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Joker1628 · December 2011

I'm editing this and deleting my previous vent as to end the thread all together. I know this is frowned upon and it's already been quoted, I just dont want the thread to continue and get out of hand.

pgcp · December 2011

probably. Most people are far more gracious than that,

almost-a-bride · December 2011

I roll my eyes several times while reading these boards...

Grits8812 · December 2011

I don't see why you should be judging someone on how many kids they have, or if they have been married before.

What if something happens to your husband, something unpreventable that you wouldnt expect. Like a serious illness that lead to death, and you had a couple kids and you wanted to get remarried? You would sure change your mind then wouldn't you?

dragonwagon · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:49302257-b7df-407a-aebc-9da7e7f01a2c">Bratty Post</a>:
[QUOTE]Am I the only one who sometimes rolls my eyes when I read posts about second and third weddings and having three kids involved? I know this makes me sound like a brat and I know that everyone has a different story and reasons for why they are where they are in life but sometimes I just want to not click on a post and see stuff about people who have already experienced several weddings and pregnancies...
Posted by Joker1628[/QUOTE]

2nd and 3rd weddings?! How <em>shamefu</em>l. Everyone should have to prove that they are on their first wedding and have no children before joining TK.<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

Actually, I'm rolling my eyes at you, judgmental brat.

laurenclaire1386 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:49302257-b7df-407a-aebc-9da7e7f01a2c">Bratty Post</a>:
[QUOTE]Am I the only one who sometimes rolls my eyes when I read posts about second and third weddings and having three kids involved? I know this makes me sound like a brat and I know that everyone has a different story and reasons for why they are where they are in life but <strong>sometimes I just want to not click on a post and see stuff about people who have already experienced several weddings and pregnancies...</strong>
Posted by Joker1628[/QUOTE]
Then don't. Problem solved! You're welcome.

MairePoppy · December 2011

I rolled my eyes while reading your post.

cupcakesfrosting · December 2011

How horrifying!

Do you also feel this way about women who were in abusive marriages and had children, then left their abusive husbands, found happiness and got married again?

You're coming off as a judgemental biitch.

Grits8812 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:84307936-5930-46c1-ab60-de53e47422ba">Re: Bratty Post</a>:
[QUOTE]How horrifying! Do you also feel this way about women who were in abusive marriages and had children, then left their abusive husbands, found happiness and got married again? You're coming off as a judgemental biitch.
Posted by cupcakesfrosting[/QUOTE]
This too.

DeadUtopia · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:49302257-b7df-407a-aebc-9da7e7f01a2c">Bratty Post</a>:
[QUOTE]Am I the only one who sometimes rolls my eyes when I read posts about second and third weddings and having three kids involved? I know this makes me sound like a brat and I know that everyone has a different story and reasons for why they are where they are in life but sometimes I just want to not click on a post and see stuff about people who have already experienced several weddings and pregnancies...
Posted by Joker1628[/QUOTE]
But I want my PRETTY PRINTHESS DAI!!!!!!!!!!!!!1!!!!!

Joker1628 · December 2011

Which is obviously why I titled it "bratty post". I knew everyone would respond this way (maybe I just like to stir up trouble?), but I also know you guys maybe took this a little too far. I clearly stated that I understand everyone has their own story and reasons for where they are in life. I guess I should have clarified not that it made me roll my eyes, but was more or less discouraging. Websites like TK make paint a picture of this fairytale wedding and happily ever after life and then I read some of the stuff on here and it's like a reality check. I understand that people are here for support and to help one another, etc. etc. I just sometimes see certain posts and it takes away from the "fairytale" thats being protrayed here.
I can assure you I am not a troll, or a snob. I'm honest, and I'd be willing to bet at least once you've seen a post and thought "WOW".. or even responded with comments similar to the ones you've posted here. Didn't necessarily want to start a fiasco, just wanted to see how others felt, but clearly nobody understands exactly what I'm trying to say so I'm sorry I even brought it up! No need to continue the bashing.

DeadUtopia · December 2011

I tried to understand what your vent was, but I just didn't get it. Like, were you rolling your eyes at people planning subsequent weddings? Or people planning weddings after having children together...like a wedding to them would be less important? Or pointless? Or were you reacting to joining a wedding website and not everyone were brides in active planning? Everyone's allowed a bratty complaint now and then, so maybe if it had been worded better so we could understand what you were saying it wouldn't have gotten such a quick and negative reaction. Just sayin'.

AmethystMSU · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:5ed9cdab-cee8-4b3d-972b-3edfa4d4de14">Re: Bratty Post</a>:
[QUOTE]Which is obviously why I titled it "bratty post". I knew everyone would respond this way (maybe I just like to stir up trouble?), but I also know you guys maybe took this a little too far. I clearly stated that I understand everyone has their own story and reasons for where they are in life. I guess I should have clarified not that it made me roll my eyes, but was more or less discouraging. Websites like TK make paint a picture of this fairytale wedding and happily ever after life and then I read some of the stuff on here and it's like a reality check. I understand that people are here for support and to help one another, etc. etc. I just sometimes see certain posts and it takes away from the "fairytale" thats being protrayed here. I can assure you I am not a troll, or a snob. I'm honest, and I'd be willing to bet at least once you've seen a post and thought "WOW".. or even responded with comments similar to the ones you've posted here. Didn't necessarily want to start a fiasco, just wanted to see how others felt, but clearly nobody understands exactly what I'm trying to say so I'm sorry I even brought it up! No need to continue the bashing.
Posted by Joker1628[/QUOTE]

Life is not a fairytale. Apparently no one taught you that? If you're looking for puppies and rainbows and fairytales, I recommend Wedding Bee.

Deleting your OP after it's been quoted in the hope that it will end this thread was actually pretty counter productive. Regular posters don't take kindly to people who do that, as you seem well aware of based on your revised OP.

RamonaFlowers · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:5ed9cdab-cee8-4b3d-972b-3edfa4d4de14">Re: Bratty Post</a>:
[QUOTE]Which is obviously why I titled it "bratty post". I knew everyone would respond this way (maybe I just like to stir up trouble?), but I also know you guys maybe took this a little too far. I clearly stated that I understand everyone has their own story and reasons for where they are in life. I guess I should have clarified not that it made me roll my eyes, but was more or less discouraging.<strong> Websites like TK make paint a picture of this fairytale wedding and happily ever after life and then I read some of the stuff on here and it's like a reality check. I understand that people are here for support and to help one another, etc. etc. I just sometimes see certain posts and it takes away from the "fairytale" thats being protrayed here</strong>. I can assure you I am not a troll, or a snob. I'm honest, and I'd be willing to bet at least once you've seen a post and thought "WOW".. or even responded with comments similar to the ones you've posted here. Didn't necessarily want to start a fiasco, just wanted to see how others felt, but clearly nobody understands exactly what I'm trying to say so I'm sorry I even brought it up! No need to continue the bashing.
Posted by Joker1628[/QUOTE]

Well, the problem with "fairy tales", sweetheart, is that they aren't real. If you don't want to have your bubble burst, I suggest you stay away from the message boards where the "real" people are, and stick to all of the pretty advertisements that are written up by people being paid by the wedding industry to convince you that of course, every bride should (And does) live out her Cinderella fantasy.

MyNameIsNot · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:5ed9cdab-cee8-4b3d-972b-3edfa4d4de14">Re: Bratty Post</a>:
[QUOTE]Which is obviously why I titled it "bratty post". I knew everyone would respond this way (maybe I just like to stir up trouble?), but I also know you guys maybe took this a little too far. I clearly stated that I understand everyone has their own story and reasons for where they are in life. I guess I should have clarified not that it made me roll my eyes, but was more or less discouraging. Websites like TK make paint a picture of this fairytale wedding and happily ever after life and then I read some of the stuff on here and it's like a reality check. I understand that people are here for support and to help one another, etc. etc. I just sometimes see certain posts and it takes away from the "fairytale" thats being protrayed here. I can assure you I am not a troll, or a snob. I'm honest, and I'd be willing to bet at least once you've seen a post and thought "WOW".. or even responded with comments similar to the ones you've posted here. Didn't necessarily want to start a fiasco, just wanted to see how others felt, but clearly nobody understands exactly what I'm trying to say so I'm sorry I even brought it up! No need to continue the bashing.
Posted by Joker1628[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Did you really just say that you dislike it when people bring their real life stories because iit upsets your fairytale idea of a perfect wedding and perfect life?</div><div>
</div><div>I don't think you are a troll or a snob. You are delusional, and incredibly self absorbed. I think this may actually be news to you: the world does not revolve around you.
</div>

Mrs.B6302007 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:5ed9cdab-cee8-4b3d-972b-3edfa4d4de14">Re: Bratty Post</a>:
[QUOTE]Which is obviously why I titled it "bratty post". I knew everyone would respond this way (maybe I just like to stir up trouble?), but I also know you guys maybe took this a little too far. I clearly stated that I understand everyone has their own story and reasons for where they are in life.<strong> I guess I should have clarified not that it made me roll my eyes, but was more or less discouraging.</strong> Websites like TK make paint a picture of this fairytale wedding and happily ever after life and then I read some of the stuff on here and it's like a reality check. I understand that people are here for support and to help one another, etc. etc. I just sometimes see certain posts and it takes away from the "fairytale" thats being protrayed here. I can assure you I am not a troll, or a snob. I'm honest, and I'd be willing to bet at least once you've seen a post and thought "WOW".. or even responded with comments similar to the ones you've posted here. Didn't necessarily want to start a fiasco, just wanted to see how others felt, but<strong> clearly nobody understands exactly what I'm trying to say so I'm sorry I even brought it up! </strong>No need to continue the bashing.
Posted by Joker1628[/QUOTE]

I don't understand how someone getting married for a second or third time is discouraging. I don't understand how someone having children is discouraging. Stories of people finding love after a divorce or having their spouse pass away is ENCOURAGING.

I think that saying no one understands what you were trying to say means that either 1) you didn't explain yourself well or 2) you were being very judgmental and now you're trying to back pedal a bit. I'm leaning towards #2.

Joker1628 · December 2011

No, I wasn't just being judgmental and trying to back peddal. I really just didn't explain myself well enough. My father is a widower who will be getting married next August, and I couldn't be more happy for him.... so no, I'm not being judgemental towards second marriages (and no, I'm not bitter about his second marriage).

AmethystMSU · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:8e7f74c7-e84c-46b0-97a9-9ad185971a23">Re: Post.</a>:
[QUOTE]No, I wasn't just being judgmental and trying to back peddal. I really just didn't explain myself well enough. My father is a widower who will be getting married next August, and I couldn't be more happy for him.... so <strong>no, I'm not being judgemental towards second marriages</strong> (and no, I'm not bitter about his second marriage).
Posted by Joker1628[/QUOTE]
Your OP makes me think otherwise:

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:49302257-b7df-407a-aebc-9da7e7f01a2c">Bratty Post</a>:
<div class="Discussion_PostQuote"><strong>Am I the only one who sometimes rolls my eyes when I read posts about second and third weddings and having three kids involved? I</strong> know this makes me sound like a brat and I know that everyone has a different story and reasons for why they are where they are in life but sometimes I just want to not click on a post and see stuff about people who have already experienced several weddings and pregnancies...
Posted by Joker1628</div>

Mrs.B6302007 · December 2011

So then explain to us (without the fairy tale nonsense), what is discouraging about the situations to which you are referring.

AmethystMSU · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:0c1427a2-752b-413f-af94-f23e5935358b">Re: Post.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Post. : But she clarified later that she didn't mean she rolls her eyes: <strong>Yeah, there's no backpedaling going on in here
</strong>Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]
Ha, nope!

And discouraging?! In what way? I agree with MrsB that it is ENcouraging. It makes me feel positive that if, God forbid, something happened to H, I would be able to find love again, even if I had children at that point.

And honestly, OP, saying that no, you don't actually roll your eyes, but you find it discouraging, is still judging.

LIFE IS NOT A FAIRYTALE. Get over it.

tldh · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:8e7f74c7-e84c-46b0-97a9-9ad185971a23">Re: Post.</a>:
[QUOTE]No, I wasn't just being judgmental and trying to back peddal. I really just didn't explain myself well enough. My father is a widower who will be getting married next August, and I couldn't be more happy for him.... so no, I'm not being judgemental towards second marriages (and no, I'm not bitter about his second marriage).
Posted by Joker1628[/QUOTE]

Soooo...his second marriage is okay because he's a widower?

For your sake, I really hope you are marrying a person who will be able to live up to your fairytale world because that landing when you crash to earth (ie reality) is going to hurt like a bitch.

RamonaFlowers · December 2011

I'm still not getting it. Is the problem with people getting divorced? Is the problem with people having babies out of wedlock? I mean ... how old (Or should I say "young"?) are you that you don't realize that other people don't have to live their lives according to your "fairy tale" plans? Even if that's something you have a problem with, that doesn't mean that somebody else is wrong or setting a bad example or something by doing things differently.

Again: Fairy tales aren't real. The people posting on these boards are.

[Deleted User] · December 2011

OP, I'm seriously embarrassed for you. What an idiotic rant. You lose. Big time.

redheadfsu · December 2011

This thread is confusing.

OP- If you are ok with your dad's marriage, then I assume divorce is your issue. Fine, you don't like the idea of divorce. No one likes divorce. However, it exists because it needs to.

RamonaFlowers · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:d37fbda7-758b-4ea4-bd98-2e4b330e7450">Re: Post.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Post. : Except for me :)
Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

Well, that's true ... but you also had to fill out all of that paperwork and have all your shots up to date and stuff <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

J&K10910 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:b1819fcb-6bc6-47d6-a89a-88539dbabe22">Re: Post.</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm still not getting it. Is the problem with people getting divorced? Is the problem with people having babies out of wedlock? I mean ... how old (Or should I say "young"?) are you that you don't realize that other people don't have to live their lives according to your "fairy tale" plans? Even if that's something you have a problem with, that doesn't mean that somebody else is wrong or setting a bad example or something by doing things differently. Again: Fairy tales aren't real. <strong>The people posting on these boards are.</strong>
Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]

Speak for yourself. I'm about as real as a 50 year old man in my parents' basement in my underwear.

RamonaFlowers · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:9ceb171d-1f95-4e11-b78b-82d826eeccd7">Re: Post.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Post. : Speak for yourself. I'm about as real as a 50 year old man in my parents' basement in my underwear.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

Gah! You people need to stop coming forward and admitting you aren't real. It'll only be a matter of time before the OP finds out that I'm currently Knotting from atop the tallest tower in a castle while Prince Charming is busy slaying a dragon. Then she's going to be all "ZOMG, WHO'S MAKING YOUR DRESS?!?!?!?!" and then I'm going to have to tell her about the magic fairies, and then EVERYBODY'S going to want a dress made by the magic fairies, and suddenly, my dress isn't going to be spashul and you-neek anymore. Way to kill my dreams, J&K, way to kill my dreams.

mbody · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:12b5b5b6-7d1e-4e56-a052-4da9c4b55fa9">Re: Post.</a>:
[QUOTE]This thread is confusing. OP- If you are ok with your dad's marriage, then I assume divorce is your issue. Fine, you don't like the idea of divorce. No one likes divorce. <strong>However, it exists because it needs to.</strong>
Posted by redheadfsu[/QUOTE]
My parents are both on their second marriage. I would not be here today if divorces didn't exist and second marriages weren't possible. For the past 28 1/2 years, I've seen what a great marriage and true love is. If someone is hurting in a marriage, why should they stay? At the sake that someone will roll their eyes at them over the internet?

OP, I really really hope your marriage and life goes according to your plan. And if not, hopefully others won't judge you as you've done.

Grits8812 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:5ed9cdab-cee8-4b3d-972b-3edfa4d4de14">Re: Bratty Post</a>:
[QUOTE]Which is obviously why I titled it "bratty post". I knew everyone would respond this way (maybe I just like to stir up trouble?), but I also know <strong>you guys maybe took this a little too far</strong>. I clearly stated that I understand everyone has their own story and reasons for where they are in life. I guess I should have clarified not that it made me roll my eyes, but was more or less discouraging. Websites like TK make paint a picture of this fairytale wedding and happily ever after life and then I read some of the stuff on here and it's like a reality check. I understand that people are here for support and to help one another, etc. etc. I just sometimes see certain posts and it takes away from the<strong> "fairytale" thats being protrayed here</strong>. I can assure you I am not a troll, or a snob. I'm honest, and I'd be willing to bet at least once you've seen a post and thought "WOW".. or even responded with comments similar to the ones you've posted here. Didn't necessarily want to start a fiasco, just wanted to see how others felt, but clearly nobody understands exactly what I'm trying to say so I'm sorry I even brought it up! No need to continue the bashing.
Posted by Joker1628[/QUOTE]
I don't think it was taken too far. And nobody is trying to make it like a fairytale is being portrayed here. Everyone here talks about their actual weddings, life issues, how to make ends meet, etc.<div>
</div><div>If you want everyone to sugar coat everything, and make it seem like there is never a glitch in wedding plans, go somewhere else.</div>

Grits8812 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bratty-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:72e11afa-8851-4ba1-8ac9-40ca0577f3dePost:deb24c23-8ca4-49f5-ab95-f3da7ec7e50d">Re: Bratty Post</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bratty Post : Like Weddingbee! They love this shiit.
Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]
Haha. I've never been over there. I might go check it out and laugh a little at them. At least we are realistic here.<div>
</div><div>EDT: I changed my mind, the format sucks over there. </div>

Joker1628 · December 2011

Obviously I already have magical faries making my dress. And I'm clearly the worst person in the world.

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