17 engaged and soon to be married to a air force fire fighter

Courtney1005 · January 2012

Its a very stressful thing to plan a wedding withen a two week time zone of september 1st an 15th. Im working on having the reception and ceremony on the arkansas queen river boat on the river, any idea on how to save money on extras due to the expensive booking date? Our colors are blue and white, he wil be in his blues. Im just stressing out about planning this and having everything ready on a budget.

ggirl2001 · January 2012

Um you can wait if you feel its going to be too expensive.

I would suggest waiting until you can at least legally buy a lottery ticket.

edited for clarity

kara811 · January 2012

At first I wasn't even sure whether to read this soon-to-be trainwreck, but I guess we did ask for it! OP, are you really 17? Out of high school yet? Your parents will have to sign your wedding license right? You should wait and save up if you cant afford a wedding right now. Also, quite frankly, you are too young.

firemedicrr · January 2012

I'll second what ggirl said.

gg-

couldn't put it better myself. hehe.

ggirl2001 · January 2012

I was going to say legally drink at your wedding, but I have a feeling that I would just get argued with. I'm keeping my expectations low.

SamiJoeB · January 2012

bahahaha... I don't know if I should be excited about this, or just to face-palm and roll my eyes.

Seriously, OP.. you need to wait.

Sammy0709 · January 2012

I'm hoping this is an AE/MUD. Just in case it is not. I would like to know OP's reasoning for marrying so young. I also agree with waiting though.

CAB1217 · January 2012

Ask, and we shall receive ladies!

now we just need OP to come back... I am patiently waiting for your return, young lady.

ggirl2001 · January 2012

Can I make a curfew joke now/?

SamiJoeB · January 2012

My guess is that her parents don't support them getting married, and he's probably not even gone to boot yet. She's probably planning on using his pay checks to pay for the wedding.. Or.. she's a troll. No harm comes from waiting, but lots of harm can come from rushing into marriage.

SamiJoeB · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_17-engaged-soon-married-air-force-fire-fighter?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:f371d3ef-e2f9-4e9a-80d0-0c38d00cb596Post:b60bb969-ade3-4993-aed2-0250224018e2">Re: 17 engaged and soon to be married to a air force fire fighter</a>:
[QUOTE]Can I make a curfew joke now/?
Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]

Yes. Please and thank you.

CAB1217 · January 2012

We're hungry like the wolves right now! Ha ha ha!

kara811 · January 2012

I am patiently waiting for that joke GG!

ggirl2001 · January 2012

ohh which insulting one can I use. I'm pretty sure I will scare OP off.

do you think if they got married, and he deployed, and she stayed at home with her parents, she would still have a curfew??

SamiJoeB · January 2012

Probably! and I bet if she brought home a bad grade she'd be grounded also..

ggirl2001 · January 2012

My mom once tried to stop me from going out when I was a freshmen in college, because I went out too much apparently. My dad helped me convince her to let me go out. go figure.

kara811 · January 2012

"My house, my rules!" Thats what I would do if I were her parents.

Sammy0709 · January 2012

Not gonna lie, if I were living with my mom while DH is deployed I'd probably have a curfew because my mom is paranoid and thinks I'll get raped and murdered if I'm out past noon. I'm 23 lol.

ggirl2001 · January 2012

Sammy-I'm 28. When we were visiting my parents for Xmas, H and I went to the bar, across the street. She texted me at midnight to make sure we were ok and to tell me she was going to bed.

She's crazy like that, but in a good way.

ggirl2001 · January 2012

I can't even imagine the conversation with my parents if I wanted to get married when I was 17. I think it would end with a face slap and a "what the eff is wrong with you", and it would never be discussed again.

firsttimersluck · January 2012

*sigh*

I feel like this is a troll that one of you made to liven up the board.

I also have no interest in bashing on OPs age, considering she hasn't been a nasty replier [yet].

OP, I suggest you look at two places for your budget wedding:

1. Your local board (they will know the cheaper, better vendors in that particular area).

2. The budget board.

You're asking a very generalized question, so it's best to be most specific.

Cheap invites? Absolutely do-able. DIY them from kits at Target/Michaels/Hobby Lobby. Sign up for Vista Print to get their constant free-be e-mails.

Cheaper gown? Absolutely do-able. Check racks RIGHT NOW since wedding season just finished, and new lines are starting to come out. Look at department stores. JCrew, The Loft, Macys, etc all have beautiful wedding gowns for great prices (and often go on great sales). Check on DB for their $99 gown sale. Keep an eye on Craigslist for beautiful gowns that people are desperate to sell.

Specific budget questions are easy to answer, but a general budget question requires you to research online more, and not have us do that for you. Make sense?

Also, you have PLENTY of time. PLENTY.

I had a September wedding and signed all my vendors by February, so I was bored as heck for 4 months. Don't stress. It'll come together.

GL and Happy Planning

ggirl2001 · January 2012

I wouldn't bash on her age if she was nasty. I'm saying you're 17 and you need to wait. I would say that to anyone if they were rude or nice to me. I cannot in good faith give advice to someone who I feel is wayyyy too young to consider marriage. If she is that worried about affording it and only has 2 week window to have the wedding, then yeah waiting is the best option, not rushing during that time.

Am I poking fun, yeah, is it in jest, absolutely. Also there is the fact I'm pretty sure this is MUD so I'm not too concerned about hurting her feelings. If she is real, then well, I will apologize for the jokes, but my answer still stands that she is too young to consider getting married. If you can't legally buy lottery tickets, then you are too young.

firsttimersluck · January 2012

lol.

I just don't have the energy to keep up with you ladies tonight.

ggirl2001 · January 2012

And, we all know "2 week windows" can change in a heart beat, thats the other reason to wait. ( if this is real)

And also, this totally has to be MUD, 17, and a 2 week window for the wedding? C'mon. Throw a secret wedding in there and we are good to go.

I also can't imagine spending money on a wedding at 17, for reals. There were so many other things I would want to spend money on. My signicant other was soo not one of them (because I didn't have a signicant person in my life haha, just random others

firsttimersluck · January 2012

I'm surprised that there is even effort in this thread... after I wrote what I did, I realized this is her first post and she joined today.

Total MUD.

waaaste of my time and enerrrgyyyyy (Can you tell that I'm sleepy and cranky?

) )

kara811 · January 2012

I comepletely agree with GG. I would never give wedding advice to a 17 year old. She needs to live a little first. Also, since this is probably MUD, thanks for the entertainment tonight.

Sammy0709 · January 2012

Is firefighter even a job in the Air Force? I thought in most branches certain jobs just also were firefighters. I could be wrong I'm just curious.

texasgurly13 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_17-engaged-soon-married-air-force-fire-fighter?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:f371d3ef-e2f9-4e9a-80d0-0c38d00cb596Post:79c6394c-0897-447f-b79f-604517b186c5">Re: 17 engaged and soon to be married to a air force fire fighter</a>:
[QUOTE]Is firefighter even a job in the Air Force? I thought in most branches certain jobs just also were firefighters. I could be wrong I'm just curious.
Posted by Sammy0709[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>It was on the list of AFSCs (AF jobs) when I went to go talk to my recruiter a few months ago. I don't know how often slots come up for it though.

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Zimsgirl · January 2012

Wow I haven't been on in a few hours. This was entertaining haha

iluvmytxrgr · January 2012

Are you aware that a SM can be given an article 15 or even jail time for being in a relationship with a minor?

BTW, I call MUD

calindi · January 2012

I don't even think this is entertaining. I'm not generally a fan of MUD or even real life drama. Drama just basically sucks.

OP, if you're for real, please seriously consider waiting. Like others said, there's absolutely no harm in waiting and potentially an awful lot of harm in rushing (we have several women on here whose first marriages didn't work out, and most of them will tell you that they either got married too young or rushed into it too quickly). I don't know how long you guys have been together, but even if it's been years, at 17 years old you will change. I know you both think you'll grow together, but even couples that desperately want to make it work find out in their mid-20's that they became drastically different people than they were at 17. I'm definitely wayyyy different than I was at 17. After 23 years old, you tend to stay more of the same person. I think that has a lot to do with being independent, finding a career, and having some life experience under your belt.

If you do plan on continuing to plan a wedding, you're getting married the same time as me (Sept 1st). I highly recommend the book "Bridal Bargains" - it's even on sale used for $0.99: CLICK HERE

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