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2 left bp

IRJDLH514IRJDLH514 member
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My wedding is May 19th, I have just lost a BM and FI lost his Bestman. (they are married BM n Bestman) We have been having a few problems with the BM responding and missing dress shoping, and returning any calls, and or text, and then the guys went last week for tux fitting and the bestman never showed and said he was gonna be there the day before. So my FI calls the bestman and sees where he is, no answer. When my FI gets home he gets a call from his BM and was told they just got over whelmed and cant be a part of the wedding with my BM sisters wedding, and then my BM would be gone all April for a friends birth of a baby, I understand that but they where part of our WP before all that came to light, I just feel erked because why wait a little over 2 months till the wedding to back, but now its making sense why they wouldn't respond, and show up..

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  • caitlinc09caitlinc09
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    I'm so sorry this happened to you, I would be so stressed out if I was you. 

    If I were in your shoes, I think what I would probably do is let things be for a few days. Then reach out after a week or so of calm and see how they are doing. Maybe something else happened that they aren't comfortable outright talking about - not that this is an excuse for their flakey behavior, but it can't hurt to show genuine interest and concern for them. Be sure to emphasize that it's not about the wedding, it's about them and their well being. Hopefully you can get to the bottom of what happened here.

    Good luck!
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  • spalkospalko member
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    I'm really sorry to hear that! I hope everything works out between the four of you. Sending good knottie vibes your way!
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  • XxKrazy4uXxKrazy4u member
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    Sorry to hear. Last monday i had 3 people drop out of my wedding party 2 days before dresses were to be paid for leaving me with the bill for 2 dresses i will never use. People can be so inconsiderate...even people we consider close to us. I know first hand what you are going through and can only say to keep your head up and keep moving. Good luck!
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  • ladychambers83ladychambers83 member
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    Aww man, sorry to hear. Hang in there, everything will work itself out. Sending positive knottie vibes and lots of hugs your way
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  • mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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    Hmm it sounds strange because they say they just got overwhelmed but all they have to do is buy a dress and rent a tux... and then show up at your wedding in May... can they not afford to buy the dress or rent the tux with the BMs sister's upcoming wedding? Did they say they were still going to come to your wedding?

    My MOH recently said she can no longer plan my bridal shower or our mutual friends (she is MOH for her too) because she is overwhelmed with other stressors in her life but she is still able to purchase the dress and show up for the wedding...

    I am really sorry they dropped out :(
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  • IRJDLH514IRJDLH514 member
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    it is strange, she bought her dress. they didnt say anything about the wedding, but also still arent returning phone calls and or texts. MY FI plays softball with the bestman and he said his wife the BM the main problem, but never mentioned anything that could help us out and resolve this.
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