So the drama has started to get worse, my uncle in cali called my dad and made sure I didnt invite my 3rd cousin, my third cousin is more immediate family to my uncle (for example my 1st cousins are her blood cousins). This happened after i had already sent her save the date card long back, so they really put me in a bad place. I have no issues with her but they claim she is a homewrecker sits on a high horse blah blah. Why cant ppl just get along damn it! I have had no issues with her ever, whenever I visited her in NYC she made sure I slept on a bed while she crashed on couch to name a few things. I told this to my parents but they said they dont want to sabotage their relationship with my uncle (he and my dad are very close).
So I have known this for a month but in midst of all the planning stress and other things I havent gotten the guts to tell her I cant invite her. She texted me last night saying I was planning my summer- I just want to confirm that I am uninvited to your wedding. I felt so shitty I couldnt sleep all night. I responded to her by saying I can assure you it was not my decision and I was warned not to invite you otherwise someone will not come, I think she figured it out who might have done this. I told her otherwise I wouldnt have send her the save the date card in the first place. I feel like such a horrible person, would or could I ever fix my relationship with her? I told about this to FI he said maybe sometime after the wedding we can visit her, I dont think she would want to see me. She did wish me well for the wedding regardless and makes me feel even worse. She also texted saying I understand you not inviting my parents, but I should have been invited. I explained to her I was told firmly that if I do that, it would totatlly ruin my relationship with someone (my uncle), and my fam doesnt want that to happen.
sigh
Feeling so guilty, I cant express this to my parents its something they wont understand at all.