Bridesmaid's father died

Re: Bridesmaid's father died

• Manwaithiel member

  

  July 2010

  You are such a wonderful friend. And you have a really wonderful friend who still wants to be there for you after her father died. Kudos on that.
  
  Just ask her if there's anything she needs. Make sure she knows that if she needs to leave the wedding early (sometimes all the happiness might make someone really uneasy or upset if they've just gone through something horrific like that) that it's perfectly alright with you. Just so she doesn't feel obliged to put on the happy face and bear it if she really doesn't want to.
  

  
  
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• bablingbrooke member

  

  July 2010

  I think adding his name to the prayers is a very lovely gesture.  As pps said, make sure you make yourself available to her if she needs to talk or cry.  Keep being the supportive friend that you are.  

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• Robyn5298 member

  

  July 2010

  I'm so sorry for your friend's loss.  I think adding his name to the prayers is a very nice gesture. 
  
  My only suggestion would be that you ask your friend if that's okay first.  Hearing his name read may be too much for her, or she might not want any attention called to her family at this time.
  
  Good luck and congrats on being (and having) such a great friend.

  

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• megandjay member

  

  July 2010

  Thanks ladies. It is hard to be thoughtful, but also give her the space she needs (in not talking about things- which she hasn't done yet).
  
  I will ask her about the prayer before I include it, maybe I will ask her after the rehearsal, so it doesn't upset her on the day of.
  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  July 2010

  I totally agree with maybe giving her space to not talk about it ot talk about it if she wants.  Follow her lead.  

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• brownd9 member

  

  July 2010

  My dad died close to my friend's wedding 2 years ago. The bachelorette party was a week after he passed. I did go, and I am glad that I went, but I was not myself. I ended up leaving early (the girls all paid for a hotel that night to stay in after going out on the town). The bride obviously wanted me to stay but I am glad that she understood when I went home early.
  
  Everyone grieves differently but letting her know you are there for her will mean more than anything. I agree with PP that she may not want the attention drawn to her. Being that close to his death, I can say from personal experience that I wouldn't want anything like that to trigger a fountain of tears at a friend's wedding. I would ask her what she would like.
  
  PS You are a really great friend!
  

  

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• gottahavashorti member

  

  July 2010

  Ask her about adding her dad's name to the prayers, she might be fine with it or it might be too much for her.
  
  If she decides not to go to the wedding, you could have her bouquet sent to her house.  You could also bring her a covered dish, and your friends could go to the funeral to support her if you knew her dad.
  

  
  
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• ehathewa

  

  July 2010

  Could you send her flowers and have them delivered after the wedding?  That would be another nice gesture too. 

  

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