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Second Reception

Because we are having a destination wedding my fiance and I were thinking of having a second casual reception when we got home. Has anyone done this? And do we still invite the people that come to the wedding, or just those who don't? Also, I was thinking we should note in the invitation that we are having the second reception. Is that a good idea or should I just send out different invitations all together? Hope this  makes sense.
  Thanks in advance for your imputCool
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Re: Second Reception

  • edited December 2011
    Many people do an AHR. We didn't, because we chose to do a DW because, you know, we wanted to have a DW.

    My personal opinion is that you invite everyone you invited to your wedding - don't do an a and b list. I'd probably mail out a different invite too it - you never know, a lot of your guests might be able to attend the DW, so you might want to forgo the AHR all together.
  • sld0618sld0618 member
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    edited December 2011
    We chose to have a small DW with a large AHR.  It's more for our parents because they wanted a traditional reception.  I'm sending out separate invites but the AHR invite is included in the DW invite for those invites to that.  It's only family and the BP invited to the DW.  It's fun to have an AHR, but it's obviously more stressful and like you're planning two weddings instead of just one.
  • kimmykupcakeskimmykupcakes member
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    edited December 2011
    We are doing a backyard luau for an at home reception.  Very low-key and won't cost much, but it gives us the opportunity to include everyone.
  • TripleAubsTripleAubs member
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    edited December 2011
    We technically didn't have a DW since we already live in Hawaii, but pretty much all of my family and friends I grew up with all live in California. If I had tried to invite everyone to HI, the guest list would've been out of control and not everyone would've been able to come. We had a 120 guest wedding in HI, and the only OOT people we invited were my family (almost everyone made it) and a few close friends.

    Doing an AHR in California gave us and our guests a second chance to celebrate! We invited everyone from CA who came to our wedding in HI (so that was immediate and extended family and the few friends) and everyone else (parents friends, super extended family, etc. That was about 100 people. We did a casual outdoor lunch at a restaurant with no set schedule. We had a grand entrance, my dad did a speech, we had a buffet lunch, and hours of dancing! It was so much fun and very laidback. We did wear our wedding attire again which was great. 

    We sent out totally separate invitations. The AHR ones said something like "K + A are tying the knot in Honolulu Hawaii on 10-9-10. Please join us for a reception celebrating their marriage on 10-24-10" etc. Everyone seemed to understand that only close family and friends were invited to the Hawaii wedding.
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://oahu.weddings.com/Sites/weddings/Pages/main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_hawaii_second-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:73Discussion:2e579377-be30-4ce2-b7f6-550ef9f29b0fPost:bca6eb9f-a576-4b29-9d96-227cf05c48f3">Re: Second Reception</a>:
    [QUOTE]We are doing a backyard luau for an at home reception.  Very low-key and won't cost much, but it gives us the opportunity to include everyone.
    Posted by kimmykupcakes[/QUOTE]
    We're doing this as well, that way all the coworkers from my Fiance's work and mine can come. We are sending seperate invites out for those, but everyone is welcome to come to it (including the ppl coming to HI) . I didn't mention anything about it on our formal hawaii invitations, just in case we decide to cancel the bbq. (sometimes I could care less about having a boat load of people intrude on our house!)
  • Ready2wed11Ready2wed11 member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011

    Thanks for the tips ladies.

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