Well, the BP problems started off a month ago when I gently reminded all my BMs that they needed to get dress orders in ASAP. Only one had ordered hers at that point. In response to the nudge, one of my BMs decided to drop out because she didn't want to take time off work. Let's just say that did not go over well on our friendship.
Luckily the other BMs that were taking their sweet time did get their dresses ordered (one on the very last day possible!) and now have them in their possession and all further drama was removed.
Today was the deadline for fitting for the GM tuxes. They've known they'd need a tux since we first asked them and we warned them that tux rental prices have gone way up in recent years (they're double what they were the last time I looked at them 6 years ago) and gave them an estimated cost to make sure they were ok with it before confirming that they'd accept being a GM. We gave them the date, the deposit amount and the rental price three weeks ago. Two of them went the next day, a third went last week. FI got a call from Men's Wearhouse today to let him know that two of them still hadn't come in for their fittings. FI then texted both friends, one said he just hadn't had a chance yet and should still be able to get it even though he'll have to pay a rush fee. The other said he can't afford the rental so he's not sure what he's doing.
Seriously. It's 2 weeks before the wedding. We asked you to be a GM almost a year ago and you knew up front what the cost was. When we gave you the definite rental information almost a month ago, you couldn't have told us then? A month ago, we might have been able to help out, but not 2 weeks before when our budget is stretched to the snapping point.
At this point I'm ready to throw up my hands and say forget him. I hate to do that cause he's such a good guy and I really want him in the BP but since he wanted until the last minute, what else am I supposed to do? I guess on the up side, if he does back out it'll even up the sides again....