Of course, after I come out of lurking, I end up with an issue.
So What Would Etiquette Do?
My mother offered to throw a family bridal shower for me. I accepted and sent her a guest list. Her family is huge, and for a number of reasons, we have not all been in contact in the last few years.
The shower will be at my aunt's home. My aunt created a Facebook event (I am not on Facebook, so I was told about this after the fact) and invited family that I did not have on my invite list. Specifically cousins.
I told my mother tonight that she needs to address this with aunt and with said family that were told about the shower through Facebook (no invites have gone out). I told her that people would get their feelings hurt that they were good enough to give me a gift, but not good enough to see me get married. She laughed and said that she was sure that some people would feel like they should be invited to the wedding and just show up... Invited or not.
I told her that would be awkward for them when they had no chair or food.
Is there anything else that I should do to address the situation as far as the shower information? I know that short of security I can't keep people out of the wedding.
Inviting the cousins is out of the question. I agree about inviting in circles and this would increase our guest list by 25%.