unincluding a bridesmaid?

SHOESHPER · July 2010

Simply Fated · July 2010

You still have some time to go before you have to make a final decision. In my opinion, it will come down to whether or not you want to continue a friendship with her after this.
Keep in mind, you know this is the type of friend you go through phases with... is this the type of friend who you won't be going through a 'phase' with when your wedding rolls around?

frenchy730 · July 2010

You technically should never ever un-ask someone to be in your wedding party. Just keep sending her the same information about what she needs to get done in terms of dresses and all that, and see if she gets it done. If she doesn't order the dress and doesn't make an effort to discuss it with you, it's probably safe to assume that she's removed herself. And if she does do it great!

andy71781 · July 2010

Its not a good idea - especially since you two will probably get back together eventually. This would ruin the friendship.

beatlesgirl25 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I have been very good friends with the same person since childhood. We have the type of friendship where we go through phases being very close & then others where we don't talk for weeks at a time. Even when we don't talk, we always come back together like no time was lost. I asked her to be a bridesmaid & now we haven't talked in over 2 months! I have tried calling,emailing, texting, but never get a response. I have even resorted to facebook. Is it OK/is there a nice way to uninclude her as a bridesmaid? I want her at my wedding, but if she can't even be there to call me back & I fear so will not be available for wedding activities.
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lharri12 · July 2010

Sigh. No, don't kick her out unless you want to totally cut ties with her. She has plenty of time to get done what she needs to get done to be a BM (buy the dress).

Mrs.B6302007 · July 2010

Based on the poll choices you included, I think you already know the answer.

zitiqueen · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unincluding-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4e309a44-ec7a-44de-9b08-1d903b66394cPost:7a59aa3e-3d87-42e7-b1a6-1efecd035db6">unincluding a bridesmaid?</a>:
[QUOTE]I have been very good friends with the same person since childhood. We have the type of friendship where we go through phases being very close & then others where we don't talk for weeks at a time. Even when we don't talk, we always come back together like no time was lost. I asked her to be a bridesmaid & now we haven't talked in over 2 months! I have tried calling,emailing, texting, but never get a response. I have even resorted to facebook. Is it OK/is there a nice way to uninclude her as a bridesmaid? I want her at my wedding, but if she can't even be there to call me back &<strong> I fear so will not be available for wedding activities.
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Which wedding activity besides the wedding itself do you think she "needs" to be available for?

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