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DH1, Junior Hoarder


You guys know how I tease DH about having passed from "packrat" into "hoarder."  He is not concerned.  

I have pics:



Granted, we have a ton of space (for now). And he does use some of this (well, from the second picture. I don't think he's touched anything on the old desk in 2 years).  But we still must keep it, because one day we will need a yogurt container and won't be able to find one!

When we met, his second bedroom (12x12) was completely filled with things to take to the recycling center.  Old milk jugs, paper bags, cardboard boxes, bottles, cans, egg cartons.  All clean, thankfully, but geez.  

So yeah.  I think I'm going to have to make him promise to get help if I die and he starts to fill the hole in his soul with paper towel and toilet paper tubes (which he's currently hoarding in his clothes closet, "in case one of the kids needs one for a school project.")  

SMH

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Re: DH1, Junior Hoarder

  • TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow, that really is hoardy. Can you throw stuff away little by little so he doesn't notice? Does he think that by the time the kids are in school toilet paper will have been re-engineered so that it doesn't require a roll?
  • zsazsa-stlzsazsa-stl member
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    edited December 2011
    At least he is organized.  I'm going to take pictures of our garage so that you can faint.
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    I... um... think that looks fine and normal.
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto zsa.  The hoarding is contained (for now).  Dh has two boxes in baby girl's room.  If he doesn't empty them by March 1 they are getting pitched, and he knows it.  I will be sure to remove the change and deposit it in baby girl's account prior to though.
  • +candi++candi+ member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_dh1-junior-hoarder?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:d5fb6318-cd39-40fc-bf90-d350f711bff6Post:d1b4b396-d672-45e1-857f-f1c592a8a77a">Re: DH1, Junior Hoarder</a>:
    [QUOTE] Does he think that by the time the kids are in school toilet paper will have been re-engineered so that it doesn't require a roll?
    Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>LOL

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  • edited December 2011
    I don't under the need for so many jugs. I would start throwing one at a time in the recycle bin every week. You will buy a new jug every week, right?

    Will he throw a Hanna fit if you get rid of some things?
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011

    you know, even if cardboard tubes become eliminated from the world, i think the boys will find the strength to go on.  i only hope your husband will.

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  • DG1DG1 member
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    edited December 2011

    Not Hanna-esque, but do you remember when he got all butthurt when i cashed in the $108 in rolled coins he'd had sitting on top of the cabinet for >4 years?  He was like a 3yo, all "where are my pennies?!?!?!)

    I did put 3 of his work shirts (short-sleeve polos) in my closet for about 6 months before I tossed them.  He never noticed - or, at least, he didn't say anything about it.  They were stained and/or had holes.  I mean, really now.

    We made a deal when we moved - he had certain designated spaces that he could fill or not fill however he wanted.  His closet & workshop were 2 of them.  The workshop is 400 square feet and still fairly open (though that's where both of these pics were taken).  His closet is OK, & he reorganizes it periodically, but that is where the TP/paper towel tube hoard is starting.  

    I almost dream of being the one who finishes the TP roll so I can replace it and toss the old tube.

    Oh, and there IS tube-free TP:

    But I am not telling H.  Good grief.  

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  • edited December 2011
    MIL hoards frosting tubs, because they use them all the time at the Sunday school.
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    dg, you should show your husband the "sir patrick' episode of hoarders and then call him sir patrick all the time.
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  • edited December 2011
    Why does he save the tubes?
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  • DG1DG1 member
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    edited December 2011

    He saves the tubes because little kids use them for craft projects in kindergarten.  Think of all the possibilities - paper towel tube on top of 4 TP tubes = wiener dog.  Stuff like that.  Apparently a coworker once needed a bunch for his kid's class, so DH is now determined that he will have those things when his kids need them. You know, in 4 or 5 years.  

    Also troubling is that we don't have curbside recycling.  So you have to physically bring your stuff to the recycling center, and they don't have teh best hours.  So recyclables DO stack up until I decide I'm sick of living in a pile of trash and throw them away.  So I let H keep ONE trash can for recyclables. When it's full, I put the recyclables in the trash.  I feel badly, but I'm only willing to put so much effort into it.

    I can't be too hard on him, because I do have my clutter areas (mostly to-be-filed crap from the mail). But I think he's a little ridiculous with the containers.  I didn't DARE tell him I was tossing some of the (very nice) containers that the kids' legos came in.  It's just like on Hoarders when they say, "but I can USE that!!!"  Uh-huh.  Or you can live in a clean house for the 4 years until you actually would use it, and then, since you are able to, you buy what you need when you need it.

    I should show you the shelf-o-caulk.  He swears he needs 20 tubes, because "they're all different!" 

    I'll have to look up the Sir Patrick episode.  

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  • edited December 2011
    Interesting. What if they aren't into crafts, and you guys have five years worth of tubes?

    I would toss some of them too.  You're good, cause he would stay po'ed at me.

    I hate clutter, and will purge with the quickness.
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  • DG1DG1 member
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    edited December 2011
    that's why the clutter stays in HIS spaces. 

    Word of advice - his & hers closets can save a marriage.  

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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    edited December 2011
    Your DH's space = my DH's space. 

    We did institute rules.  His is more useful though.  It was hard to bitch after he was able to build a full computer to help out some friends from spare parts.  But, in the last big clean out where we finally fixed the big storage closet, he did go through everything and I actually had to rein him in a bit from purging too much.  I asked why and he said he'd gotten so used to the clutter free that reigned in the rest of the space that seeing all of his clutter made him annoyed.

    I like the "If it's important, it should be displayed and/or used RIGHT NOW" that the old Clean Sweep guy had.  Which is why he has far more memory stuff in shadowboxes or displayed out than ever before.  I think khe likes it too.  Toilet roll tubes =/= important.  Motherboards are a bit harder to argue.
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