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July 2012 Weddings
People who just assume they are invited to your wedding!
So I worked with this girl for a couple of years waitressing when I was in college. Which was about 7 years ago. Since then she has moved to Florida. I don't ever see her or talk to her. We are friends on facebook but we don't ever talk on the phone or anything. She does send me Christmas cards of her daughter every year. When she had her daughter she invited to her baby shower here in NJ but I did not attend.
Now she just finished going through a divorce and has been pretty emotional. We are both close with our old boss from that restaurant. He is invited to my wedding with his fiance. Well my other friend posts a status the other day thanking him for always being there for her bla bla bla. Then says I can't wait to see you when I come up for Carly's wedding in July. I was flabbergasted. I did not send her a save the date and we never talk so why does she just assume that she is invited? I feel like her and my old boss have made all of these plans for their daughters to meet and stuff when she comes up here. I almost feel pressured into sending her an invite now but I am pretty pissed off that she thinks she is invited to my wedding. I swear everyone thinks they are invited to our wedding. We are already at a 240 guest list. We have to guarantee 175. I am hoping for 200 but we are prepared to pay for the 240. I swear I just wish we did a destination with only immediate family and friends.
Now she just finished going through a divorce and has been pretty emotional. We are both close with our old boss from that restaurant. He is invited to my wedding with his fiance. Well my other friend posts a status the other day thanking him for always being there for her bla bla bla. Then says I can't wait to see you when I come up for Carly's wedding in July. I was flabbergasted. I did not send her a save the date and we never talk so why does she just assume that she is invited? I feel like her and my old boss have made all of these plans for their daughters to meet and stuff when she comes up here. I almost feel pressured into sending her an invite now but I am pretty pissed off that she thinks she is invited to my wedding. I swear everyone thinks they are invited to our wedding. We are already at a 240 guest list. We have to guarantee 175. I am hoping for 200 but we are prepared to pay for the 240. I swear I just wish we did a destination with only immediate family and friends.
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Re: People who just assume they are invited to your wedding!
I guess you should tell her as soon as possible that you're very sorry, but you can only invite a limited number of guests and it's limited to close family and friends. It will sting for her, but it's best to set it straight before she does move forward with travel plans.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this. It sounds like you didn't do anything misleading. Don't let the little things like this effect your feelings towards the wedding. Keep focused on making the day as enjoyable for you and your FI and try not to worry about every single person involved b/c you just can't please everyone.
I've had it happen to me and I was caught off guard. I work as a deaf mentor and I work with a family of 3 kids (all under the age of 5) and their parents. One day the mom all of sudden said that they were going to make sure that their daughter has an appointment on the same weekend as our wedding so they can all go to our wedding. They live 4 hours away from the wedding (their daughter sees a specialist in the city where we're getting married).
I didn't know what to say because first of all, we aren't having kids at our wedding and they weren't invited. She was smiling so much and all excited while I sat there and stared at her dumbfounded. I then said "actually we aren't going to have kids at our wedding" and then told her about my FMIL planning a party back at her home after the wedding. She is friends with my FMIL and she got really excited that she'd be able to bring her kids to the party because according to my FMIL, "everybody is invited, including the entire town!!!!". My FMIL knows everybody and says she's friends with everybody.
It was very awkward.
[QUOTE]Is<strong> it possible they made plans to meet during the weekend of your wedding- not necessarily going to your wedding?</strong> I've had it happen to me and I was caught off guard. I work as a deaf mentor and I work with a family of 3 kids (all under the age of 5) and their parents. One day the mom all of sudden said that they were going to make sure that their daughter has an appointment on the same weekend as our wedding so they can all go to our wedding. They live 4 hours away from the wedding (their daughter sees a specialist in the city where we're getting married). I didn't know what to say because first of all, we aren't having kids at our wedding and they weren't invited. She was smiling so much and all excited while I sat there and stared at her dumbfounded. I then said "actually we aren't going to have kids at our wedding" and then told her about my FMIL planning a party back at her home after the wedding. She is friends with my FMIL and she got really excited that she'd be able to bring her kids to the party because according to my FMIL, "everybody is invited, including the entire town!!!!". My FMIL knows everybody and says she's friends with everybody. It was very awkward.
Posted by mekiakoo[/QUOTE]
Lol nope her status was can't wait to come up North for carlys wedding in July and to see Joe.
as far as people assuming they are invited to your wedding - it really blows my mind that anyone who is not close family or a very close friend who you talk to and see on a regular basis would make assumptions like that. i haven't had that happen to me at all yet (other than with very close friends who OBVIOUSLY are invited and want to chat about wedding details!)
[QUOTE]lady - i am in the EXACT same position as you! we have guaranteed 180 at our reception site and our guest list went up to 260, and we bumped it down to about 245. we are also hoping for about 200 to actually make it (if not a few less)!! as far as people assuming they are invited to your wedding - it really blows my mind that anyone who is not close family or a very close friend who you talk to and see on a regular basis would make assumptions like that. i haven't had that happen to me at all yet (other than with very close friends who OBVIOUSLY are invited and want to chat about wedding details!)
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]
yeah it stinks I really try not to even post anything on facebook anymore about the wedding.
[QUOTE]Ah. That's awkward. If I had room, I'd probably just invite her to avoid to the whole "oh, sorry, you weren't going to be invited thing".
Posted by BrightFirefly[/QUOTE]
<div>lol I've invited two people because I couldn't tell them no. </div>