that in a lot of cases, my breasts were what was memorable about me and there sure is a heck of a lot more to me than what sits on my chest!

Are there days when I could complain about feeling uncomfortabe running - even with the absolute best support bra I can buy, or the fact that like a lot of other posters - I quite literally can't wear button down shirts and sometimes even dresses because they aren't proportioned for me, or that I almost can't stand going bra-less at home because it actually is painful to do so - sure! But I can't change it unless I shell out some serious dough for it and so I just work with it.

Steph0871 · March 2011

Frantic- I think it's pretty disrespectful to tell anyone that you hate when they complain about body issues. You may want to consider how you approach people from now on. You may have experienced body issues because of your small chest size. I've done the same because mine is so large. It's not easy being the first girl in elementary school to have to wear a bra. Just something to keep in mind next time you tell someone they don't have the right to complain about their body.

That being said, I (obviously) agree wiht those of you with big boobs. I frequently have back pain, I have permanent dents on my shoulders from my bra straps, and it's damn near impossible to go for a run

VS used to sell some amazing sports bras, but I haven't seen them in a few years.

musicalsunlight · March 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_minnesota-minneapolis-st-paul_tmi-tuesday-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:81Discussion:2a629126-465c-4b0a-b700-af535d5c234aPost:667f08a8-47db-4b3c-85cd-d366fe3165a4">Re: TMI Tuesday</a>:
[QUOTE]Frantic- I think it's pretty disrespectful to tell anyone that you hate when they complain about body issues. You may want to consider how you approach people from now on. You may have experienced body issues because of your small chest size. I've done the same because mine is so large. It's not easy being the first girl in elementary school to have to wear a bra. Just something to keep in mind next time you tell someone they don't have the right to complain about their body. That being said, I (obviously) agree wiht those of you with big boobs. I frequently have back pain, I have permanent dents on my shoulders from my bra straps, and it's damn near impossible to go for a run ;) VS used to sell some amazing sports bras, but I haven't seen them in a few years.
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

I totally agree with this. I am always hesitant to say anything about parts of my body that I'm less happy with, because I know that if I say anything, most people will jump on me just because I'm not overweight so what do I have to complain about? I don't think people always realize that body issues aren't always about weight, but also about proportion, size, etc.

franticbride2 · March 2011

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[QUOTE]Frantic- I think it's pretty disrespectful to tell anyone that you hate when they complain about body issues. You may want to consider how you approach people from now on. You may have experienced body issues because of your small chest size. I've done the same because mine is so large. It's not easy being the first girl in elementary school to have to wear a bra. Just something to keep in mind next time you tell someone they don't have the right to complain about their body. That being said, I (obviously) agree wiht those of you with big boobs. I frequently have back pain, I have permanent dents on my shoulders from my bra straps, and it's damn near impossible to go for a run ;) VS used to sell some amazing sports bras, but I haven't seen them in a few years.
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

Wow, this is why I RARELY post on here, and no longer will. For being a moderator, you are awfully rude. Did I not see a post on here about a week or 2 ago about NOT attacking people. This is definitely not the first time I have been attacked, either. One other thing I hate about this board, the only way you get over 2 responses is if you are one of the ones that sits on here all day and posts. Pathetic. My post IN NO WAY attacked people, it stated my opinion. Yet you go on attacking me. Way to set an example for others, "moderator."

I was just giving the perspective of some of us smaller chested girls, just like you bigger chested girls are giving your opinion. Yes, it is a huge self esteem issue. I never said it wasn't for the rest of you, but it sure as heck is for me---- />MY EXPERIENCE, because I obviously can't speak for the rest of you. I have actually struggled with anorexia, because I wanted my body to be proportional. I have had every nickname in the book b/c of my boobs, and the sad thing is, they didn't end in high school. So yes, I F****** hate it when girls with big boobs complain. MY OPINION. I never said they don't have back problems, etc. I just said it bothers me, because it is something I have always wished for. So I am SO sorry for posting on this issue, I will no longer be posting on this board. Thank you SO MUCH for the help (not).

maybe984 · March 2011

Um... not sure how being told you were being disrespectful is being "attacked."

I don't understand why some people think they can make these huge, sweeping statements about things that they "hate" and then act surprised when people find it offensive. Several women in a row express issues with being larger-chested, and she jumps in with "I hate when women do" exactly what many of us are doing. How is that not supposed to be offensive?

FWIW, Steph, I don't think you said anything that didn't need to be said.

musicalsunlight · March 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_minnesota-minneapolis-st-paul_tmi-tuesday-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:81Discussion:2a629126-465c-4b0a-b700-af535d5c234aPost:85237bbe-0d38-466b-a619-bb0d3026f068">Re: TMI Tuesday</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: TMI Tuesday : Wow, this is why I RARELY post on here, and no longer will. For being a moderator, you are awfully rude. Did I not see a post on here about a week or 2 ago about NOT attacking people. This is definitely not the first time I have been attacked, either. One other thing I hate about this board, the only way you get over 2 responses is if you are one of the ones that sits on here all day and posts. Pathetic. My post IN NO WAY attacked people, it stated my opinion. Yet you go on attacking me. Way to set an example for others, "moderator." I was just giving the perspective of some of us smaller chested girls, just like you bigger chested girls are giving your opinion. Yes, it is a huge self esteem issue. I never said it wasn't for the rest of you, but it sure as heck is for me---- />MY EXPERIENCE, because I obviously can't speak for the rest of you. I have actually struggled with anorexia, because I wanted my body to be proportional. I have had every nickname in the book b/c of my boobs, and the sad thing is, they didn't end in high school. So yes, I F****** hate it when girls with big boobs complain. MY OPINION. I never said they don't have back problems, etc. I just said it bothers me, because it is something I have always wished for. So I am SO sorry for posting on this issue, I will no longer be posting on this board. Thank you SO MUCH for the help (not).
Posted by franticbride2[/QUOTE]

I don't know if you are going to come back and read this, but I really wish you'd reconsider what you are saying. I don't think that Steph wrote you off as not having valid feelings. I just think she was pointing out that there were probably better ways to express that emotion. I don't think anyone meant to imply that you have less of a valid experience or that it was not as painful/embarassing/etc as someone growing up with a large chest. I think you need to find a way to take things less personally. I realize that is hard to do when we are discussing personal issues, so if it is really a sensitive subject for you, I'd possibly suggest sitting back to avoid feeling really upset.

I don't think it is fair to say that only women who sit here all day and post get responses. I've found this board to be very supportive of everyone regardless of their "post" status. If you leave this board, which obviously you are free to do, I would be careful around international boards because they can be much harsher. Good luck to you and your wedding, and I am being sincere in this.

Steph0871 · March 2011

WTF? (GASP! MODERATOR SAID F WHICH MEANS FvCK!) Seriously. I bite my tongue on this board quite a bit, because it IS a local board, and girls usually start posting here. These are supposed to be welcoming boards.

I NEVER said you didn't have the right to complain about your small chest size. In fact I said it was totally fine. Just like it's fine for those of us with large boobs to complain. You know what? I could say the same damn thing you said, actually. I've always wished I had smaller boobs, so maybe I should go around saying I hate when girls complain that they have a small chest. How would that make you feel? Probably would piss you off, huh? That's how the rest of us felt.

All I said was that you might want to think about how you phrase things next time. Yes, you have every right to wish you had a bigger chest.... but that doesn't mean that those of us who do have a bigger chest can't wish for the opposite. Hypocrite much? I had nothing against what your feelings and experiences were. It was the fact that you said you HATE when people complain about having big boobs.

Just saying... as someone who had such body issues, you think you'd be a little more sensitive to the way you react to other people's concerns about their bodies, huh?

Steph0871 · March 2011

oh, and your other comment is bullshit, by the way. The number of responses is determined by how interesting the post is to the group of girls who happen to be reading that day (or week.)

If you post asking for advice on an not well-known venue, you probably won't get a lot of responses. Why? Not because everyone hates you, but because no one has experiences to share. I'm not going to give a positive or negative feedback on some place I've never been.

The girls who have been around here longer probably do have a better understanding of the 'vibe' of the board, so they might be able to start more interesting threads... but the number of responses is rarely determined soley by the OP's thread count.

One more thing... my 'job' as a moderator is to keep vendors off the board and keep make sure no one is personally attacked. I'd say that telling someone you HATE hearing them express valid concerns about their body image is far closer to a 'personal attack' than someone telling you to watch how you phrase things so you avoid offending anyone. And, by the way, being a mod? Doesn't really mean a whole lot except getting bitched at by people who think I don't get to have a personal opinion in things when I'm offended...

musicalsunlight · March 2011

Also, frantic, I looked back at your posts on the board to see where else you had been attacked. I honestly can't see anywhere else that anyone had been particularly aggressive toward you. And to be honest, I feel that the ladies here were very understanding/polite to you in response to your feelings here as well.

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