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Irritations...Irrational or Otherwise

Rational: My work doesn't have holidays. At.all. If I want a Holiday I have to use PTO. Granted they give us more days than most companies, but I still think I'm getting the shaft. Especially when H gets 15 days January 1 each year added to his time off, AND gets all major holidays off.

Rational: I have an obnoxious coworker that cornered me in my office (read cubicle) last week asking if she had said or done anything to offend me. She asks this because I come in some mornings and don't say "Good Morning" to her. She actually set up a test. Some mornings she would say "Good Morning" to me and others she wouldn't to see if I would say it first. She's like 50. FFS woman I don't say good morning to every flucking coworker I see. I just don't. She bugs the ever loving ish out of me and I have no desire to interact with her. I told my boss and she emailed the GM & HR Director about the confrontation so I had to go sit with the GM and her to "work things out".

Here's the worst part. She sits right at the front of the office, so now I'm almost obligated to say good morning to her or she'll be all judgy again and run to the GM. My boss says she's whacko and every once in a while GM has to set her straight. I'm just annoyed because I don't like faking being nice to someone when I would rather just get to my desk and start my day.

Irrational: I don't think I have any.
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Re: Irritations...Irrational or Otherwise

  • Rational: All the scam housing postings on craigslist is making it very difficult to find a place to rent quickly. I'm starting to realize moving is going to be way more difficult than I'd hoped. 

    Irrational: I'm annoyed that I don't think S will sleep very long today. I'm sick and don't want to run around following a toddler but it's totally not her fault. 
  • Also MK, that super sucks about your CW. I would hate feeling like I had to say good morning to her every single day. Some people aren't morning people and she should get over it. I wouldn't want to say good morning at all. 
  • edited May 2012
    I'm not sure if this is irrational or not-  Our apartment is right across from the pool area.  Parents let their children (ages around 10-12) go swimming by themselves.  They all run around screaming at the top of their lungs.  I think it is incredibly unsafe, and just annoying to hear it. 

    ETA: Nope, I've decided it is rational. 
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  • Oh man MK - I HATE that when you feel obligated to say hi to people.  Half the time on my way into the building for work I'm still in a daze.  And at my old job I walked past like 50 people, am I supposed to be perky and say hi to everyone I pass?  That's just annoying.  Totally rational.

    I'm too relaxed today to be irritated.  I will be irritated later when I have to make dinner.
  • MK, that story about your CW is really dumb and immature.  Doesn't she have other things to keep her occupied besides conducting social experiments?
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  • mkruparmkrupar member
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    Andrea that's totally rational. I hate that woman for you. The guy is dumb too. "We're married we dont travel without our spouses"? Who says things like that?

    Aryn how are you doing? We found it very hard to find legit postings on Craigslist. Amazing when I was looking in Cincinnati only one or two came back scams. I ended up finding my little one bedroom on there.
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  • Aryn - I got nowhere off Craigslist.  Try Zillow.com  You can select properties "for rent" and filter out the "for purchase".  All the leads we got on houses that ended up legit were off Zillow.
  • Brandi- Is there anyway you can bring it up to someone in the leasing office?  If you pose it more as a concern for the safety of the children (at least at first) they might issue/enforce rules about it.  I'm sure there would be some kind of liablilty or something there they (the apartment managers/owners/whatever) should be concerned about.
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  • Rational- I fixed my lawn mower, only to have the self propel unit break 3/4 of the way through my backyard, so I had to do the last quarter of it with regular push.  Our yard is huge and a little hilly so that was fucking awful, especially in this heat.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_irritationsirrational-or-otherwise?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:e22ab67e-d902-4707-92a3-f9d9931a27aePost:70548f10-aeb0-4d3e-b2bf-6fdb57f68371">Re: Irritations...Irrational or Otherwise</a>:
    [QUOTE]Andrea that's totally rational. I hate that woman for you. The guy is dumb too. "We're married we dont travel without our spouses"? Who says things like that? Aryn how are you doing? We found it very hard to find legit postings on Craigslist. Amazing when I was looking in Cincinnati only one or two came back scams. I ended up finding my little one bedroom on there.
    Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]

    I want to like her and I can get along with her when we are together, but shiitt like this comes up too much. This isn't the first time something like this has happened.  H can't stand her. 
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  • mkruparmkrupar member
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    According to her I have no sense of common decency to even say "Good Morning" regardless of how I feel about her. It's not about not liking you, it's about not feeling the need to say hello to every single person I see. If she made eye contact with me I would for sure say hi, but usually she's staring at her computer screen. She's just a shiiiiit stirrer. She's been here for 18 years and needs to move on. She said I should be trying to get people to like me since I'm the new person and she's been here so long she shouldn't have to change for me.

    1) Plenty of people like me. I bet even you like me. The difference is I don't like you.

    2) I'm not asking you to change for me, but apparently you want me to change for you. How is that not hypocritcal?
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_irritationsirrational-or-otherwise?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e22ab67e-d902-4707-92a3-f9d9931a27aePost:18c06814-ae21-4ad3-b8e5-a8d7886a70e8">Re: Irritations...Irrational or Otherwise</a>:
    [QUOTE]Brandi- Is there anyway you can bring it up to someone in the leasing office?  If you pose it more as a concern for the safety of the children (at least at first) they might issue/enforce rules about it.  I'm sure there would be some kind of liablilty or something there they (the apartment managers/owners/whatever) should be concerned about.
    Posted by CFM102012[/QUOTE]

    <div>The office manager lives in an apt above the office, which is attached to the pool.  There is no way that they aren't aware of the situation.  Plus, she sucks in general so I don't know that going over again and saying something will get me anywhere, unfortunately. </div>
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  • Thanks Loopy, I'll try that one! I've found a lot of apartments on craigslist but I'm really hoping to find a duplex or something. I'm doing well. I had my interview yesterday so fingers crossed I get it. 

    Rational Irritation: It's nice and sunny out right now, while S is sleeping. It's suppose to rain this afternoon, probably around the time she'll wake up. I would love to be able to go on a walk with her but we were caught in a torrential(sp?) downpour the other day and I don't want to risk it again. 
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_irritationsirrational-or-otherwise?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e22ab67e-d902-4707-92a3-f9d9931a27aePost:9484fcfc-0ac3-4a80-a974-a7febc453db1">Re: Irritations...Irrational or Otherwise</a>:
    [QUOTE]According to her I have no sense of common decency to even say "Good Morning" regardless of how I feel about her. It's not about not liking you, it's about not feeling the need to say hello to every single person I see. If she made eye contact with me I would for sure say hi, but usually she's staring at her computer screen. She's just a shiiiiit stirrer. She's been here for 18 years and needs to move on. She said I should be trying to get people to like me since I'm the new person and she's been here so long she shouldn't have to change for me. 1) Plenty of people like me. I bet even you like me. The difference is I don't like you. 2) I'm not asking you to change for me, but apparently you want me to change for you. How is that not hypocritcal?
    Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>This is really bizarre.  Is there a lot of drama at your office?

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  • mkruparmkrupar member
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    And if something happened to those kids, those parents would probably be the first ones wanting to sue the apt complex.
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  • Rational: My grandma's funeral is Friday, and her children still have not cleaned out her apartment (stuff is supposed to be out by Thursday) and have not even decided on a place to get together after the funeral. Originally, they planned to have it in the multipurpose room of the church's school, but now two other options have been added. No one has offered up their house, probably because they don't want to clean. I'm at the point where I just want them to throw all the options into a hat, pick one, and shut up about it.

    Until they choose a location, no one can arrange for a caterer or anything else. I am going to turn into a raging asshole if this stuff is not decided by tomorrow.

    My dad and brother got there Saturday night, and they are furious that nothing has been done. No one is thinking through any of the details, like what to do with the ashes after the Mass or how to get them to the cemetary to be buried with my grandfather.  

    My dad is also getting shitt for not staying past Sunday. He and my brother have to drive back, since my brother has to be in his lab by Tuesday. My dad could stay and drive back alone, but no one will offer up a place for him to stay. They are the cheapest people imaginable, but none of them have a problem with telling him to spend two weeks in a hotel.

    There are a few family members I expected this behavior from, but I'm genuinely suprised by others. Some have an excuse--one uncle works 80 hours a week. Most don't. To my knowledge, only two of my grandmother's six children (my dad and one of his brothers) are putting forth a decent effort.

    Sorry for the novel. I want to punch something (or someone).
  • Oh.. Andrea's reminded me... Irrational:  H's BFF's GF (got that?) wouldn't let him drive with H to Denver b/c she didn't want to "be alone" for 3 days.  I don't get how you can be in your mid/late 20's and not be self assured enough to be alone for 3 days.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_irritationsirrational-or-otherwise?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e22ab67e-d902-4707-92a3-f9d9931a27aePost:2a79d283-fed2-4de4-93f1-4db0304ba94f">Re: Irritations...Irrational or Otherwise</a>:
    [QUOTE]And if something happened to those kids, those parents would probably be the first ones wanting to sue the apt complex.
    Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yep.  I do not like any of the neighbors or the management here.  We have a lease until February though so there isn't much I can do.  </div>
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  • Aryn, let me know if you are find something you're interested in and want to know more about the area/neighborhood- i've lived here for 12 years now.  I might have insight on why you do or do not want to live somewhere (:  
  • andrea2473andrea2473 member
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    I just DD'd.  It occured to me that she's mentioned TK before and there is no way she wouldn't know it was me if she's a lurker. 

    ETA:  Sorry.  I'll try to come up with one that won't get me in trouble!
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    [QUOTE]Oh.. Andrea's reminded me... Irrational:  H's BFF's GF (got that?) wouldn't let him drive with H to Denver b/c she didn't want to "be alone" for 3 days.  I don't get how you can be in your mid/late 20's and not be self assured enough to be alone for 3 days.
    Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]

    Yep.  That's so annoying. 
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_irritationsirrational-or-otherwise?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e22ab67e-d902-4707-92a3-f9d9931a27aePost:b6929bf5-61ab-4bfd-b7b5-308b049e3525">Re: Irritations...Irrational or Otherwise</a>:
    [QUOTE]Oh.. Andrea's reminded me... Irrational:  H's BFF's GF (got that?) wouldn't let him drive with H to Denver b/c she didn't want to "be alone" for 3 days.  I don't get how you can be in your mid/late 20's and not be self assured enough to be alone for 3 days.
    Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]

    <div>Lame.  3 days alone is like an awesome vacation with yourself.  You get to lay around and eat ice cream straight from the carton and watch girlie movies and sleep spread diagonally across the entire bed.  </div>
  • mkruparmkrupar member
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    edited May 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_irritationsirrational-or-otherwise?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:e22ab67e-d902-4707-92a3-f9d9931a27aePost:44de5ef1-f6f7-4443-bc4d-d80a64f38500">Re: Irritations...Irrational or Otherwise</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irritations...Irrational or Otherwise : This is really bizarre.  Is there a lot of drama at your office?
    Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

    This is the first I've encountered. At least on this level.
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  • mkruparmkrupar member
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    Yes MUNI!! That's the perfect amount of time for an SO to be away. Sometimes I wish H would travel without me.
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  • MK have you seen her stir shhit with other people too?  Or is she just jealous of you because you're prettier than her?
  • I do not mind when my H has to travel for business. I don't want him doing it every week, but I very much like being alone. Plus, I sleep better.
  • I'm irritated that the beer is in the garage and its raining.
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    [QUOTE]I'm irritated that the beer is in the garage and its raining.
    Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]

    <div><em>Completely</em> rational.</div>
  • Irrational: I wish I would have ordered a larger banana split milkshake from Rally's. The small one was delicious.
  • I'm irrationally irritated that I don't have an irritation today : ) 

    I just wanted to pop in and say hello while FI is busy talking to his mom. 

    MK - I hope the drama at your work is a one time thing. I hate drama at work. 
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