Secret Mission

Carebear62584 · December 2011

My mom's cousin is having a little Christmas get together tomorrow night. My mom called me a few mins ago to ask me to go pick up my dad before we go there because she had a secret mission to go on. So I asked her what the secret mission is. She's going to look at rings with my brother so that he can propose on Christmas!!!!! My mom said he wants a girl's opinion so she is going with him tomorrow and if he needs my opinion I will go with him on Saturday morning. She said he may want to propose before Christmas, but honestly I would be happy if he proposed on Christmas morning because that's when FI proposed to me. It would be cool to have both of us engaged exactly 1 year apart on Christmas morning.

His girlfriend has had the itch for quite a while because all of her friends are older than her and are all getting married and having babies. But to be honest, she's only 22 and just graduated college so she is still young. They have been together for 3 years though. My brother has asked me not to talk about my wedding with her because she gets upset so I have stopped. It will be so fun to be able to help her plan their wedding!

My mom asked me not to say a word, not even to my dad or FI, but I had to spill it to FI, that's too big of a secret to keep! And of course I have to share it here!!!

kelsey+brandon · December 2011

That's so exciting! Hopefully he'll need your opinion too so you can go look with him! When my brother gets to that point, he better take me with him!

franklissa · December 2011

Oh how exciting! My fiance took his sister with him when he went to pick out my ring.

afmilner · December 2011

That is SO exciting!! I hope the proposal and everything goes well! Enjoy the time with your family, too

Shanee18 · December 2011

So exciting! My best friend will be getting engaged on Christmas eve according to her current boyfriend so I am super excited! Saw a picture of the ring and everything!

diamondx423 · December 2011

So exciting!!!

Megbo2012 · December 2011

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[QUOTE]My mom's cousin is having a little Christmas get together tomorrow night. My mom called me a few mins ago to ask me to go pick up my dad before we go there because she had a secret mission to go on. So I asked her what the secret mission is. She's going to look at rings with my brother so that he can propose on Christmas!!!!! My mom said he wants a girl's opinion so she is going with him tomorrow and if he needs my opinion I will go with him on Saturday morning. She said he may want to propose before Christmas, but honestly I would be happy if he proposed on Christmas morning because that's when FI proposed to me. It would be cool to have both of us engaged exactly 1 year apart on Christmas morning. His girlfriend has had the itch for quite a while because all of her friends are older than her and are all getting married and having babies. <strong>But to be honest, she's only 22 and just graduated college so she is still young.</strong> They have been together for 3 years though. My brother has asked me not to talk about my wedding with her because she gets upset so I have stopped. It will be so fun to be able to help her plan their wedding! My mom asked me not to say a word, not even to my dad or FI, but I had to spill it to FI, that's too big of a secret to keep! And of course I have to share it here!!!
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</div><div>Exciting!</div><div>
</div><div>But seriously? I know people who are in their late 20s who are less mature than I am. Age is but a number.

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niecie_jeff · December 2011

How exciting!!! Hopefully he will call you to go help him! How fun that would be for you

Let us know how it goes!!

kipnus · December 2011

That's so exciting! I've having a ton of fun wedding planning now with my sis and her FI!

sweet_melissa81 · December 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Secret Mission : Exciting! But seriously? I know people who are in their late 20s who are less mature than I am. Age is but a number.
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

While that may be true for some people it can be completely different for others. I am definitely not the same person at age 30 that I was at age 22 and it's not because I was immature.

I don't think she was implying that her brother's girlfriend is too young to be married, but that's she's young enough to not have to rush things or be envious of others who are getting married before her.

Nevertheless, congratulations!

MMRoberts11 · December 2011

That's exciting!

Carebear62584 · December 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Secret Mission : While that may be true for some people it can be completely different for others. I am definitely not the same person at age 30 that I was at age 22 and it's not because I was immature. <strong> I don't think she was implying that her brother's girlfriend is too young to be married, but that's she's young enough to not have to rush things or be envious of others who are getting married before her</strong>. Nevertheless, congratulations!
Posted by sweet_melissa81[/QUOTE]

Exactly. I'm not the same person at 22 than I am at 27. I'm not even the same person I was at 25 before I met FI. I was in her boat when I was about her age though. I was the only single girl out of my friends, they were all getting married and I was always the third wheel or the one left out so I definitely know how she feels. And I'm sure it doesn't help that they have been together longer than FI and I but when you know you know and everyone is in different spots in their lives. My brother is 2 years older than me and wasn't ready either, not financially, not mentally. I think he's in a good spot now.

I am so happy for them though!! And I'm happy to see that my brother finally moved on from his ex that up until about a year ago said he would get back with if he had the opportunity. I like this girl better than his ex anyway, much more personable.

doeie04 · December 2011

That is so exciting! I love to see people starting a new phase of their life for the better!

Zimsgirl · December 2011

Megbo I agree age is just a number. I'm getting married at 19. Like all of my friends and people we've gone to HS with told us they love "creeping" on us and FB because they can see how in love we are. One of my bm's said she was talking to her bf and they were both saying how they couldn't see either of us marrying anyone else and we're completely meant for each other.

OP Congrats on everything. Honestly, I'd be ticked if my brother told me to stop talking about my wedding because it upsets his gf I think that's kind of rude and selfish. You're obviously going to and need to talk to family about it but I digress

Megbo2012 · December 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Secret Mission : Exactly. <strong> I'm not the same person at 22 than I am at 27. I'm not even the same person I was at 25 before I met FI. </strong> I was in her boat when I was about her age though. I was the only single girl out of my friends, they were all getting married and I was always the third wheel or the one left out so I definitely know how she feels. And I'm sure it doesn't help that they have been together longer than FI and I but when you know you know and <strong>everyone is in different spots in their lives. </strong> My brother is 2 years older than me and wasn't ready either, not financially, not mentally. I think he's in a good spot now. I am so happy for them though!! And I'm happy to see that my brother finally moved on from his ex that up until about a year ago said he would get back with if he had the opportunity. I like this girl better than his ex anyway, much more personable.
Posted by Carebear62584[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Of course you aren't. You had years of experiences and events occur in your life that changed you. Just like you did while dating your FI, and will continue to do for the rest of your life.</div><div>
</div><div>You kind of contradict yourself in that last sentence I bolded.

</div><div><div>And I'm sorry, I didn't realize that all 22 year olds were the same and had to be placed into one category...You seem kind of condescending right now, that no one in their early 20's could possibly be ready to get married, because you looked back and decide you weren't at that age. Because you had experiences between now and then that changed you. You are assuming she wants to get married because everyone else is, and whether or not it's true I don't think it's right for you to judge her reasoning for wanting to get married, and then tack "oh and she's 22" on the end.</div></div><div>
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mrspatnou · December 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Secret Mission : Exciting! But seriously? I know people who are in their late 20s who are less mature than I am. Age is but a number.
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

Very True! My FI sister and I are 9 months apart (I am older) and the maturity level is worlds apart! She still acts like a teenager and she is 23!

Carebear62584 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_secret-mission?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:1db20c0a-e3be-453c-8ea8-166a379d5248Post:a00726c9-3adf-4be2-b22b-1fde94f600b6">Re: Secret Mission</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Secret Mission : Of course you aren't. You had years of experiences and events occur in your life that changed you. Just like you did while dating your FI, and will continue to do for the rest of your life. You kind of contradict yourself in that last sentence I bolded. And I'm sorry, I didn't realize that all 22 year olds were the same and had to be placed into one category...You seem kind of condescending right now, that no one in their early 20's could possibly be ready to get married, because you looked back and decide you weren't at that age. Because you had experiences between now and then that changed you. You are assuming she wants to get married because everyone else is, and whether or not it's true I don't think it's right for you to judge her reasoning for wanting to get married, and then tack "oh and she's 22" on the end.
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

Wow, you are taking this age thing little too far. I said it more than once....I'm happy for them, bottom line. If her age really bothered me, do you think I would be happy for them?? I agree that age is a number, but I will say that when everyone around you is getting married and having kids you kind of catch the fever. I know she wants to marry my brother and I know he wants to marry her. The age wasn't the point of my original post so no need for some of you to get defensive.

Also wanted to share that I talked to my brother this morning and we are meeting him at the jewelry store so I'll get to see it! He should be calling me any minute to tell me to leave my house :)

jaime10285 · December 2011

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