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mwhitson14 · January 2010

Did you have an engagement party? We didn't, and it never occurred to me to just throw my own.

And if you did have your own party, fess up: who threw it?

SarahSmile23 · January 2010

no. well, hubby's parents, brother, and fsil had a little dinner for us when we came back from vaca and steve proposed. it was planned for the day we came home. but it was a family dinner, not an e-party.

therickson · January 2010

We did - my parents threw it for us

AmoroAgain · January 2010

It never really occurred to me to have one.

I <3 Seabass · January 2010

We did. My parents threw it for us. E-parties are pretty common where I'm from.

salt78 · January 2010

WE DID!!!! If my mom hadn't insisted, I never would have thought to have one either.

My mom, aunt and uncle threw it.

mwhitson14 · January 2010

Well aren't y'all lucky ducks

Did y'all get presents?

Sweetcheeks521 · January 2010

No, we talked about having one and then it never happened.

emilyinchile · January 2010

Nope. When FI's extended family found out (we were all together for something else two days after he proposed) they went out and bought champagne, but that's as far as it went.

salt78 · January 2010

We got small things like bottles of wine and photo albums for engagement/wedding photos. Oh and we got a hand mixer and a blender which was flippin' AWESOME.

pooh8402 · January 2010

no. I wanted one so the two sides of the family could meet. it's been 21 months that we've been engaged and they still haven't met. but e-parties are not up to me.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · January 2010

Um, our kickball team bought us a bottle of champagne right after the proposal?

Actually, we live really far away from our parents, so we really have no one to throw one. Although FMIL suggested we have one. And invite people who aren't necessarily coming to the wedding. Gee, thanks. Okay.

SarahPLiz · January 2010

We got engaged in September. My aunt (Godmother) announced our engagement at our traditional X-mas eve celebration at her house, and then presented us with a bottle of champagne and a set of toasting flutes, but that was the end of it. It never even occurred to me.

We live in different states than our parents, and probably won't see FI's parents until the wedding, which will be about 2 years since we saw them last.. and it will be the first time our parents meet each other, after almost 4 years of being together. I guess we are sucky kids for not visiting more often.

**Mutley** · January 2010

Some close friends threw it for us. Both of our families flew in for the weekend. We hosted a brunch cruise for our immediate families to meet that morning, so they wouldn't meet in a big group. The engagement party was a backyard BBQ with friends and family.
We got frames, wine, and some serveware.

squirrly · January 2010

Nope. And I don't know anyone who's had one, ever.

brit_bell90 · January 2010

I didn't have one and I don't know of anyone who has. I figure there are enough wedding associated parties and what not coming before the big day anyway and an engagement party would be too much for me.

bucky22 · January 2010

Nope, we didn't have one either.

I think its not a huge Mid-west thing, although I know a few people who had one.
It was a wedding heavy year among my friends/family, and didn't want people to feel obligated to come to a formal party. Plus, I don't really love being the center of attention.

In my opinion, I don't know that you can throw your own engagement party. Might look "gift grubbing". If you want to celebrate less formally, just have a cocktail/dinner party without making it a formal engagement party.

Lylad · January 2010

My parents hosted one, but it was a very casual brunch at their house with just our immediate families and grandparents. We really just wanted our grandmothers to meet. I told my mom to let everyone know that it was NOT a gift giving event, which worked out well.

KrisRose821 · January 2010

My Maid Of Honor actually threw one for me shortly after our engagement. It was just friends and it was a TOTAL suprise to me and FI.

She said her and I were going to dinner and then out and it turns out ALL of our friends were at the restaurant waiting for us and then we went to a karaoke bar afterwards.

No gifts, and I wouldnt have had it any other way!

It was a great treat from my bestie to have everyone together to celebrate!

cukimerrydoll · January 2010

No, my mom's SILs were talking about it months ago, but I think we're past that point by now (2 major holidays later). They were talking about doing it when my aunt was in town for Christmas, but I'm not really broken up about it.

FH and I will probably go out with our parents or something. That would be okay - my mom has lost her flipping mind, so I'm only worried that FMIL will rip her new one (if anyone can guess from my previous posts... FMIL and I get along really well).

Brianne09 · January 2010

Kinda... We had a graduation/engagement party. He proposed to me literally right after I graduated, so it seemed fitting. My mom, step-dad, aunt and uncle threw it for us.

SuMmErKuTiE · January 2010

We had one last spring, it was a cocktail party with hors d'oeuvres . Our parents threw it for us, but we had it at my former apartment since my lease was almost up and we wanted one last "hurrah" there, and the place was huge with an open floor plan. It was an amazing night with close friends and family. My parents had it catered, FIL's brought champagne and beer, we had a signature drink, and my mom ordered a cake from a local bakery. It was when we announced our wedding party and my dad and FI both made a toast when we did the champagne toast.

I always thought engagement parties were done, but after being on here for a while, I've noticed they're not the norm everywhere. I don't find them "gift grabby" because we didn't register for it. Some people brought us bottles of wine and stuff, but no official wedding type gifts. It was a time for our families and close friends to celebrate our engagement and get to know each other and it was a success.

FutureMrsL.R.Allen · January 2010

Yes, my parents through an engagment party for us. We did a nice casual backyard BBQ on a Sunday afternoon. It was lovely!

duggan12 · January 2010

nope. hes military and deployed. we announced it at his homecoming dinner and showed off the ring. the weddings a ways off so it doesnt seem very important to have a party so soon.

duggan12 · January 2010

no. he is military and currently deployed. the wedding is a while off so a party while hes gone didnt make sense. we announced it and showed off the ring at his homecoming dinner.

trinadimitroff · January 2010

Yep!!! My to-be Sister in law and to-be mother in law threw it for us! My mom would have thrown it, but she lives a little too far away.

I have never been to an engagement party, but it was a great way for all of our families and friends to meet and celebrate our engagement. We hadn't registered for any gifts yet, but we were given a lot of wine, champagne, and photo albums/frames. PIL-to be even bought us our Vera Wang cake cutting set!
We ended up with about 50 people (every single person we invited came) and we had a really fun party.

I am so happy we were able to do it!!!

vitamint · January 2010

No. Both of our parents live elsewhere and our parents have not yet met. Much to my mother's dismay- it will probably occur at the rehersal dinner. I have only been to 1 engagement party... ever!

lindseroo · January 2010

We didn't. No one really mentioned it and I didn't care either way. I think it especially seemed out of place since our engagement is going to end up being so long. Party, then a wedding 20 months later. Kind of weird.

calli0pe00 · January 2010

Yup, we had one, and we threw it ourselves. We wanted to just get together with everyone and celebrate. We held it at my FI's job which happens to be a theater and paid for pizza and beer. We did get some gifts which was totally unexpected! It was a fun night (we made a playlist of fun and cheesy love songs) and my mom bought wedding decarations which def got everyone excited about the wedding I think

KrisAline · January 2010

I did! And pretty much my fiance and I threw it, but it was hosted by my sister and she provided the food No presents, but people did bring gifts of wine or champagne. It was a BLAST!

We had a sit down dinner with our parents, and all of our wedding party. And then an OLD FASHIONED HOUSE PAR-TAY, complete with DJ... the parents left, the friends came and it was a bash!

It was so much fun!

mscutieri · January 2010

We did, but my parents and sister threw it for us. Actually, prior to us getting engaged they hated the idea of an e-party, so it really was a surprise when they started planning one.

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