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has anyone boycotted the holidays?
if so, how? i want to learn.
i want to opt out of the hassle and obligation, and be left alone guilt-free.
i want to opt out of the hassle and obligation, and be left alone guilt-free.
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Re: has anyone boycotted the holidays?
Not that I want to boycott the holidays, I love the food and booze and socializing.
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i prefer sayer of bah humbug.
salt - that's just it. a fuucking hassle. and there's no way out of the vortex. please someone show me the way.
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It's also easier since all of Dh's family went to Michigan to see bil's family, so we're going to my parents without any fussing from his side.
Christmas on the hand...is going to be drama...which I'm hoping to avoid by moving into a new house *hint hint come on world*
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my veins hurt.
Then I moved to the other hemisphere, so sorry Rach, it's aMRs FTW ;-)
This Christmas will be in France, totally different continent from either family (again FTW) and once we are back in OZ, we'll be on the opposite sided of the country from ILs
No one likes it, but they damn well better respect it- especially your husband. I remember you talking abou thtis before, and I'm sorry that you have such a difficult time around the holidays. Put your husband out the door, and celebrate the way that you feel is best- even if that means not celebrating at all.
I love the Holidays then again I have no house to worry about hosting in and now BSC family to contend with (except T's sister, but thats year round)
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If anyone tries to give you grief, just cut them off and say that you're sorry they're upset, but you need to deal with this in a way that is best for you. End of story.
I know it's not really that easy, but I think just presenting a strong front on this is going to work better for you than crying or throwing fits (not that you would, but I'm using examples). I'd say that family would put more pressure on you to be with them if they felt you were "unstable" just so they could try to help.
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Daff how long have you been married? Are your siblings also going to your dads? Are they married?
Just checking to see if the house will still be full regardless ofyour attendance, or if dad will be all alone.
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Haven't you been cleaning for like, 5 hours??
Hm, well, in that situation Jill, I'd say you're kind of stuck. I know you want to back out now, but I can't see that's the best thing to do. :(
we've been married since may 08. i know my sister will be there, because she lives in the same area as my dad. i don't think my brother will, they're going to see him at xmas i think.
We live 1400 miles from all of our families (we're from the same general area) so it's been pretty easy to do. We just refuse to come home during holidays and don't let anyone come here. Going home is a pain in the @ss because we just have to go from house to house to house and everyone whines about not getting enough time with us. Thanks, but we're not paying hundreds for airfare for that kind of fun. And letting people come here during them would just open up the floodgates so we resist.
Last Christmas Day, we openined presents then went hiking all morning and afternoon. We then came home and made dinner for just the two of us then killed a bottle of wine watching Oceans Eleven. Hassle free and fun. This Thanksgiving, Mr Eastunder and I are taking a drive up into the mountians during the day then having dinner at a fancy French resturaunt in town.
We enjoy the holidays to ourselves then go "home" other times of the year instead that arent rife with expectation and demands. Its seriously one of the best things we're ever done for ourselves. No fights, no stress, no family tug of war. WIN.
"Whatever East. You're just mad I RSVP'd "lame" to your pre-wedding sleepover."
"Whatever East. You're just mad I RSVP'd "lame" to your pre-wedding sleepover."
I'm really no help on this one since I consider T'Day to just be a day off of work.
I am not a big holiday person either jill.
So here are my two real life solutions:
Marry a Jehovah Witness
rent porn all day alone on xmas (did this in college)
But..if you had a good relationship with dad...go to him. It sucks when you want to be alone, but it will help you both. I
I do admit I get sad every now and then not seeing everyone.