Self explanatory title. Sorry the post is so long!!
My boyfriend and I have been friends for a few years, and began dating in November. In March, I found out his mother didn't like me. I had only met her 3 or so times briefly, so I had no idea why she'd hate me. She couldn't give any real reasons when my boyfriend confronted her about it, and finally after a good bit of time talking to him about it, she agreed that she truly knows nothing about me and had no reason to hate me. We thought everything was fine until this weekend.
We went to my boyfriend's hometown for a wedding that he was in. I rode with his parents to the wedding and sat with them. His mother was just fine.. complimented my dress, chatted with me at the wedding, etc. Once at the reception, she stopped speaking to me much. When my boyfriend arrived after taking photos, she started really baby-ing him and didn't speak to me at all. She'd make him plates of food when he and I had planned on getting up and getting more food to share, but she wouldn't even offer anything for me. He was just as weirded out by it as well.. though I get the feeling she is often like this.
Anyway, the next day on the way to their house, we were chatting in the car. I'm not sure what was said wrong or what happened, but she went into her room once we got back to her house and didn't come out the rest of the time. She didn't even come out to say goodbye. She literally locked herself in her room to not see me. All I can think of is that in the car, she was being ugly about the wedding (it was a millionaire that his friend married so the wedding was amazing) and she said that the last part where we threw the rose petals was "so freaking stupid".. to which I said something along the lines of "Oh you haven't seen that before? At some weddings, peopel throw rice or petals or bubbles to the bride and groom as they leave".. I said it in a very informative, non-rude way.. assuming she had never seen it or something. This is all I can think of that sent her locking herself in her room.
My boyfriend called her that night and they ended up fighting and hanging up on one another. She absolutely hates me, said I'm not right for him, said I'm with him for the wrong reasons.. and the only real reason she could give for hating me was that I lived with my ex boyfriend. I have no idea why that's a reason to hate someone, but it's all we've gotten out of her. She said he should find someone different. My boyfriend is 30 years old.. he isn't exactly going to stumble upon a ton of amazing girls his age with no ex's. That's just ridiculous.
A little background: My boyfriend has quite the "wild" past with females, and she has NO IDEA. When he and I were friends, he did some shocking stuff and was very much the player. I obviously chose to look past that and accept that it's in the past. If anything, I'm a great match for him because I know about his past (he doesn't have to hide anything from me) and I love him regardless. Because she doens't know his past, she thinks me living with my ex boyfriend makes me a horrible person.
This is getting way too long, but basically I am just seeking some advice or kind words or someone in a similar situation. My boyfriend is taking my side and refuses to cave into her.. nor will he drop it. But at the same time, he is very close with his parents and isn't going to just stop speaking to her (not like I'd ever expect him to). He is starting another 2-3 years at school out of town 3-4 days a week, and he told me if when he's finished with that, we're ready to take the next step (marriage) and she still hates me, it will be her own problem to deal with on her own. But right now, I just have no idea what to do. Being unable to be a part of his life when he is with family is devastating.