Buyer's Remorse on Dress, HELP!

Re: Buyer's Remorse on Dress, HELP!

• megannie

  

  July 2012

  I had the same situation/but reversed. I loved my dress that I bought, but I was alone when I bought it, and when I went with my future sil's to show them, they really didn't like it. I was shocked. I mean, I thought it was perfect. And when I asked the opinion of some other people, the reaction wasn't any more favorable. There were a few people close to me that loved it and agreed with me, but not the majority. I was stressed to the max, and in tears, and sad for a while. And finally, I, to my utter surprise, took my fiance' to the store and put it on for him. I never thought I would do that, but he was so concerned, and really wanted to see it, and when I came out of the dressing room with the dress on, he teared up. He says it's absolutely lovely, and the perfect dress for me, and he will be really disappointed if I don't wear that same dress on our wedding day. He was seriously upset that I might change my mind due to what the others said. It is my second wedding, btw, and I am an older bride, so I am not upset that he's seen it. It just reinforced my initial reaction, and he Loves it.So, I would call the bridal shop, first thing Monday, and explain. I would be surprised if they have ordered it already, and there is usually a small time frame that you are allowed to change your mind. Try the other dress on. And then decide. What matters most is that you wear what YOU love. Not anyone else. I learned that the hard way. And I know I will feel beautiful on my wedding day.......and you should too. Call the shop!

  

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• roseofdeborah

  

  July 2012

  My 2 cents on this is that the first dress is simply gorgeous!! The second one doesn't do the first one justice. The second one is a much different style and might not look as good on you. If you look on this board a LOT of girls get buyers remorse and wonder if they bought the wrong dress and if they would like another one. And you will see the replies saying that it happens to everyone and in the end you realize that you picked that dress for a reason. Don't give up hope.

  

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• EK2013 member

  

  July 2012

  Oh wow, the dress you already bought is amazing. That doesn't mean that if your heart tells you you should try to do an exchange, you shouldn't--you're the one who can best make those personal decisions--but I would literally cry if I saw one of my friends walk out in the dress you already bought.

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• walgrrl member

  

  July 2012

  Thank you so much to everyone who replied!  I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who has felt this way.  Knowing that buyer's remorse is common helps, but in a way it almost makes things worse because I'm trying to figure out now if this is "normal" buyer's remorse, or if I really actually don't like the dress.
  
  I told my fiance the situation when he got home (although he refused to look at the pictures because he thinks it's bad luck!), and even he thinks I should at least go try on the second dress.  He said since we're paying all this money on photography and videography, I better like what I'm wearing, and he's got a point.  He told me if I like it better, I should try to do an exchange and if they don't let me exchange, he will pay for the second dress.  I know he doesn't have the money for that, so no way would I let him do it, but it was very sweet of him to offer! 
  
  He even said to me, "I know it's tradition to take along a group when you go wedding dress shopping, but that's a terrible idea, because your own opinion is getting buried by everyone else's and you end up getting pressured to buy something you may not even like."  I think he's kinda right, I think that's what happened to me.  If I go back, I'm going alone.
  
  I think going back and trying the other dress is the only way I'll know for sure.  Either I'll hate it and realize the first dress is the one, or I'll love it and (hopefully) be able to exchange it.  If I can't exchange it, I will try my best to talk myself into loving the first dress, because I'm on a tight budget and no way am I paying for two dresses!  I'll let everyone know what happens and thank you so much for the advice and kind comments!

  

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• Lisa50 member

  

  July 2012

  You cannot make yourself like a dress.  You can accept it, but force feelings that aren't there?  No.  Call the shop TODAY.  Leave a voice mail now.  Then, call first thing tomorrow morning -- as soon as they open.  Good luck!

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