So the last few months I have been busy pouring my time, effort and money into planning a wedding. My fiance has poured in his time and money too, mainly on plane tickets to help get some of his family to the wedding, including his two young boys. We recently spent $1,800 to fly them from NC to AK in December and I was getting super excited about them coming and being in the wedding.
Everything came to a skreeching halt this morning when his ex-wife said she heard from the CNN news channel that there were possibilities of terrorist attacks on the east coast. She then had a dream that something terrible would happen if she put the boys on a plane without her. She proceeded to email my fiance and tell him that the boys were not coming. And then sent me an email letting me know.
I am beyond furious as we really wanted the boys to be part of the wedding (they are our ring bearers) and to meet their new family. She is now denying us the joy of having them there. She has full custody since my fiance is in the military and when they divorced, both boys were really little (3 and 5). It was the right decision at the time.
However, this is proving to be difficult as the boys are older and miss their dad and want to see him more. Since the divorce, she has not held up her agreement they made in court to bring the boys, she is supposed to pay half, to visit him wherever he his. Since then, he has bought them 3 sets of tickets and she would cancel on him and the money spent on tickets lost. There is a lot of drama on her end and the boys are missing out because of her.
Now this is a really important day and she's refusing to put them on a plane. My fiance's sister was planning to drive from GA to NC to meet them at the airport and fly with the boys so they wouldn't be alone. I am so upset that my fiance's children are in the middle of this and we won't get to see them and have them part of our special day.
As far as options go, my guy is in Germany, so getting a lawyer may be difficult and also money is a factor as well. We only have a few months before the wedding and she pulled this on us. My fiance called her and the conversation did not go well, he got mad and told her that he wasn't going to talk to her and that he'll "talk to her through paperwork." I feel bad because he pays $1,300 a month in child support and spent over $3,000 on plane tickets in the past that she would cancel last minute for no particular reason other than she was too busy.
I don't know what to do or how to help. I had a hunch a while back that she was going to do something like this, since she had done it before. I don't know if trying to somehow take her to court will do any good, it's hard to do with my fiance being in Germany. What would you do? I really don't want this to ruin our wedding!