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MOH Speech...

mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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I have been kind of assuming that my MOH was going to be giving a speech at our reception, but because I don't like to bore my friends with wedding details, I tend not to talk to wedding stuff to them unless it concerns them. Anyways I was just talking to my MOH about the wedding and she mentioned she was getting nervous. I assumed she meant about the speech so I asked if she was going to be giving a speech and she said no. 

I understand why she doesn't want to, she has a fear of public speaking, and with her chronic back pain, and combination of drugs she is on she doesn't have the brain to come up with something. But I am still a little sad... while some MOH/BM speeches I have heard are about a funny story how the couple met or something, most of them are just congratulations. Why can't she do that? I feel so selfish for thinking that...

At the end of the day FI and I will be married and his vows to me will be more important than my MOH/BFF's speech.
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  • mancila60mancila60
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    My MOH isn't giving a speech either and at first I was okay with it but now I do feel a little sad. At the same time I know if I am ever MOH I wouldn't want to give a speech either. I think it will be okay!
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  • leahstinsonleahstinson
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    honestly i think there are some things you should just do when accepting a MOH role. I find it really annoying when people accept the roles but then pick and choose what they want to do. 
    I understand the entire speaking in public thing but i think most can muster up enough courage just to say congrats!
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  • caitlinc09caitlinc09
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    I can understand why you are sad, I am sure I would be too. Maybe there's another friend who can speak in her place? A BM or family member of yours? 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_moh-speech?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:b998ad72-9567-49b0-9c7a-b02f5a385708Post:22eb333c-7497-478d-a3ea-69a3ef07a577">Re: MOH Speech...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I can understand why you are sad, I am sure I would be too. <strong>Maybe there's another friend who can speak in her place? A BM or family member of yours? </strong>
    Posted by caitlinc09[/QUOTE]

    <div>I was thinking this, but how exactly do I say this... </div>
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  • S0095042S0095042 member
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    In Response to Re: MOH Speech...:
    [QUOTE]honestly i think there are some things you should just do when accepting a MOH role. I find it really annoying when people accept the roles but then pick and choose what they want to do.  I understand the entire speaking in public thing but i think most can muster up enough courage just to say congrats!
    Posted by leahstinson[/QUOTE]

    exactly.
    have you talked to her about it at all or was that the end of the convo?
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  • mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_moh-speech?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:b998ad72-9567-49b0-9c7a-b02f5a385708Post:bfe700e0-2050-4f03-81e9-9649b15ceecc">Re: MOH Speech...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: MOH Speech... : [QUOTE ]honestly i think there are some things you should just do when accepting a MOH role. I find it really annoying when people accept the roles but then pick and choose what they want to do.   I understand the entire speaking in public thing but i think most can muster up enough courage just to say congrats! Posted by leahstinson[/QUOTE] exactly. <strong>have you talked to her about it at all or was that the end of the convo?</strong>
    Posted by S0095042[/QUOTE]

    <div>She did say she was sorry and that she hopes I don't mind. I do mind, but I don't want to make her do something she doesn't want to. I would rather her want to do it because she wants to, not because I want her to. I know if I say I did mind and would like her to say something, she would, but then I would feel weird about it. Maybe she will change her mind? I don't know. I know it's not required but I was wondering what she was going to say about me. </div><div>
    </div><div>Maybe after the BM gives his speech we can have the DJ say "would anyone else like to say something to the bride and groom?"</div>
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  • caitlinc09caitlinc09
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    Opening up invitations to anyone to speak can be risky, just keep your crowd in mind. Make sure there's not a college buddy around that may have had a little much to drink and say something embarrassing. I'm not saying it's a bad idea, just keep this in mind!

    I would just approach one of your BMs and ask if they would be willing to give a short speech at the reception, literally just say "hey, would you be willing/interested in giving a short speech at the reception?"
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  • max&lucymax&lucy
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    I would just let it go. Sounds like she feels really uncomfortable about it. And, it has always been tradition that the bride's father gave a toast (as host of the event) and that the Best Man gave a speech at the wedding and that's it. I think it's only recently that MOHs started to give speeches at the wedding reception (as opposed to the RD).

    Don't worry about it - she will be there standing up next to you while you marry the man of your dreams. Seems perfect to me :)
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