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Shower and out of towners

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My soon to be MIL lives about 2000 miles away. Am I supposed to send her a shower invite? There is no way she is coming but I don't want her to feel left out. Feels like I'm just shopping for a gift but my mom says it's the thing to do.

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  • quotequeenquotequeen member
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    The FMIL always gets invited to the shower, it's just a courtesy.  Other OOT guests (besides the bridal party) generally shouldn't be invited unless they're family and it's a family custom to invite everybody.
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  • danieliza1127danieliza1127 member
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    Yes, you should invite her because she's the groom's mom.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Yes, invite her. You never know, she may make arrangements to come.
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    Yes, MOG and MOB, along with WP are always invited to all showers as a courtesy.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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  • AllysOopAllysOop
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    Invite her and give her a call to let her know that you don't expect her to attend because of the distance. Tell her you wanted to pass along an invitation so she knows she's welcome and you're thinking of her.

    This is much better than not invitng her and then having her finding out later on that there was a shower she wasn't invited to. She may feel hurt, then.
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  • golden1215golden1215 member
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    And I hope you dont mean you sending out the invite- cuz you cant throw your own shower. :-)

    My FMIL and FSIL live far away but they were invited out of courtesy.  If nothing else she cant send you a gift if she's not invited at all!
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  • mkgrovermkgrover
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_shower-out-of-towners?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:f319420f-509f-4543-a10e-44a62e34f410Post:71fabb99-a93b-4f8e-a241-18df151ffd02">Re: Shower and out of towners</a>:
    [QUOTE]Invite her and give her a call to let her know that you don't expect her to attend because of the distance. Tell her you wanted to pass along an invitation so she knows she's welcome and you're thinking of her. <strong>This is much better than not invitng her and then having her finding out later on that there was a shower she wasn't invited to. She may feel hurt, then.</strong>
    Posted by AllysOop[/QUOTE]

    <div>this.</div><div>
    </div><div>a slightly different, but similar scenario, unfolded in my circle of friends last year. friend A was getting married, and felt that friend B (poor grad student 1500 miles away, and a bridesmaid to boot) wouldn't be able to afford to get to the shower, so friend B wasn't even invited.  hard feelings ensued and the strain on their friendship was very sad to see...</div>
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