Would you take a bullet for your H/FI/SO?

KateJ10 · June 2012

I am going to go with probably not. Why? I don't know- I obviously don't want anything bad happening to H but I know he would be the one to protect me- he very much has that instinct.

ETA: and a no for my mom. I guess I look at that situation a little more like- she has gotten to live twice as long as I have. The younger a person is, the more of a tragedy I think the death is. I would feel like that in general for a parent/ child situation though.

NicoleSahara · June 2012

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[QUOTE]I thought it was interesting that someone said they would take one for their mom but not their husband. Does anyone here feel like they would do that?
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

I was going to mention that too (it was Kiki, or RobotLegs to some of you), but the way she said it I wasn't sure if she and her H were having some problems or not. I think I would also take a bullet for my mother. If I had to choose between H and Mom, sorry Mom. Ugh that would be awful :(

Bkseller13 · June 2012

H and I would be the idiots that try to dive in front of each other, knock heads and fall down passed out.

NicoleSahara · June 2012

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[QUOTE]I definitely would take a bullet for H at the moment. If one of us is going to get shot right one, the most logical choice would be me. I feel like my answer to this questions will change over time. If I was the breadwinner or had kids I probably wouldn't. For me is has nothing to do with loving the man ferociously, it all comes down to logistics. I can't provide for him at this moment in time, so he should most definately not get shot. I think I'm doing this wrong.
Posted by kodakitty[/QUOTE]

I don't think you are, that's a very logical way to look at it.

anna.oskar · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Would you take a bullet for your H/FI/SO? : Where do I sign up for this group cause I want in.
Posted by Dot Dash[/QUOTE]

<div>please send red velvet whoopie pies to the Dakotas as your membership dues. Just address them to me and AATB. They'll find us. We all know each other out here anyway ;)</div>

krose83013 · June 2012

Yes, in a heartbeat. Three words as to why, I love him.

KateJ10 · June 2012

And now I am lurking on proboards haha

angelsong21 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]Yes I would. I have told him before that I hope I die first.
Posted by Matty143[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This is me too. He would be able to move on without me after some time. I don't think I'd fare as well.

</div>

brandichamberlain · June 2012

I asked FI if he had to pick between me and his mom who he would choose and he said that he would take the bullet himself. When I made him answer the question he picked me. I'm surprised and not. He is a huge mama's boy.

acaponi87 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]I asked FI if he had to pick between me and his mom who he would choose and he said that he would take the bullet himself. When I made him answer the question he picked me. I'm surprised and not. He is a huge mama's boy.
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

Well of course he said you, you were right there. If he would have said his mother right in front of you that would have made him the biggest idiot in the world.

dmiller9274 · June 2012

No, I wouldn't. I'm pregnant, and my instinct has changed, it's my job to do everything in this world to protect my child, and jumping in front of a bullet isn't a good example of that. I can't really answer hypothetically if I weren't pregnant because I am, and God willing, that's not going to change until I give birth, and I'll be a mom.

I love Michael more than most things in this world, but before deciding that we were going to have children, we both agreed that our priority would be for our child/future children. At this point Rambo needs me to live, so I couldn't do it.

Bec20 · June 2012

I'm prone to freaking out, so I don't think I'd fare so well if somebody was holding a gun and pointing it at me. As much as I would like to say I'd stand in front of him, in reality I think I'd start panicking and I know that he would stand in front of me.

Now, if we knew it wasn't going to be fatal, like a shot in the leg? I think I would convince him to let me take it. I am useless when it comes to blood and he is a paramedic, so I know I'd fare better with him taking care of me in the immediate aftermath than vice versa.

NovaMetzler · June 2012

I sure would! I can't live without him

willywally5 · June 2012

Hmmm, interesting.

I am 99.9% sure I would. Only thing I'd worry about is our kids being motherless because my husband isn't able to take care of them on his own ... he has a severe TBI from literally getting hit by a truck three years ago.

However, there are enough family/friends who would help and my kids are older now, so they'd probably be OK without me.

And, since he has been given this totally miraculous (as in he should have been dead at the scene and was never expected to make it thru the first night) 'second chance' if you will, I can't help but think there is some great purpose for him surviving. And I'm betting it's not to be taken out by a bullet. ; )

LDYGTR13 · June 2012

Willy - what's TBI?

acaponi87 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]Willy - what's TBI?
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

Traumatic brain injury I believe.

LDYGTR13 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Would you take a bullet for your H/FI/SO? : Traumatic brain injury I believe.
Posted by acaponi87[/QUOTE]
Ooh...not fun :(

eileen1086 · June 2012

Considering that the only reason my FH didn't die at work 3 weeks ago was because of how windy it was we both know most likely he will be the first to go and I have come to realize that no matter how much I want to protect him I can't. He works at an oil refinery and we both know that every day he goes to work something could go wrong and he may not make it home, makes me tear up every time I think about it. Also he is 12 1/2 years older than me so he always feels the need to protect me even when I tell him to knock it off I can take care of myself. We both know it would be awful to live without the other but I really don't think he could ever forgive me if I put myself in harm’s way to save him. Our really uncomfortable conversation was what his choice would be if it was save me or a viable unborn baby. His answer was to save me, that we could always try for another kid. My response was not pretty, and we have to agree to disagree on that one but I've told my mom to never let that happen.

willywally5 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Would you take a bullet for your H/FI/SO? : Ooh...not fun :(
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh, sorry .. yes, TBI is traumatic brain injury. </div><div>
</div><div>Sometimes I forget it's not a common household term! LOL</div><div>
</div><div>It super sucked the first year or so, but he is doing much better now. Very different than our old life for sure, but you have to play the hand you're dealt. Just a matter of getting used to our new 'normal'! </div><div>
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RailWayWife · June 2012

Yes. In a heartbeat. I wouldnt even have to think about it.

NuggetBrain · June 2012

No.

I would, however, catch a grenade for him. And possibly throw my hand on a blade for him.

I draw the line at jumping in front of a train.

marriedfilingjointly · June 2012

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[QUOTE]No. I would, however, catch a grenade for him. And possible throw my hand on a blade for him. I draw the line at jumping in front of a train.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

<div>snort. </div><div>
</div><div>Before I hads a bebe in my stomak I would have said yes, but now that I have spawn, I don't think I would. I don't love my H any less, but I love my LO more. It's weird. </div>

willywally5 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Would you take a bullet for your H/FI/SO? : snort. Before I hads a bebe in my stomak I would have said yes, but now that I have spawn, I don't think I would. I don't love my H any less, but I love my LO more. It's weird.
Posted by marriedfilingjointly[/QUOTE]

<div>Not really weird ... my Momma Bear instincts are stronger than my Wifey Bear instincts. I pity anyone who seriously tried to mess with my children. </div>

avolker1 · June 2012

I think I would only because I tend to be a hot head when it comes to someone trying to mess with me or my family/friends. Last year my FI and I pulled into our garage and noticed there was a man sitting in my car, obviously he had broken into it and was trying to steal stuff. So without even thinking I jumped out of FI's car which was barely stopped and ran up to the guy in my car and screamed "what the f**k are you doing?!" and proceeded to force him to open his back pack and show me he hadn't taken anything. My FI said he was SO shocked at the way I reacted and couldn't believe I would approach a stranger breaking into my car like that. When FI realized what I was doing he immediately ran up and put himself in between me and the guy.

In retrospect, it probably was not the smartest thing for me to do because there's no way I could have known if he had a weapon on him or if he would have attacked me. I was lucky that he was scared sh*tless that he got caught and just wanted to get out of there before cops showed up. Oh yeah and the police woman who took our stories later basically told me I was stupid for doing what I did and to never approach someone unless they're physically harming another person. It wasn't even a choice, I just kind of reacted I guess.

Edit: Oh and I would for my mom too, I love her too much. Even though she would be pissed if I did.

SEWF · June 2012

H would be pissed at me if I tried to jump in front of him (and I'm pregnant, so I wouldn't do it now, anyway). He's very much the protecter in our relationship. Now, distracting the guy with my giant boobs so that H could get the gun, I'd totally do that.

And my mom would be pissed, too.

So I wouldn't even try with either one.

NuggetBrain · June 2012

I'd take one for Grandma Nugget before I'd take one for my mom or brother.

I would without question take one for Peanut.

JenGin74 · June 2012

I'd try, but Tim would probably push me out of the way.

But really, rather than either of us taking a bullet, I can honestly say that I'd do my best to incapacitate or kill the person with the gun before they got a shot off.

Knittibell · June 2012

Without a doubt, yes.
I was widowed after my first marriage, and FI knows that I HAVE to be the one to go first this time! I love him, and would definitely take a bullet for him, no problem.

annie912 · June 2012

Yep, but I imagine that is quick as my reflexes are, his would be just as quick pushing me out of the way. I don't think I could handle seeing him shot in front of me if I hadn't tried to do something. Actually, even if I had and had been unsuccessful, I don't know how I would handle seeing him shot in front of me. My sister in law found my brother after he shot himself, and the idea sickens me everytime I think of it.

I also hate the idea of him dying before me, but he's 12 years old, so realistically, he probably will. But if there's anything I can do to delay it, I will.

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