anyone get weirded out by their future last name?

forrma7 · June 2010

i am so happy to be taking my FI's last name, but every time i say 'mrs. lastname" in my head, i immediately think of his mom, not me!

i got to thinking about this b/c i was looking at those personalized wedding dress hangers. anyone else having this particular syndrome?

GreenPepperBurger · June 2010

When we get married, my BF and I plan on taking his stepfather's last name (the man who raised him, not his biological father, who essentially was just a sperm donor). But the problem is, my first initial combined with that last name makes for a name that will surely be mocked. So I have to hyphenate my maiden name and the new one. It's going to be such a bitch to sign my name.

jedaniel · June 2010

My FI has kind of a goofy sounding last name. So i'm not super excited about it, but i'll be happy to be his wife so I can put up with it.

BecW2be · June 2010

It didn't strike me as odd until I was called Mrs. W. I kind of looked around for his mother for a second before I realized someone was talking to me!

M&R7111 · June 2010

I never had any intention on taking anyone's last name, even as a little girl. So that weirds everyone else out (AKA his family) - which sucks. So I'm totally weirded out about the possibility of having any other name by what I have now.

megk8oz · June 2010

DH's dad has 2 brothers, all of them are married. DH's one uncle has been divorced once, and DH's dad has been divorced twice. The ex-wives (Including DH's mother) all opted to keep the last name. And the current wives all took the name. So there are many "Mrs. DH's Last Name"s running around, lol.

I'm not going to lie, the idea of taking his name wasn't "weird" to me ... I always wanted to take my husband's last name (And DH has a nice one to boot, imo, lol), and I really don't read too much into the whole "That's his mother's name" thing.

But now, whenever I introduce myself as "Meg DH's Last Name", I have to actually think about it before I say it, like "Wait ... ok, yeah, that is my last name now". I'm hoping that goes away soon, hahaha.

missy68 · June 2010

I'm the only one Mrs. hislastname there is. His mom is deceased, as are his grandmothers. His aunt has a different last name, and his sister took back her 1st ex's last name so she and her son would have the same last name. Her new husband took her name, too.

The only other person who has his last name is his loser "father."

psichick · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_anyone-weirded-out-their-future-last-name?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:eb5a3f02-30b9-46a3-b511-24435298da3fPost:b79dc914-0082-4ead-b12c-64ece7d67e7b">Re: anyone get weirded out by their future last name?</a>:
[QUOTE]When we get married, my BF and I plan on taking his stepfather's last name (the man who raised him, not his biological father, who essentially was just a sperm donor). But the problem is, my first initial combined with that last name makes for a name that will surely be mocked. So I have to hyphenate my maiden name and the new one. It's going to be such a bitch to sign my name.
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

<div>what initial combination would possibly be that bad that you are going to hyphenate your name just to avoid? that seems silly to me honestly. </div><div>
</div><div>i've been called mrs. FI before and it is kinda weird, but whatever. his mom is making a big deal about it since i'll be the first to have the last name since she took it. i never really thought about it before we got engaged, i just assumed i would take his name since it's custom. i'm starting to think about what a pain it's going to be at work though, but whatever. </div>

ChanelShades · June 2010

Ugh I don't know if I am "weirded" out. I am just going to miss MY last name. It is a unique and rare last name that not to many people have. (I have only met one other individual that had the last name--- that wasn't related to me of course.) Ugh and his name is so blah. I really have never thought about the fact that both his mother and myself would have the same last name. Now I am just disgusted

karmellah · June 2010

i cannot wiat. we both have bland last names, but my initals will be KBB now. our friends call me KB anyways, so i guess its fitting

angel2210 · June 2010

I wasn't weirded out until one day after his grandma passed and we were talking about his mom is now Grandma Lastname. Then he was like "hey! One day YOU'LL be Grandma Lastname!" I was weirded out on a couple levels for that one.

forrma7 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_anyone-weirded-out-their-future-last-name?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:eb5a3f02-30b9-46a3-b511-24435298da3fPost:bf7bf36f-5658-40ce-a357-dd1e66d7f838">Re: anyone get weirded out by their future last name?</a>:
[QUOTE]Ugh I don't know if I am "weirded" out. I am just going to miss MY last name. It is a unique and rare last name that not to many people have. (I have only met one other individual that had the last name--- that wasn't related to me of course.) Ugh and his name is so blah. I really have never thought about the fact that both his mother and myself would have the same last name. Now I am just disgusted :)
Posted by ChanelShades[/QUOTE]

<div>haha, oh no! i'm sorry i pointed it out to you!</div><div>
</div><div>my last name is also really really unique, but his is also, so i'm happy. it also flows really well with my first name, so i'm excited. i was just pointing out how i know mrs. lastname as his mom, and it'll be weird and hard to get used to when i become it!</div>

gottahavashorti · June 2010

I've always called his moms Mrs. HisLast so I'm not a huge fan of being called just Mrs. HisLast, which everyone we know seems to be getting a kick out of calling me right now. I'm excited for it to die down.

Deciding whether change my name to First Middle Married or First Maiden Married was a huge problem for me. The only descendent of my great-grandparents in my generation with my maiden name is my sister. The compromise is that if we have a son he'll have my maiden name as his middle name - it won't work for a girl.

I would have preferred to keep my name and not be Mrs. Gotta HisLast, but it was important to me that the entire family have the same last name whenever we decide to have kids. It made more sense to change my name now instead of waiting until there's a kid on the way.

gemmalouise85 · June 2010

I cant wait to take his name however, when I say it in my head it doesnt feel real.

I keep thinking that I will never been known as the person I am now (if that makes sense />!) and that kinda weirds me out a little. Its like I wont exist anymore.

Also, my initials will be GG so everytime I tell people what my name will be and they work out the intitials they say 'as in the horse?'. I feel like saying 'no you wally, as in my name.'

Whippet8 · June 2010

At first, when DH and I were dating, I was horrified of taking his last name because its a pretty weird last name..but at the same time its really famous/popular.

I was also having a really hard time letting go of my maiden name because it showed a lot about me.

however, I now LOVE my new last name, and although it still sounds weird when I say it, it's freakin awesome.

Once, I was teaching a class, and I told the students my name, and one goes, " your last name is ***? That's so cool!"

So, I guess I lucked out.

baystateapple · June 2010

I actually love it. My last name is the same as a relatively well-known singer, so people are always asking, "Hey, are you related to (name)? Hahahahaha." Which stopped being funny in, oh, the 90's.

Plus FI's name is shorter and easier to spell than mine. Added bonus.

[Deleted User] · June 2010

Considering my FI has a horrible last name - not looking forward to that! Haha. Not to pat myself on the back but I have a pretty last name (it's the same as a flower) and dont look forward from something pretty to something harsh and 10 letters long =/

Actually just recently I felt like I was losing my identity. MB will no longer exist, ya know? As much as it freaked me out I know why I'm taking it and try to shrug it off.

By the way, funny side note:
His mother, brother and I will all be MF. That freaked HIM out! haha.

LMM67285 · June 2010

*gemmalouise85 I totally agree - for me it's like a mini identity crisis to not be known as I always have been. Although I've never been entirely fond of my last name as it is SUPER common (I bet you could all guess it within 2 tries or so), it's weird to no longer be the person identified with it. Does that make sense...?

Overall I'm excited to take my FI's last name, but it is very long and very Irish and I worry we'll struggle pick names for our future children that sound ok! Thankfully, his mom never really went by Mrs. HisLast, just her first name; that's what I plan on doing as well. "Mrs." makes me feel old...

Ishaba11 · June 2010

I have always called his mom "Ma" or her first name. I've never called her Mrs. his last name. But I'm sure when I have the same last name, I will be thinking that people will be talking to her and not me. His sisters all have their married names so the only other chance of a Mrs. his last name is when (or if) his brother gets married.

I am definitely going to miss my last name. I'm going from an italian last name to a german one. I'm definitely going to miss the vowel at the end of my name. lol It's also going to be weird to sign something besides my last name. It's been my name for 26 years, it's going to be really weird when I have to think before I sign something.

But I'm proud of take his name and plus he's a police officer so having his last name might get me out of tickets if I get pulled over lol

MISSCOURTNEY20 · June 2010

I am so not looking forward to having his last name. It sounds sooo funny to me. I am going to hyphenate my last name so that I still have the same last name as my children though. The hilarious part will be coming back to school after we get married in November. For the beginning of the year, I will be Ms. mylastname and then when I come back I will be Mrs. mylastname-hislastname. Waay too much!

KatyRoseM · June 2010

I am changing mine, and it doesn't bother me that its his mothers name, mostly because everyone calls her by her first name. I think the name is a little bland though, so I'm keeping mine as a middle name

AmandalovesAl · June 2010

i will be the only "Mrs. FI" too as his biological father is long gone and his mother remarried. It is strange though to all of the sudden have a totally different name than you have had your whole life, but I know how important it is for him, and I never liked my last name anyway (until I got engaged!)

tldh · June 2010

We're getting married this September but travel a good bit. Whenever we check into a hotel or make dinner reservations, etc., I'm addressed as Mrs. His Last Name. I actually like it.

Birdie1483 · June 2010

The only thing weird to me is that my middle name will rhyme with his last name and together they rhyme with "gangrene" . I thought about keeping my maiden name as my middle name, but my true middle name is a family name and means a lot to me. So Mrs. Gangrene it is.

CurlyKaty · June 2010

his last name is very unusual (particularly the spelling of it) and it wierded me out more when I met him than it does now. The hard part for me is he has a sister with the same first name as me (she is Katie...Im Katy) so I might have to start going by Kate

arthomas82 · June 2010

I cant wait to change mine!

OpalineTowers · June 2010

I'm definitely changing mine. It roles off my tounge just as well as my name now, and I've honestly been thinking about it for years, so I don't think it'll be too strange.

M1ssJ · June 2010

Im definetley on the hyphen ball. His last name is really common and I really dont like it. My maiden name is actually already hyphenated and I hate to give it up so I'll only be taking his name informally not legally.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_anyone-weirded-out-their-future-last-name?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:eb5a3f02-30b9-46a3-b511-24435298da3fPost:801599e4-3765-4241-9485-0e8fb333a78d">Re: anyone get weirded out by their future last name?</a>:
[QUOTE]I never had any intention on taking anyone's last name, even as a little girl. So that weirds everyone else out (AKA his family) - which sucks. So I'm totally weirded out about the possibility of having any other name by what I have now.
Posted by M&R7111[/QUOTE]

Same here! I've tried saying it and it's just weird. And not me. And makes me sad. So I've never doing it!

His name is way simpler than mine, though - 4 letters vs. 9 letters.

JeFlanigan · June 2010

We have two kids who have hyphanted names, but go by his name... so for doctors, teachers etc I'm already Mrs. Z (despite what the paper work says) I haven't even decided if I'm taking his name.

In Response to Re: anyone get weirded out by their future last name?:
[QUOTE]I wasn't weirded out until one day after his grandma passed and we were talking about his mom is now Grandma Lastname. Then he was like "hey! One day YOU'LL be Grandma Lastname!" I was weirded out on a couple levels for that one.
Posted by angel2210[/QUOTE]

I'm Irish, and Fi's mother is Irish and Fi's grandmother was Irish but all the men are (at least part) Greek. The Grandma went by Yiayia... but it was super weird when his mom (who's called Amma (b/c my kids cant say grandma) looked at me and said "You'll be the next Yiayai!" I was simultaneously petrified and honored.

spinner84 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_anyone-weirded-out-their-future-last-name?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:eb5a3f02-30b9-46a3-b511-24435298da3fPost:c0264b6f-4799-4ee8-907f-5b55557bb4c1">Re: anyone get weirded out by their future last name?</a>:
[QUOTE]I am so not looking forward to having his last name. It sounds sooo funny to me. I am going to hyphenate my last name so that I still have the same last name as my children though. The hilarious part will be coming back to school after we get married in November. For the beginning of the year, I will be Ms. mylastname and then when I come back I will be Mrs. mylastname-hislastname. Waay too much!
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]
Why not hyphenate the kids' names, not yours, if you don't want his name?

My husband's last name is fine, but I think the practice of changing names is incredibly sexist and outdated. I underdstand that other people like it, but I get very offended when people defend it by saying it's because they love their fiance so much. My fiance loves me too, but he's not changing his name, so why would I?

(My last name is short, 1 syllable, and very rare - I've never met anyone else with it who is not in my family, but even if it were terrible, I would never ever change it.)

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