Skipping the bouquet toss?

lindseymon · March 2013

I am considering skipping the bouquet toss at my wedding. This is my second wedding and most of the ladies who will be there are either already married or young girls. The reception is very short and I want to prioritize what all we do. We are definitely skipping the garter toss. Is it weird to skip the bouquet? Have any of y'all ever done that?

daria24 · March 2013

I hate the bouquet toss. When I was single, I would get up and go to the bathroom at that point. In the past few years I think I've only seen it done at 1 wedding, it seems like most people are skipping it these days.

I gave my toss bouquet to the couple who had been married the longest during our Anniversary Dance.

AddieCake · March 2013

The bouquet and garter tosses both make me cringe; we skipped them.

LiLe422 · March 2013

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[QUOTE]I am considering skipping the bouquet toss at my wedding. This is my second wedding and most of the ladies who will be there are either already married or young girls. The reception is very short and I want to prioritize what all we do. We are definitely skipping the garter toss. Is it weird to skip the bouquet? Have any of y'all ever done that?
Posted by lindseymon[/QUOTE]

Skip it.

Jen4948 · March 2013

Feel free to skip it. I don't plan to do it.

Simply Fated · March 2013

I want to skip them, too.

AJuliaNJ · March 2013

Not only do I think it's ok to skip it, I think your guests will be grateful for it.

It is so not happening at my wedding. As someone getting married at 33, I have been put through my fair share of embarrassing scenes related to the bouquet toss.

lindseymon · March 2013

Awesome, thank you everyone! The garter thing makes my stomach turn, I think it is so offensive. The bouquet is definitely getting skipped too! I appreciate all of your feedback.

MoonlightSilver · March 2013

We skipped both. Not a single person mentioned it at the wedding or afterward.

kipnus · March 2013

We skipped the garter toss, which I hate, and almost forgot to do the bouquet toss. I basically handed it to my sister, who was getting married 50 days after me. NBD.

renegade gaucho · March 2013

It's been eight years since I've been to a wedding where the bouquet and garter toss were done.

monkeysip · March 2013

Ugh... yes we're skipping both. I'm glad to hear other brides say no one missed it.

ScrabbleAndLlamas · March 2013

My bridesmaids are requesting it, weirdly enough. Otherwise, I probably wouldn't do it. No garter toss- it's icky to me.

jessicabessica · March 2013

We skipped both. I wouldn't have wanted to interrupt the dancing at our reception to do them. (Also, I think they're ridiculous.)

Ella and Pedro · March 2013

I am definitely not throwing my bouquet, nor any toss bouquet that might show up as a gift from the florist (we didn't hear of one, nor did we buy/request one.)

First, my bouquet is a cascade bouquet and will be both heavy and dangerous to throw LOL

Second, I want to save it as table decor and then at home in a vase (drying what I can salvage)

If I was not carrying a heavy bouquet, what I'd do is give the bouquet to a special lady who attends (maybe the most senior lady - eldest), or pull a flower out and give one to each older lady who attends (or young lady/little girl)

I have also read some ideas of what to do with the other flowers, for those folks having a wedding that is not in their hometown and therefore folks won't easily be able to just drive home with a centerpiece or an aisle floral. I haven't asked my fiance, but I had an idea we'd give a centerpiece to a few guests (his mother lives not far, for example, our two godmothers will both be there, etc.) and the rest of the flowers we'd take to a nursing home or children's hospital. We're in D.C. so we could also bring flowers to Arlington National Cementary. We'd do this on Sunday, so we could return the containers by the end of the week (our deadline from the florist)....

So, you could do something similar, give all the flowers to a nursing home hospital or some such ....and some to your Godmothers...Mothers...Sisters....Grandmothers...

Good luck!

ladytori · March 2013

We did things differently. I had a "dance off" for the bouquet and all women, regardless of martial status, could win it. However, we didn't do the garter toss. I have never been a big fan of it.

Knottie_22383372 · March 2013

All of these comments were very helpful for me too! I am planning my wedding, and am feeling a little overwhelmed, and things like this are getting to me too even though they are just small details...

nikole712 · March 2013

I am definitely skipping both!

Maggie0829 · March 2013

We skipped both. I hate both tosses because they eat into the time where I can actually be enjoing the evening dancing or mingling with my friends because I have to clear off the dance floor so some crazy single ladies can get up their and dive for a bouquet. Same with the garter toss. Who really enjoys watching a groom stick his head up his brides dress to pull off some piece of lingerie? And don't even get me started on the whole guy who caught the garter has to put it on the girl who caught the bouquet...how awkward, weird and embarrasing for everyone.

Peledreamsofrain · March 2013

It's perfectly fine to skip the toss, and most people don't miss it. We did it for our wedding because some family members mentioned they wanted to take photos of it (hobbiest photographers), and I had bought a specialty garter that I wanted to surprise my FI with.

I think as long as you keep the events classy and don't pressure people to participate, they aren't a big deal. But it's also not a big deal to skip them.

As a cute side-note. The guy who caught the garter, and the girl who caught the bouquette at our wedding are now engaged and marrying in Sept.

jldreikosen · March 2013

Thanks for all the posts! I was considering skipping these for our June wedding, and after reading all these comments, won't feel bad about it!

lgeadams · March 2013

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[QUOTE]I am considering skipping the bouquet toss at my wedding. This is my second wedding and most of the ladies who will be there are either already married or young girls. The reception is very short and I want to prioritize what all we do. We are definitely skipping the garter toss. Is it weird to skip the bouquet? Have any of y'all ever done that?
Posted by lindseymon[/QUOTE]

<font color="#339966">I hate it.. I'm not going to do that or the garder toss at my wedding. I think it's kind of a degrading tradition.</font>

millercr621 · March 2013

Yep, skipped them both. The single people I know were relieved. I've always found both tosses a bit obnoxious. I gave my bouquet to my maid of honor.

gpeeples · March 2013

I want to skip it too! But it seems to upset my maid of honor, who is hoping to get engaged soon. She didn't push it, since she knows it's my decision, but I told her I would throw her bouquet at her during the cocktail hour. Honestly, my biggest concern is that if I agree to do the bouquet toss at the reception, someone will convince me to do the garter thing, and I would be so completely embarrassed to have my husband take a garter off me in front of all my family.

JefferyandShan · March 2013

I know this sounds strange, but - We're planning on skipping the bouquet toss & instead I plan taking it to my grandma's grave after the ceremony.

1moreJohnson2be · March 2013

I say skip it! even if it's going to upset a member of your bridal party or guest. If they like it, they can do it at THEIR wedding, they aren't the bosses of YOURS. Think about the pressure that is going to put on these girls' boyfriends too! My man waited 6 years to pop the question and weddings of people who'd met in year 3 of our relationship made me sour enough. The bouquet toss would have us fighting the rest of the night. I will say though I LOVE LOVE LOVE the idea of a dance off for the bouquet. That sounds like WAY more fun!

julikam · March 2013

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[QUOTE]I know this sounds strange, but - We're planning on skipping the bouquet toss & instead I plan taking it to my grandma's grave after the ceremony.
Posted by JefferyandShan[/QUOTE]

I don't think this sounds strange. I think its a very nice thought. My grandmother passed away right after my fiance and I met and I wish she could have gotten to know him before she died. We are planning to skip both the bouquet and garter toss. Thank you for the lovely idea.

dianna0711 · March 2013

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[QUOTE]All of these comments were very helpful for me too! I am planning my wedding, and am feeling a little overwhelmed, and things like this are getting to me too even though they are just small details...
Posted by StephnRy0812[/QUOTE]

<div>I totally hear you. i'm still nailing down big stufflike the dj and flowers, but little things shoes and the bouquet toss keep distracting me!! I guess it's just the girl in us that wants to get into the details already!! Ha ha! Good luck planning! My brother lives out in Colorado, cool place</div>

jlitus · March 2013

Most of the women at our wedding were already married, so instead of tossing a traditional bouquet my MOH made a lottery ticket bouquet with scratch tickets and I tossed it for ALL of the women at the reception. Everyone really liked the idea and the lady that caught it won $60! We skipped the garter toss.

LondonBrideToBe2014 · March 2013

I say do what you want...It's your choice.
As for me...I won't be skipping it. I've got younger guests coming and personaly I feel it's just one of those fun things to do

captiva111 · March 2013

My son and daughter-in-law were married last April and they did not do the bouquet toss,
garter toss, "the bride cuts the cake" song, nor did the bridal party and parents enter the hall in a procession. I actually had to talk them into making an entry into the reception but they were glad they did that! At first I thought it was very strange but in the end I didn't miss any of that at all. In fact without it made the their wedding a very classy affair. So this is your wedding and you should do as you want to and not worry about what others will think!! In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_skipping-the-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:ebddbd7f-d978-450a-9f24-b2601c5d789aPost:b4c32f0b-4420-47d4-a729-c3d804854bbf">Skipping the bouquet toss?</a>:
[QUOTE]I am considering skipping the bouquet toss at my wedding. This is my second wedding and most of the ladies who will be there are either already married or young girls. The reception is very short and I want to prioritize what all we do. We are definitely skipping the garter toss. Is it weird to skip the bouquet? Have any of y'all ever done that?
Posted by lindseymon[/QUOTE]

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