s/o Drink for WP

blackfire5th · December 2009

If you went to a wedding would you prefer:

Beer and wine hosted with cash bar for anything else

or

Beer and wine, no cash bar

(Sorry, the clicky poll thing won't load on my computer)

mbcdefg · December 2009

Beer and wine, with a cash bar for liquor.

aerinpegadrak · December 2009

It wouldn't matter for me, because I simply don't bring my wallet with me when I go to a party. So either way, I'd be sticking to beer and wine. But I'd probably be a little bummed if other people are having cocktails and I can't, so I guess I'd say beer and wine with no liquor.

MyNameIsNot · December 2009

Personally, in that situation I wouldn't care. I normally drink wine, so it wouldn't affect me either way.

stina93446 · December 2009

Beer and wine, with cash bar for everything else definitely. I would hate it if there wasn't hard liquor there because my drink is the cranberry vodka. I would not think it was tacky either because the bride and groom were giving something out. And it would be my decision to get the drink that cost money.

MyNameIsNot · December 2009

Although I will say, I live in an area where a cash bar is right there with a cover charge. It just isn't done.

We went to a wedding last month. There was open bar for a while, but at about an hour to the end (I'm assuming when they hit a certain $ amount) the bar went cash. People were not impressed. They were confused and did make comments. I think that if someone had a cash liquor situation, they'd probably get the same response.

lyndausvi · December 2009

I drink beer and wine. So I would not care. My DH on the other hand drinks Vodka.. So we would prefer to pay for it, but he would be annoyed at having to do so.

blackfire5th · December 2009

I wouldn't mind having beer/wine with cash bar so that if I wanted a cocktail I could have one, even if i had to pay. I guess I should have added this to the original poll, but what I really hate is an open bar for a set amount of time and then it switches to cash.

I feel like they are saying, if you want to drink, you better do it now! Maybe I would like to have a couple drink but spread out through the entire evening.

lyndausvi · December 2009

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[QUOTE] I guess I should have added this to the original poll, but what I really hate is an open bar for a set amount of time and then it switches to cash.

I feel like they are saying, if you want to drink, you better do it now! Maybe I would like to have a couple drink but spread out through the entire evening.
Posted by blackfire5th[/QUOTE]

I've never been to a wedding like that. I would be WTF when I returned to the bar and had to pay. I also never have cash on me, so that would be an issue.

blackfire5th · December 2009

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: s/o Drink for WP : I've never been to a wedding like that. I would be WTF when I returned to the bar and had to pay. I also never have cash on me, so that would be an issue.
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

I've seen it posted on here a few times and it was a common suggestion from vendors where I got married.

lyndausvi · December 2009

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: s/o Drink for WP : I've seen it posted on here a few times and it was a common suggestion from vendors where I got married.
Posted by blackfire5th[/QUOTE]

I'm glad I'm not in that social circle.

I would love to say we had an top shelf open bar because we are very wealthy. The fact is it never occurred to us to pick a venue were we can not afford the alcohol.

blackfire5th · December 2009

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: s/o Drink for WP : I'm glad I'm not in that social circle. Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

Yeah, we kind of gave them the side eye when that was mentioned. It usually doesn't happen though because it is pretty standard to have a cash bar or dry wedding. My IL's went to 5 weddings this summer and ours was the only one that hosted any alcohol.

gottahavashorti · December 2009

Beer and wine with no cash bar. I like all three so I don't mind just beer and wine, but like aerin said I would not have cash on me and would be kind of disappointed if other people had liquor and I didn't have that option.

My friends that only drink more girly drinks but not beer and wine are usually fine with white zinfindel if that is offered. They'd probaly be a bit disappointed they'd have to pay for cocktails when all the wine/beer drinkers got their drinks for free.

jennylove810 · December 2009

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[QUOTE]Beer and wine, with cash bar for everything else definitely. I would hate it if there wasn't hard liquor there because my drink is the cranberry vodka. I would not think it was tacky either because the bride and groom were giving something out. And it would be my decision to get the drink that cost money.
Posted by stina93446[/QUOTE]

This. Definitely. Except I'm all about the rum & cokes.. vodka cranberries.. eek! :)

aerinpegadrak · December 2009

I will say this: I'm kind of a beer snob. So if a wedding had just the standard major flavorless beers like Bud and Coors (especially if they're from cans), then I'd either be sticking to soda or hitting up a friend for the money for a cocktail. But if there were at least one decent craft beer option, I probably wouldn't care too much what's happening on the liquor side.

jenn.daniel · December 2009

I don't think cash bars are appropriate, so I say just open for beer and wine. Either way, make sure juice and soda are free!

SarahPLiz · December 2009

I prefer liquor to wine and I don't drink beer, but Im not a big drinker overall so beer and wine only is fine with me. If I have one drink, that's plenty for me. If there was a cash bar, I wouldnt use it because I don't like to spend money on alcohol, period. I'm all in for drinking whatever is free, but I am easy to please I guess.

Obviously I think this is ok because that's what we are planning for our wedding. We just can't afford to stock a full bar. However, we know that although some of our family members might prefer liquor, they all drink either beer or wine on a regular basis so we think they will be satisfied with their choices. In fact, we are bringing wines and local beers home with us for Christmas to get their opinions.

blackfire5th · December 2009

Oh, I agree, the extra $75 was money well spent for a microbrew over coors or bud (even though those beers are brewed in the same city, so I guess they would have been a local beer if we had gone with them)

leeshab1982 · December 2009

I've never been to a wedding with a cash bar. When I dress up for a wedding, I always use a really small purse or clutch, so I never bring my wallet. I usually shove some singles in there for tips, but I never bring money. I'd be SOL at a cash bar wedding. I'd be bummed, for sure. When it is a cash bar, do people try to give a heads-up to the guests ahead of time so they know to bring money?

Personally, I drink beer so it wouldn't bother me to have a beer and wine only option. I have some friends that are really picky about what they drink though, and I know they'd like to have the cash bar option for liquor.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · December 2009

Depends on the kind of beer and wine. I was at a wedding recently where only bud light (keg) and white zinfadel were provided. Everything else, including other beer and wine, was cash. Needless to say, I ponied up the $6 for a Sam Adams or two.

If you had more options than bud light, I'd be okay.

Could you have at least a signature drink? I'm doing well drinks as well - so people won't be hitting the patron, but they can get a vodka cranberry.

But to answer your real question, yes, I'd prefer to be able to get what I like, cash or not.

rainedrop6 · December 2009

Beer and wine, no cash bar

mm45737 · December 2009

this is so confusing to me that people are so against cash bars. i live in the los angeles area and have been to probably 20+ wedding in the last few years, and for the most part they are open bar for a limited amount of time or a set $$ amount, and then cash bar after that. i know 1 was a dry wedding, 2 were open bar all night, but other than that we always bring money to weddings.

to answer your question, i would prefer the cash bar option.

banana468 · December 2009

I'd want the beer and wine but that's because I usually just drink wine.

I'd also want to make sure that non alcohol beverages were hosted too.

SarahPLiz · December 2009

msmerymac,
We are thinking of having 2 kegs of local brews, and we are bringing several types home with us for family to try, since neither FI nor I is a big beer drinker. We are serving white and red wine. I get to pick the white because I don't like red, and FI is pickng the red because he isn't a big fan of white, but we are bringng those front-runners home with us for family to try too.I also threw out the idea of having a hard cider available. No $2 jugs of white zin and a keg of bud light for us! We think that with more interesting choices of beer and wine, that our guests will be happy.

Of course soda, bottled water, tea, and coffee will all be hosted.

lyndausvi · December 2009

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[QUOTE]this is so confusing to me that people are so against cash bars. i live in the los angeles area and have been to probably 20+ wedding in the last few years, and for the most part they are open bar for a limited amount of time or a set $$ amount, and then cash bar after that. i know 1 was a dry wedding, 2 were open bar all night, but other than that we always bring money to weddings. to answer your question, i would prefer the cash bar option. =)
Posted by mm45737[/QUOTE]

And I can say I've been to 35+ weddings in the Philly/DE area and have never seen a cash bar. I would be confused if I saw one.

It's all what you are use to I guess.

emilyinchile · December 2009

I wouldn't mind either. I don't think it's rude to offer the option of paying for liquor if you're already hosting wine and beer, but I would probably just stick to the free stuff assuming there were some decent options. I just don't want to pay for things at your wedding (FWIW I've never seen a cash bar among friends/family in CA, and in Chile the concept does.not.exist). And I too would be really put off by having a free bar until a certain time - that's how we did sorority parties, not how I think you do a wedding!

I think the beer, wine and signature drink combo is a great one if you can't afford a full open bar but can do more than just wine and beer.

lyndausvi · December 2009

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[QUOTE]I For us, cash bar/dry wedding were never under consideration. The bar was the biggest, and pretty much only, reason we couldn't afford our dream venue. We scrapped all of our plans that depended on that venue, decimated the guest list, and moved to a different destination in order to afford to fully host what we could offer. The thought of keeping the venue and scrapping the bar or putting the cost burden on the guests literally never crossed our minds.
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]

ditto 100%.

our vision of the prefect venue included a full open bar. If we could not afford the open bar, then it could not be the prefect venue.

lyndausvi · December 2009

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[QUOTE] I don't ever leave the house without money, you never know when you will get stuck in a situation where you need money or can't use a credit card.
Posted by leahlu[/QUOTE]

I have not really found that the case too much anymore. You can use a debit or card pretty much anywhere these days.

I admit most times I have less than $20 on me. Certainly not enough to buy drinks for DH and I for the whole evening.

blackfire5th · December 2009

In my area, cash bars are the norm. It probably helped save us some money in the end because some of our guests just assumed that it was a cash bar and didn't drink for part of the evening until I told them or someone finally decided they wanted a beer. Crazy, huh?

aerinpegadrak · December 2009

When they start making women's formalwear with viable pockets (not the little hand warmer pouches), I'll start carrying my debit card with me. I'm really forgetful, so I only like to bring with me what I can carry on my person. If we're dressed up, I usually stash anything I need (keys, ID, hairbrush) with FI, or leave it in the car. I actually had to go buy a cheapass purse from Walmart for a friend's wedding, because FI couldn't come.

I never carry cash, though. If I know I'm going someplace that doesn't take plastic, like a couple of our favorite restaurants or the bus, I'll hit an ATM.

banana468 · December 2009

I hardly ever have cash on me. Ever.

DH does try to keep an emergency $20 on him but I'm just a big fan of using plastic and that keeps me in check.

One of the cash bar weddings I attended I also had to pony up the money for a Diet Coke! And I hardly had any cash in my 'fancy purse'.

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