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  • kkroppkkropp member
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    I don't think anyone expected "rainbows and puppies"... She posted her opinion and was attacked harshly.. It was unnecessary. It's ok for people to disagree but they don't have to be so gosh darn mean about it!! :)

     But going back and reading previous posts it is obviously the norm around here.... Internet bullying!! Hilarious!!
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  • bluebunnehbluebunneh member
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    edited May 2010
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_very-upset-im-being-treated-this-forum?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:5eb04425-20a9-4cc7-b3e2-5516502a08baPost:ea909b99-9d75-4cf5-8016-ebc0f842033f">Re: Very upset by how I'm being treated on this forum...</a>:
    [QUOTE]It's ok for people to disagree but they don't have to be so gosh darn mean about it!! :)
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    That's <em>exactly</em> what I'm trying to say Kkropp. : )  people don't have to be mean when correcting or disagreeing with someone.
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  • aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    Making a "woe is me, I hate you all!" post isn't going to make anyone be any nicer to you.
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  • kkroppkkropp member
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    You're absolutely right... No one will be nicer... She just had to get it out of her system... That's all!! :)
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  • loritajeanloritajean member
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    I saw your posts this morning (left you a comment on there as well, which you kindly responded to).

    I agree. If people disagree that's fine! but all they had to say was that they had heard bad things about the pill, and maybe it wasn't a good idea. Or give you other helpful suggestions.

    I was also surprised by the outright mean comments, and I'm not sure where the animosity is coming from.

    had you been advocating starving yourself or something extremely unhealthy, I'd understand their frustration, but that wasn't really the case with your post. (just a pill, light exercise, and a healthier diet, apparently)

    Who knows? Don't let it get to you, girl. :)
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  • jedanieljedaniel
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    This is crazy. Who cares, this is a chat room. We all have lifes and jobs and are about to be married. When I get off this webiste I dont even thnk about any of these women or any of the snarky stuff they say. I take the advice they give if I like it and if not I just ignore it. No big deal.
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  • luckyme502luckyme502 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_very-upset-im-being-treated-this-forum?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:5eb04425-20a9-4cc7-b3e2-5516502a08baPost:830f3507-d3fb-4d5f-8a85-11e65ae55359">Re: Very upset by how I'm being treated on this forum...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Very upset by how I'm being treated on this forum... : I have the right post my advice and people can choose to listen to it or not - or nicely tell me that it is unhealthy. I had no idea until now that so many women were against diet pills. And just because I may have bad advice about getting in shape, I may have GREAT advice for other things. And yes the comments made were extremely rude. You don't consider being called "what's wrong with the American population" rude?
    Posted by bluebunneh[/QUOTE]

    You do have the right to post your opinion and people have the right to tell you it is unhealthy, they even have the right to do it not so nicely. 
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  • kristi-jikristi-ji
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    I have to agree - there is a great deal of negative energy that prevades and threatens to consume these forums. Often, I've posted information asking for suggestions and advice to be confronted with rude, aggressiive, and somewhat voilent responses. It's a shame. In these forums, I reach out to others for advice, inspiration, hope, and collective criticism. What I've received has been anything but - shame, disappointment, and humiliation. I might not be a "skilled" bridal veteran, but I am still a human being who deserves respect! I've been very disappointed with these forums thus far and I feel that many of the modiators and brides who spend their free time chasing these forums need to open their minds and hearts to those around them. We are all in this together ladies! Good advice or bad, we wouldn't be having this conversation if something didn't need to change!
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  • bhutton2699bhutton2699 member
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    I know I am most likely going to be crucified for this but oh well...I am very new to this but, I have noticed that the majority of the "rude, know it all posters" (not all of them) are the women with like 8,000 posts! come on is this all you do during the day? women are coming on here for advice and are hoping to be greeted with open arms by others that can help. Instead they are treated like they are stupid... Now if you post a question on here you are admitting that you DO NOT KNOW THE ANSWER, so what's with the hostility? If you have some GOOD input JUST ANSWER THE QUESTION! I came on here looking for some fun wedding planning "chit chat" and it seems like I just fell back into high school...
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  • HisMegs878HisMegs878
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    I had another screen name right after I got engaged and I was full of ideas and excitement (and naturally I am a planner and want to start things right away). I was insulted and called names amongst other things because I posted TMI (and it wasn’t TMI and it was relevant to my wedding planning) in my introduction message. After a week of getting no help with wedding planning (I was told to stop planning and just enjoy being engaged) I stopped coming to the knot. However, I needed planning help and so I created a new screen name (tsk tsk tsk I know) and here I am. It does seem there are a lot of brides with b*tchy personalities or brides who happen to be in a mood and do take it out on some posters (not always but sometimes) and the newbies seem to get it the most because we do ask a lot of question, we are not familiar with the boards to search previous threads), and we make a ton of posts back to back without getting to know people first.

    I think once you stick around a while (and yes it is a surprise people do stick around sometime) and get to know everyone things are a little easier.

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