Wording Etiquette - Include Groom's Parents?

RachAisle · August 2010

From what a couple of my bridesmaids are saying, I was holding incorrect assumptions that the invite wording is tied to who's paying/hosting for most of the wedding.

A relative of mine is paying for nearly all of the wedding and my fiance's mom & step-dad are paying for the rehearsal dinner.

I can see getting into hot water whether I mention my in-laws or not. If I do, I'm worried about setting off my paying 'relative,' (read: ego) & if I don't I'm now getting concerned about hurting my FMIL's feelings.

Leaning more & more as I type this toward including in-laws, but wondering what the rest of you are doing.

Thanks!

RachAisle · August 2010

Thanks - that makes sense to me. The closest thing I have to parents is the paying relative. I would like to honor my FILS, but anticipate my paying relative having some immaturity issues with including their names on the invites. Oh yeah, it's been fun.

I'll talk more w/ Fi tonight though & look at some etiquette books/sites to be sure.

RachAisle · August 2010

Ooh - I like the idea of using the "son of Mr. & Mrs. Xyz."

Thanks!

Beachy730 · August 2010

Another option is writing:

Together with their families

Jane Smtih
and
John Doe

request the honor of your presence
at their marriage

Or something like that. If not I would go with:

Ms. Mary Smith
requests the honor of your presence
at the marriage of her niece

Jane Smith
to
John Doe

Son of John and Julie Doe