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Annoyed Bride
So, invites have gone out. RSVP's are coming back. This large wedding of mine (now up to 220 invites for a venue way too small.....wish we would have thought to finalize guest list before booking that! oops) is becoming more stressful than I had imagined. My FI and I wanted more of a smaller, intimate wedding. Instead, to accommodate others, we had the tradtiional wedding. Nothing major has happened to stress me out....I have actually been really calm throughout this process. Just a bunch of little things that every bride deals with. But I'm starting to wish we could hit rewind and just have the ultra small wedding we wanted. Is it too late?! Would it be extremely rude to just send out a card to the guest list saying "thank you for your love, friendship and support. We have gotten married....blah blah blah?!" UGH....should have eloped! haha
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Re: Annoyed Bride
You made the decision to have the big wedding. Just go with it and try to enjoy it. It's only one day and it goes by so fast. Don't let stress ruin it for you because you can never get this time back. Stay in the moment and just have fun with it!
Just go on with the wedding. I bet it will be a beautiful day and you won't regret it
"I think this is your nerves getting the best of you. However, you should not cancel, you made your decision and you should stick with it. Assuming you are an adult, you should have thought this all through ahead of time. If you choose to ignore this advice, I think you should at least return any wedding gifts given to you by people who were once invited."
[QUOTE]So, invites have gone out. RSVP's are coming back. This large wedding of mine (<strong>now up to 220 invites for a venue way too small.....wish we would have thought to finalize guest list before booking that! oops</strong>) is becoming more stressful than I had imagined. My FI and I wanted more of a smaller, intimate wedding. Instead, to accommodate others, we had the tradtiional wedding. Nothing major has happened to stress me out....I have actually been really calm throughout this process. Just a bunch of little things that every bride deals with. But I'm starting to wish we could hit rewind and just have the ultra small wedding we wanted. Is it too late?! Would it be extremely rude to just send out a card to the guest list saying "thank you for your love, friendship and support. We have gotten married....blah blah blah?!" UGH....should have eloped! haha
Posted by sodell23[/QUOTE]
Um, what are you going to do? You cant do that- there are fire codes and its likely the venue will not let you all stay
I guess i kinda knew the answer to my own question but was hoping there would be someone who says what I wanted to hear! LOL! But you ladies are right, it is rude and the day will be great, regardless of the crap in between! Thanks for the honesty!
[QUOTE]So, invites have gone out. RSVP's are coming back. This large wedding of mine <strong>(now up to 220 invites for a venue way too small.....wish we would have thought to finalize guest list before booking that! oops)</strong> is becoming more stressful than I had imagined. My FI and I wanted more of a smaller, intimate wedding. Instead, to accommodate others, we had the tradtiional wedding. <strong>Nothing major has happened to stress me out</strong>....I have actually been really calm throughout this process. Just a bunch of little things that every bride deals with. But I'm starting to wish we could hit rewind and just have the ultra small wedding we wanted. Is it too late?! Would it be extremely rude to just send out a card to the guest list saying "thank you for your love, friendship and support. We have gotten married....blah blah blah?!" UGH....should have eloped! haha
Posted by sodell23[/QUOTE]
These two things are contradictory. Not having enough room at your venue is a major problem.
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When you go to your venue with your final number, I'm really interested in how they will react. My hunch is "not favorably."
So no. I'm glad you're happy and all, but I don't really think everything will just work itself out.
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I'm kinda relying on prayer and the fact that it will be ok. Not everyone will come to the wedding...it's not as if we are drastically over capacity. I'm not sure what i can do about that at this point?
"Never Argue with an Idiot, They'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience"
[QUOTE]I'm kinda relying on prayer and the fact that it will be ok. Not everyone will come to the wedding...it's not as if we are drastically over capacity. I'm not sure what i can do about that at this point?
Posted by sodell23[/QUOTE]
AHHHHAHAHAHAHA. Sorry. I'm down with the whole God is awesome thing, but I don't think He's going to be worrying about your wedding. People have had 100% attendance before.
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[QUOTE]I'm kinda relying on prayer and the fact that it will be ok. Not everyone will come to the wedding...it's not as if we are drastically over capacity. I'm not sure what i can do about that at this point?
Posted by sodell23[/QUOTE]
You already said you've had people rsvp yes over your limit, right? How many people can the venue hold?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Annoyed Bride : AHHHHAHAHAHAHA. Sorry. I'm down with the whole God is awesome thing, but I don't think He's going to be worrying about your wedding. People have had 100% attendance before.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]
Ditto this. Sorry, but you should always plan on 100% attendance. I'm surprised your venue is "okay" with it, since capacity numbers are set for a reason.
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[QUOTE]So, invites have gone out. RSVP's are coming back. This large wedding of mine (now up to 220 invites <strong>for a venue way too small</strong>.....wish we would have thought to finalize guest list before booking that! oops) is becoming more stressful than I had imagined. My FI and I wanted more of a smaller, intimate wedding. Instead, to accommodate others, we had the tradtiional wedding. Nothing major has happened to stress me out....I have actually been really calm throughout this process. Just a bunch of little things that every bride deals with. But I'm starting to wish we could hit rewind and just have the ultra small wedding we wanted. Is it too late?! Would it be extremely rude to just send out a card to the guest list saying "thank you for your love, friendship and support. We have gotten married....blah blah blah?!" UGH....should have eloped! haha
Posted by sodell23[/QUOTE]
Way too small = pretty big dilemma. IMO
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Annoyed Bride : Ditto this. Sorry, but you should always plan on 100% attendance. I'm surprised your venue is "okay" with it, since capacity numbers are set for a reason.
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]
Two words: fire code.
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