Just A Thought

Lenore2010 · August 2010

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[QUOTE]I know you meant well Lenore, but I've gotta agree that it seemed weird to make a point of what has gone wrong here but not name specific examples. To me, that's worse than not naming examples, because then no one can change and it just sounds kind of judgy and passive-aggressive. Whenever anyone posts on these boards about some board dynamic that they're dissatisfied with, the first thought is usually, "okay, what happened? Which thread?" Usually you can tell why said poster would have a problem with the dynamic because it will immediately follow a thread where they got flamed or something, but this wasn't the case today so I for one was curious as to what DID happen.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

As I said, a mistake to post this at all. Not "stupid", but definitely a mistake. I get your point, Beatles but I really should leave it at that.

betrothed123 · August 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Just A Thought : As I said, a mistake to post this at all. Not "stupid", but definitely a mistake. I get your point, Beatles but I really should leave it at that.
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]
Is it really just the use of the word "stupid" that you're taking issue with? That's really stupid.

J&K10910 · August 2010

Lenore, out of curiousity, what DO you like about this forum? There must be something because you stick around.

ohwhynot · August 2010

J & K - you look incredible! Wow, you wear the HELL out of that dress! That's beautiful.

Lenore2010 · August 2010

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[QUOTE]Lenore, out of curiousity, what DO you like about this forum? There must be something because you stick around.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

I think I have mentioned on multiple occasions things that I like about it-why do you ask? The post may have been a mistake, but it was not a wholesale attack on SB by any means.

Lenore2010 · August 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Just A Thought : Is it really just the use of the word "stupid" that you're taking issue with? That's really stupid.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

Ahh, B. Never missing a chance to take a shot no matter how small.

betrothed123 · August 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Just A Thought : Ahh, B. Never missing a chance to take a shot no matter how small.
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]
Yup, you've got me pegged. I'm just dying to rip you to shreds <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

MarriedInAFever · August 2010

This whole thread makes me want to beat my head against the wall.

Nebb · August 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Just A Thought : Ahh, B. Never missing a chance to take a shot no matter how small.
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]

You seem very paranoid.

Lenore2010 · August 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Just A Thought : Yup, you've got me pegged. I'm just dying to rip you to shreds
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

Well, B you are here. On your board. As one of THE regs who has been here, apparently for years. No one is going to take issue with your comments, ever or post much of anything besides "I big pink fuzzy heart and love your forever", no matter how hostile the shiit you have posted at times gets, or who you say it to. As long as it is not one of THE regs. By 7:00 PM, if this thread does not die you will have a chorus of "ME TOOS" to follow you and Nebb.

I think a big problem here is that I am too damn old for this place. My life, my perspective, everything is so much different and does not sometimes jive well with people young enough to be my kids (if I had them).

Nebb · August 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Just A Thought : Well, B you are here. On your board. As one of THE regs who has been here, apparently for years. No one is going to take issue with your comments, ever or post much of anything besides "I big pink fuzzy heart and love your forever", no matter how hostile the shiit you have posted at times gets, or who you say it to. As long as it is not one of THE regs. By 7:00 PM, if this thread does not die you will have a chorus of "ME TOOS" to follow you and Nebb. I think a big problem here is that I am too damn old for this place. My life, my perspective, everything is so much different and does not sometimes jive well with people young enough to be my kids (if I had them).
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]
Then WHY are you here trying to teach us life lessons?

We all disagree with eachother from time to time, and regardless of how long any of us have been here or known eachother, doesnt stop us from having differing opinions. We dont PAY people to agree with us, either they do it or they dont. If they dont, they normally say so too. You just think we have a chorus of followers because no one is agreeing with you right now.

beatlesgirl25 · August 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Just A Thought : Ahh, B. Never missing a chance to take a shot no matter how small.
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]

I feel like a broken record today, because I mean this in a nice way, but... when you quote something someone has said (i.e., "stupid") in a sarcastic way in your response, you're kinda setting yourself up for the response you got. Like, wide open.

J&K10910 · August 2010

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[QUOTE]J & K - you look incredible! Wow, you wear the HELL out of that dress! That's beautiful.
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

Aw, thank you so much, OWN!

Lenore, I'm not sure why you got defensive over my question. It wasn't meant to be bratty or snarky. I was simply curious, because I don't recall seeing you say what you do like (not saying it didn't happen, just that I don't remember it) and a lot of your posts seem to fixate on things you DON'T like.

[Deleted User] · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_just-thought-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:ffcb09d1-ef44-4d98-bcef-8a90d91ee3e1Post:a8778575-54e4-4810-9b28-197fd97a31a7">Re: Just A Thought</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Just A Thought : Well, B you are here. On your board. As one of THE regs who has been here, apparently for years. No one is going to take issue with your comments, ever or post much of anything besides "I big pink fuzzy heart and love your forever", no matter how hostile the shiit you have posted at times gets, or who you say it to. As long as it is not one of THE regs. By 7:00 PM, if this thread does not die you will have a chorus of "ME TOOS" to follow you and Nebb. I think a big problem here is that I am too damn old for this place. My life, my perspective, everything is so much different and does not sometimes jive well with people young enough to be my kids (if I had them).
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]

What? People disagree with each other all the time, regs or not. I've seen plenty of people disagree with Betrothed and Nebb, among others. It has nothing to do with age, and it's really condescending to imply that people "young enough to be your kids" are all fuzzy hearts and love you forever just to avoid conflict. Just because someone is younger doesn't make them beneath you and your "different" perspective (what does that mean anyway? Why is your perspective so much different that you took such offense with this thread?)

betrothed123 · August 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Just A Thought : Well, B you are here. On your board. As one of THE regs who has been here, apparently for years. No one is going to take issue with your comments, ever or post much of anything besides "I big pink fuzzy heart and love your forever", no matter how hostile the shiit you have posted at times gets, or who you say it to. As long as it is not one of THE regs. [/QUOTE]

I have no problem with people disagreeing with me, and in fact regs here do all the time. If all of the regs agree with me on something it's usually because that's the only logical position to take. I also have no problem with newer posters disagreeing with me.

In fact, a while ago one of the regs here posted that she thought I was being a bit bitchier than normal, and I totally agreed with her, because at the time I was.

[QUOTE]By 7:00 PM, if this thread does not die you will have a chorus of "ME TOOS" to follow you and Nebb. I think a big problem here is that I am too damn old for this place. My life, my perspective, everything is so much different and does not sometimes jive well with people young enough to be my kids (if I had them).
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]

Yes, please tell us how oh so mature you are, and how that's the only reason you don't get along here. Please. That type of condescension always goes over well here. You're not the only person here right now in your age group, yet amazingly you're the only one that seems to but heads constantly here. You don't fit in here because of who you are. You seem to never be happy, constantly flip flopping, and have the thinnest skin of anybody your age I've ever met. How did you get so far in life with such thin skin?

MarriedInAFever · August 2010

Lenore, you seem like a really nice person and I would be happy to have you around. BUT, I think you're right. The majority of us usually disagree with you. You seem constantly annoyed by the attitude of the board. I think it's time to move on. I mean that in the nicest way possible. You just don't seem to enjoy your time here and that's ok. Maybe you should look for a new outlet.

Night_Sprite · August 2010

Fever said what I want to say, but nicer. So read her post twice.

katiewhompus · August 2010

Stop being so mean guysssssss!

I think there's a difference between "knowing" someone for 2 months and "knowing" someone for 2 years though, even if it's only online. After a longer time frame you start to really get an idea of what a person is like, and you know when something is off about them by their posts. If someone like Seshat, or NS, or Jas start going off on someone it's going to take me by surprise and I'm going to know something is going on. I think people can have disagreements or not like each other too and that's fine. Not all personalities do or have to mesh together.

I've met a couple people and I can honestly say they are pretty close to how they are here. I think it's context too. If people are constantly answering stupid questions they are going to come off as more condescending, verses if you are talking about your weekend plans. Sure there are some people I don't think I would get along with if I met them, but I don't think I can't judge someones online behavior just because I don't know them know them.

Seshat, guess what I'm going to tell you you have

[Deleted User] · August 2010

katie, guess what I'm going to tell you you have back.....and that doing so crashed my computer so no more PM replies for me!

missy68 · August 2010

PS - You also have no idea the age span of this board. You'd probably be surprised.

katiewhompus · August 2010

Oh noes! I killed Seshats computer!

I remember talking to someone (no clue who) about how old your parents were. They said that someone who had parents who were 56 was way too young to get married, and that I should rethink it. Because being 26 is (mom had me at 30, makes it easy to remember how old she is) is definitely too young.

[Deleted User] · August 2010

I feel like I've disagreed with B and Nebb quite a few times and we are still best buds. I think it's fine (and encouraged) to go against the grain. It's all in how you word it. If you come off as a condescending assclown, people are going to get pissy. If you use logic and talk about it with out being a diick, people will respect your opinion.

And I don't think Lenore has come off as an assclown, but I do think the whole tone of this thread was a bit too preachy for anyone to have actually received the message she was trying to convey.

[Deleted User] · August 2010

Geez if I waited for my dad to be 56 I'd be waiting another 10 years to get married, longer for my mom. They had me young.

Lenore2010 · August 2010

Interesting-I never saw things as "clashing constantly" or "most people on the board disagreeing with me". I have been a part of three threads where there was some dust up-this being the last one. I might add that if I were thin-skinned I would not have survived the first one!

Flip flopping? Well if you call being persuaded by other opinions flip flopping, I plead guilty (on occasion)

I like the vast majority of the people who post here, and agree with much of what they have to say. Flip through my post history if you like, since February and you can see that (if you are weird enough to care lol)

The different perspective, being old thing is just a different place in life then many/most of the posters here, not better or worse just different. Yes, there are some people on here in their mid 40's but they are far and few in between.

As to the "tone" thing, Cew I love you but how many times can I apologize for how the original post came off? Or say the post was a bad idea?

I am thinking that those of you who say I would be happier elsewhere have a point, though. That is not to say "leaving forever" or anything like that - just that you may have a point.

betrothed123 · August 2010

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[QUOTE]Interesting-I never saw things as "clashing constantly" or "most people on the board disagreeing with me". I have been a part of three threads where there was some dust up-this being the last one. I might add that if I were thin-skinned I would not have survived the first one! Flip flopping? Well if you call being persuaded by other opinions flip flopping, I plead guilty (on occasion) I like the vast majority of the people who post here, and agree with much of what they have to say. Flip through my post history if you like, since February and you can see that (if you are weird enough to care lol) The different perspective, being old thing is just a different place in life then many/most of the posters here, not better or worse just different. Yes, there are some people on here in their mid 40's but they are far and few in between. As to the "tone" thing, Cew I love you but how many times can I apologize for how the original post came off? Or say the post was a bad idea? I am thinking that those of you who say I would be happier elsewhere have a point, though. That is not to say "leaving forever" or anything like that - just that you may have a point.
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]

Holee shiit. Did Lenore really just GBCK again?!? Although I see this one is more of a partial GBCK so that she can reserve the right to return without great mocking when she gets bored, even though great mocking will still ensue.

You're definitely proving your thick skin here, Lenore.

[Deleted User] · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_just-thought-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:ffcb09d1-ef44-4d98-bcef-8a90d91ee3e1Post:b1025d52-bdda-4591-9992-efae7dc29450">Re: Just A Thought</a>:
[QUOTE]As to the "tone" thing, Cew I love you but how many times can I apologize for how the original post came off? Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]

Oh, I don't think you need to apologize any more for the original post. Hell, I don't even think you ever needed to apologize for it. It was how you felt. We are always preaching about this being an open forum and you can't control what other say, so I would never expect you to apologize for expressing how you feel (unless is was that I was a fat cvnt or something).

I don't even know what my point was, I was just trying to help explain why this thread might not have gone in the direction that you wanted it to.

Lenore2010 · August 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Just A Thought : Oh, I don't think you need to apologize any more for the original post. Hell, I don't even think you ever needed to apologize for it. It was how you felt. We are always preaching about this being an open forum and you can't control what other say, so I would never expect you to apologize for expressing how you feel (unless is was that I was a fat cvnt or something). I don't even know what my point was, I was just trying to help explain why this thread might not have gone in the direction that you wanted it to.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Understood, Cew. No GBCK for me, did it once and would not do it again because feelings are like clouds-they change all the time.</div><div>I did want to leave this thread on a positive note, at least from me though and note some things I like a lot about this place:</div><div>
</div><div>1. Cew. You are one of the nicest people I have "met" on any board, anywhere. I have also appreciated the kind words of MM, Bec, Beatles, Blue, and many others. </div><div>
</div><div>2. I appreciate the plain spoken, intelligent discussion you can find here.</div><div>
</div><div>3. I am even gonna say sparring with Betrothed is not half bad. I appreciate her wit.</div><div>
</div><div>4. The "chatty" what-are-you-doing-this-weekend stuff is kind of fun. It is also nice to see so many other animal lovers.</div><div>
</div><div>5. When I was planning my wedding, the wedding discussion on here, limited though it is was fun.</div><div>
</div><div>B, I have never really felt pelted with negatives here outside of a couple of threads and that is kind of to be expected in 6 months of posting. Sure, some people have not liked me and vice versa but I have never even when I returned from my GBCK felt I was widely disliked. Another thing I like about this place is that to be truly disliked by all you have to be a troll. I like also that "troll" is not a term we use lightly around here, because some boards (on other websites) do.</div><div>
</div><div>GBCK? Nope. I don;t think I could resist popping in to make a comment or two from time to time, even if I chose to spend more time elsewhere (like maybe my real life! Imagine that!).</div><div>
</div><div>Anyway, sending puppies farting rainbows and butterflies to all. Yes, you too Betrothed!</div><div><div>
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