I've been engaged for a year now and i've already chosen my bridal party, but over the past year i've been engaged my Best friend since 2nd grade who has been titled my MOH hasn't really been there for me, Her reaction to my engagement was "Oh wow...." and no congrats. and she "ditched" my dress shopping day, and her excuse was she felt I was moving to fast with the finding a dress. meanwhile i've been contemplating asking my a friend at work who has been more interested in my wedding and planning it with me than my own "best friend" to be in it. and then about a month or two ago, after I finally got my BF to go with my Fiance my mother and my MIL to a taste testing, she tells my parents she doesn't know if she even wants to stand up for my wedding and doesn't like the man I'm marrying. After heAring that, I just had it with her. we stopped talking and I proceeded to ask my friend from work to be in the wedding and to be the maid of honor. well.... My bf and I have talked things out and she still says she will be there for me but she won't settle for being just a bridesmaid so now i decided to tell both my bf and friend from work that I do not want any titles, to me there is no "maid of honor" so I don't hurt anyones feelings and that is how I now sorta feel about my whole bridal situation but now my parents, fiance and my fiances family has ill feelings towards my "BF" and I have yet to tell my fiances parents i've accepted my bf back in the wedding, I just want them to understand I don't want to regret NOT having my bf of 14 years not be in it, but I still don't have faith that she can have that excitment for me so I don't believe in the "title" of a maid of honor. It's like this whole wedding planning has been more about my friend than marrying the man I love, But I keep telling myself in the end The only thing that matters is Him, I and the futire we are creating basically I need input.. Was I wrong for feeling like I couldn't count on my BF and kicking her out? Should I stand up for her and the fact that I do want her in the wedding still even though everyone around me thinks kicking her out was the best decision? Do I have to have a "Maid of Honor?" If my friends don't understand where I'm coming from with choosing not to have the title then do they really support me or is it really about them in thier mind? HEEELLLLPPPP PLEEASSSEEE!?