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NatesGirl16 · December 2010

Court--a lot of people get hurt by things done/said on the board, so I totally get you. At the same time, I'm in Sesh's court. Bringing things up repeatedly only rehashes the issue and brings it to people's attention. IMO, that's what happened when you mentioned J and Nebb not liking you.

In terms of the lurkers, I know it sucks, but most people will mention the easiest target (notice who they consistently mention as least favorites--trolls or whoever five other people have mentioned). I'm not saying it's right, I'm not saying it doesn't hurt, and I'm not saying you should ignore it. All I'm saying is don't bring issues up after you've addressed them (i.e. Nebb not liking you) because that will only continue to draw attention to them. You're not going to get along with everyone, unfortunately, and calling attention to it won't help the cause. Just enjoy the girls you enjoy.

Anysunrise · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:a4711304-461f-4619-88f9-0365d405b8c0">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MC : I wish I could quit you...
Posted by LessThanZero[/QUOTE]

You had me...at hello.

J&K10910 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:3e3a33db-107f-4370-ac67-96858da5a80b">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]Court--a lot of people get hurt by things done/said on the board, so I totally get you. At the same time, I'm in Sesh's court. Bringing things up repeatedly only rehashes the issue and brings it to people's attention. IMO, that's what happened when you mentioned J and Nebb not liking you. In terms of the lurkers, I know it sucks, but most people will mention the easiest target (notice who they consistently mention as least favorites--trolls or whoever five other people have mentioned). I'm not saying it's right, I'm not saying it doesn't hurt, and I'm not saying you should ignore it. All I'm saying is don't bring issues up after you've addressed them (i.e. Nebb not liking you) because that will only continue to draw attention to them. You're not going to get along with everyone, unfortunately, and calling attention to it won't help the cause. Just enjoy the girls you enjoy.
Posted by NatesGirl16[/QUOTE]

SO true. It takes a special kind of lurker to sack up and say they dislike someone that almost everyone likes. So if someone is mostly disliked, or at least controversial, their name is said. For instance, I noticed a lot of lurkers saying they don't like MarissaClaire. I bet if she hadn't been called out in AYG, no more than 1 of them would have said that.

[Deleted User] · December 2010

I agree with nates on the lurker point. Look at the names in that thread, there are a few mentioned many times, and that's usually what happens. It's hard for me to take the favorite/least favorite knottie questions seriously because how can you really know unless you've interacted with them?

NatesGirl16 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:35ea0792-a687-43ea-a4b4-ed79e2aea9dc">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]Honestly, if it's making you that upset, maybe you should just unplug, defriend and take a break for a while. And Celles, what happened in AYG?
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
My guess is me. I called her out for something, we discussed, I thought it was over. I'm sorry, Celles. I figured AYG was a safe place for venting, but I'm sorry I hurt you.

[Deleted User] · December 2010

I agree with the lurker stuff. They usually lose credibility instantly with me if they take the easy way out and just name someone that they think everyone else agrees with. Its bitchmade.

J&K10910 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:46eee440-d50a-4de2-8d5c-f814e00f1ea4">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]I agree with the lurker stuff. They usually lose credibility instantly with me if they take the easy way out and just name someone that they think everyone else agrees with. Its bitchmade.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

I think it's worse than not naming anyone at all. It's worse than a cop out. It's manipulative.

[Deleted User] · December 2010

Yep. I respect the ones that go against the grain because then I know they are honest.

NatesGirl16 · December 2010

Well, it's especially obvious because it's usually accompanied by "I can't put my finger on why I don't like her...".

Y I Oughta · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:b93b489e-336d-4098-8d42-5f4e46f448dd">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]I agree with nates on the lurker point. Look at the names in that thread, there are a few mentioned many times, and that's usually what happens. It's hard for me to take the favorite/least favorite knottie questions seriously because how can you really know unless you've interacted with them?
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

I think I'm going to have to agree with this. MC, it's hard to enter a community of women that all know each other and it can be a little intimidating. The lurkers tend to pick the people that they have seen other people pick because they don't want to get flamed right off the bat, but also don't want to seem like they are copping out by not picking someone. You can't let it bother you that someone you don't know might not like you. I also have to bring up the thread about how everyone felt when they first started posting, there were a lot of people mentioning that they were flamed, or put down for one reason or another, but they kept trying and it all worked out in the long run.

MISSCOURTNEY20 · December 2010

Thanks, Nates. That made a bunch of sense. I hear you guys and I am going to take all that you guys said and really do a self eval. I had actually decided that the SS post would be my last post because I needed a break from the constant "MC is this or that." I guess I keep coming back because there are some of you who I really enjoy and I am nosey as hell and sometiimes can't keep my comments to myself. lol

MISSCOURTNEY20 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:8c5da8b5-2351-4737-aba1-8092f6399d04">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MC : I think I'm going to have to agree with this. MC, it's hard to enter a community of women that all know each other and it can be a little intimidating. The lurkers tend to pick the people that they have seen other people pick because they don't want to get flamed right off the bat, but also don't want to seem like they are copping out by not picking someone. You can't let it bother you that someone you don't know might not like you. I also have to bring up the thread about how everyone felt when they first started posting, there were a lot of people mentioning that they were flamed, or put down for one reason or another, but they kept trying and it all worked out in the long run.
Posted by Y I Oughta[/QUOTE]

Yeah I saw that and actually had glimmer of hope. LOL! I am again going to blame most of this week on this damn PMS too.

J&K10910 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:cb1b7e52-7b95-4b98-8304-ce69e96e12bd">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]Well, it's especially obvious because it's usually accompanied by "I can't put my finger on why I don't like her...".
Posted by NatesGirl16[/QUOTE]

Right, I mean sometimes, posters might LEGITIMATELY not like people that most of the board doesnt like, and pretty much like or tolerate everyone else. But I find that those posters have specific reasons. I don't mind that as much.

[Deleted User] · December 2010

I think that "why" should be the mandatory follow question to the fave / least fave question from now on. If they don't answer it, we'll cut the legs off of all of their leggins.

Ash2985 · December 2010

MC, not to be an a-hole or anything, but the reason I listed you in the lurker post isn't because of the posting from school thing. That's your business-- I might not agree with it, but it's your job you're risking and ultimately not my problem. The issue I had with you was when I initially kind of started posting, when you were scamming work to get time off for your honeymoon and wanting everyone to agree with you, and then five minutes later posting about that student's situation including her name. I don't think you're a bad person, but the way that you handled either of those situations weren't the best. And until this point, you just seem so eager to have everyone like you. You are a very nice person, I think, but the little comments grate. In this post, at least you seem more genuine, which makes me like you more.

MISSCOURTNEY20 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:8a33de0e-256f-45f2-a002-d9ea01c3a91f">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]I think that "why" should be the mandatory follow question to the fave / least fave question from now on. If they don't answer it, we'll cut the legs off of all of their leggins.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

and jeggins.

MISSCOURTNEY20 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:030f2a22-5313-4505-90e7-0af970823414">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]MC, not to be an a-hole or anything, but the reason I listed you in the lurker post isn't because of the posting from school thing. That's your business-- I might not agree with it, but it's your job you're risking and ultimately not my problem. The issue I had with you was when I initially kind of started posting, when you were scamming work to get time off for your honeymoon and wanting everyone to agree with you, and then five minutes later posting about that student's situation including her name. I don't think you're a bad person, but the way that you handled either of those situations weren't the best. And until this point, you just seem so eager to have everyone like you. You are a very nice person, I think, but the little comments grate. In this post, at least you seem more genuine, which makes me like you more.
Posted by Ash2985[/QUOTE]

I don't think I was trying to get people to agree with me but to stop saying I was lying. But okay, I hear you and thanks for the explanation.

jennylove810 · December 2010

I wasn't around for this, so can someone please explain to me the posting from school issue? From what I've been able to piece together, MC is a teacher, and posts on TK while at work? But I'm missing something really blatantly obvious, this is an unoffensive wedding site and teachers have downtime at work too sooo.. where's the problem?

Blueyed228 · December 2010

I dont know guys. MC was mentioned by just about every lurker in that thread. I can see where the hurt feelings come from.

Im not saying the lurkers are wrong, or that MC shouldn't take a step back and reflect on why she is always getting called out, but to sit there and say you wouldn't have a similar reaction to it seems disingenuous to me.

I guess I can see both sides. I know why she was mentioned, but I can also see why she got really upset about it. She is only human.

cupcakesfrosting · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:0f6287ff-ffc4-4382-adcc-340e971b2b5c">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]I wasn't around for this, so can someone please explain to me the posting from school issue? From what I've been able to piece together, MC is a teacher, and posts on TK while at work? But I'm missing something really blatantly obvious, this is an unoffensive wedding site and teachers have downtime at work too sooo.. where's the problem?
Posted by jennylove810[/QUOTE]

She was Knotting while teaching. Not just during down-time.

jennylove810 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:48a71f50-43a9-4a1f-bbe9-c480d5251ee7">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MC : She was Knotting while teaching. Not just during down-time.
Posted by cupcakesfrosting[/QUOTE]

Ah, ok thanks for clearing that up.

Y I Oughta · December 2010

I've had a lot of people say that I was the one they liked the least. I honestly think it is because I am an easy target, and MC is as well, because I am not a reg, or as well liked as everyone on this board. I can also see why she would be upset about it as well, and I think every person is going to react differently to this type of thing. I don't see the point of trying to find out why/whether people dislike me and am just rolling with the punches. I think it was a little harder for MC because she has been around longer. I wasn't here for the whole thing, so I don't know what happened with her at school, or with her vacation time. I guess I am just rambling at this point, which I will blame on the pain pills. I really just want to say that I can see where she is coming from because I've half been where she is, but I also see everyone's point to stop bringing it up all the time. Leave the things that happen in a certain thread in that thread and don't carry them with you to every post.

deepcovejackie · December 2010

I must admit I did wince for MC when her name kept coming up in the lurker thread. It did seem like jumping on the bandwagon somewhat for people to be continuously mentioning her. I know it's the internet, but some things have a way of hitting home. Off topic, but I've mentioned this before, but I was waaaay creeped out by the call out site, and I wasn't even mentioned in it. I mainly stick to SB, and all you great ladies (and vegasgroom).

[Deleted User] · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:450065cf-782b-4463-a6e2-79414e8fb214">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]I dont know guys. MC was mentioned by just about every lurker in that thread. I can see where the hurt feelings come from. Im not saying the lurkers are wrong, or that MC shouldn't take a step back and reflect on why she is always getting called out, but to sit there and say you wouldn't have a similar reaction to it seems disingenuous to me. I guess I can see both sides. I know why she was mentioned, but I can also see why she got really upset about it. She is only human.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

I would totally agree with this if she had only posted things in response to the lurker threads but she has made several comments over the last few days about some of the regs not liking her. That's more of what I was referring to in my original OP.

Blueyed228 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:b9a1e460-aad2-4502-ae9f-eafbb2e4eac0">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MC : I would totally agree with this if she had only posted things in response to the lurker threads but she has made several comments over the last few days about some of the regs not liking her. That's more of what I was referring to in my original OP.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

No, I know. But we have also done a lot of knottie polls and a love fest in the last few days.

I guess I have just seen her make an effort (outside the last few days) to be less annoying.

Or maybe not.

MC

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