Honeymoon registry

rbxp01 · December 2011

I've recently learned about doing a "Honeymoon Registry"...and I was wondering if anyone knew anyone else who has done that and if it's a good idea. My fiancee and I don't need the essentials to start a home so we think it's appropirate for us. Any thoughts?

bridetobemo · December 2011

I will tell you the honeymoon registries are not well recieved on these boards! IF you do decide to set one up after all definitely read the fine print on fees, how you get the money that people donate, etc

tldh · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-39?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:858b3060-524a-412e-aaef-73de43116af4Post:847bce88-0e14-4241-85ae-cf76a8820bcf">Honeymoon registry</a>:
[QUOTE]I've recently learned about doing a "Honeymoon Registry"...and I was wondering if anyone knew anyone else who has done that and if it's a good idea. My fiancee and I don't need the essentials to start a home so we think it's appropirate for us. Any thoughts?
Posted by rbxp01[/QUOTE]

About 75% of couples don't "need" anything so you are hardly in a unique situation here. Just make a small registry and people will take the hint to give cash.

MNVegas · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-39?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:858b3060-524a-412e-aaef-73de43116af4Post:847bce88-0e14-4241-85ae-cf76a8820bcf">Honeymoon registry</a>:
[QUOTE]I've recently learned about doing a "Honeymoon Registry"...and I was wondering if anyone knew anyone else who has done that and if it's a good idea. My fiancee and I don't need the essentials to start a home so <strong>we think it's appropirate for us.</strong> Any thoughts?
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</div><div>It is never appropriate to ask your guests for cash gifts even when disguised as a HM registry. Set up a small store registry for people who want to give a physical gift and others will get the hint that cash is appreciated. If, and only if, someone asks you what you need, you can say you are registered at store x but also saving for a honeymoon.
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graysquirrel · December 2011

It is generally considered rude to ask people to fund your vacation. A few people will find these registries ok, but why run the risk of offending your guests and looking gift grabby? Register for a few items-- upgrade stuff you already have if need be-- and your guests will get the hint that you want cash. Many of these funds are shady or sneaky in how they work. They charge fees and/or will trick guests into thinking they bought you a specific service when they are really just cutting you a check based on suggested values.

melfacto · December 2011

I say go for it! Use honeyfund they have no fees (I believe) there is really no difference between asking your guests for a toaster and an experience (zip lining) they are both money at the end of the day. I have friends that have used these and I have no problem buying the couple an experience that will last a lifetime!

Smashleyk · December 2011

My friend is doing a honeymoon registry. I don't think its rude at all! I plan on doing the same. In my opinion I think it's more of a 'new age' gift. People need to get over it

IngridL23 · December 2011

I am using honeyfund. I've been to 2 other weddings where the couple registered on honeyfund and successfully got their honeymoons funded. I didn't mind at all contributing to the site for their gift, actually way more fun than purchasing sheet sets. It is not rude. It makes giving a gift easy and people love to hear about what your plans are feel like they are being a part of it.

tldh · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-39?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:858b3060-524a-412e-aaef-73de43116af4Post:c940e517-a395-4ac6-8184-30e970bd71b4">Re: Honeymoon registry</a>:
[QUOTE]My friend is doing a honeymoon registry. I don't think its rude at all! I plan on doing the same. In my opinion I think it's more of a 'new age' gift. People need to get over it
Posted by Smashleyk[/QUOTE]

It's not a "new age" gift. It is a lie that you are telling your guests. They think they are buying you scuba lessons or a couples massage when they are doing no such thing. They are giving their money to a middle man who then turns around and hands it to you minus their service fees (in most cases). Any way you try to dress it up, a HMR is nothing more than a cash registry and is rude and wrong in every way.

Megan and Tyler · December 2011

I'm also looking into this. Our ceremony/reception site offers this and I thought it sounded like a great idea. My fiance and I have been living together for almost 5 years now, and we aren't planning on moving into a house any time soon (we haven't decided if our current location is our permanent "home" yet). Because we've been living together for so long, we've acquired all the essentials and our apartment is so small that we can't take on much more. We are also paying for the wedding entirely by ourselves to help our families out, so we're really looking forward to a relaxing honeymoon when its all done. So we're certainly looking into the idea, but haven't moved forward with it yet.

graysquirrel · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-39?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:858b3060-524a-412e-aaef-73de43116af4Post:c940e517-a395-4ac6-8184-30e970bd71b4">Re: Honeymoon registry</a>:
[QUOTE]My friend is doing a honeymoon registry. I don't think its rude at all! I plan on doing the same. In my opinion I think it's more of a 'new age' gift. <strong>People need to get over it
</strong>Posted by Smashleyk[/QUOTE]

Get over the fact that the bridal couple is being rude to them? Get over the fact that a portion of their gift is being taken as fees? Get over the fact that they are not really buying an excursion because of shady business practice? Rude is rude.

lkreitz · December 2011

Why not. What a great alternative to couples that already have their household set up. I would much prefer to contribute to a lifelong memory rather than purchasing something that may be returned. Others mentioned the Honeyfund and I agree. It is the only site that does not have fees associated with it. If gift givers are using their credit card via PayPal, there will be the PayPal fee. The gift giver can print out a certificate on Honeyfund, include a check and either mail it or take it to your reception.

SP80239 · December 2011

We used Honeyfund and love it! We set up our account and used paypal for the payments. We got an overwhelming positive response from our guests. We got half of the monetary contrubutions through the Honeyfund and the other half was cash received at reception. Studies have been shown that people get more out of things that create memories than item. Plus, you wont ever experience the feeling of feeling bad because you got rid of wedding gift because it broke or is waaay out of style!

If people are put off by it, do you really want them to come to your wedding? If they are negative about the registry, I can only imagine how they would be with the food that is served or the drinks situation. It's your wedding and honeymoon, do what you want to! Have fun with it!

reg183 · December 2011

My fiance and I created our own honeymoon registry website (eliminating the middle man). We've been living together for a couple of years now and really don't have a ton to add to traditional registries. If your family and friends (who know and care about you) think it's rude to buy you a snorkeling trip then they simply will buy you something else or give you cash. (side note- I'm waaaay more excited to receive an hour long beach massage than a few towels. After the stress of planning a wedding I do *need* a massage :P)

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