So I'm converting, or rather being adopted into the local Secular Humanistic congregation. I've strongly self-identified as Jewish for years and even speak quite a bit of Yiddish. My partner believes hir family will never fully accept our relationship even if I were to properly convert as I wasn't born or raised Jewish. They're mostly quite fond of me in person, so it's not exactly me, though they're not fond of my career choices, namely not being a doctor. We've yet to announce the rather new engagement. They're always kind to me, but actively attempt to pair my partner with someone they deem more suitable when I'm not around, and lecture hir on making smarter life choices than their own previous failed marriages.
What can I do to make them like me, other than magically going to medical school?
Don't harp on my partner because ze is taking responsibility for communicating with hir family and working on accepting their positions, but I know it makes hir sad and I want to help.